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Alright - I have to say this now. And I apologize if I sound like I am preaching. I am not. But what to do, I want to be hopeful that what i am about to say, is true.Love is not an illusion. The idea that it is easy is. It is not easy. It is hard work, very hard work some days. It works for people who keep their hearts and their minds in sync. and alert. There are horrible days. Those days, you work through it by talking, sharing, sometimes by silence. When things are better, you celebrate. You work at it - every day, through the smiles, the angry words, the tears. You start by being a good human being, by being a good friend, by just being patient. You may have different ideas of how to spend an evening, of what movies you want watch but you bond on the big things - the morals that guide life - how socially conscious you are, what you want for your children, how you want to make a difference, what kind of a son/daughter/sister/brother you want to beYes, it is no fairy tale and there really is no happily ever after. But if you try hard enough you will have have more happiness than anything else. That is what happily ever after means anyway - that on an average the present and the future holds more smiles than tears, more joy than sorrow.
Thank you Meera for sharing what you felt at heart and it is indeed positive ray of hope. My comment on NB story - especially Khushi's thought of love being an illusion - touched a chord, because I had felt that exact feeling, that powerful impact of what Khushi felt that moment once. But now I know love is something else..like you mentioned..you got to work for your happiness...like Anjali is doing here...both the partners have to work for it each day..
And the way you wrote down your thoughts - hard work, very hard work some days...through smiles, angry words, tears...patience...wanting to make a difference--- reminded of my PhD days...my researching days...my present...each day is a battle and the will power to stand and deal..is what leading to my success...its the thought that no matter how many mistakes you makes or how slow the progress is, the feeling that you are still ahead of everyone who isnt trying...is what matters...the will to try...the will to make it work...the will to succeed...the will to be happy...its all invested in us...we need to work for it...
