What guys should do to drunk girls. - Page 39

Originally posted by: nkapoor01

If a girl has alcohol that does not mean she is asking for sex! Gosh!

Originally posted by: ChuglkhorBander

but if a girl has sex does it mean she is asking for alcohol?
what kind of drink she prefers? what if it is dry day?

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

In South Asian society and many other conservative societies, men do not receive the sex education they deserve to avoid rape. If you read my prior post, I am not blaming men alone. Society is responsible for perpetrating rape culture. That includes mothers, sisters, friends and wives who turn a blind eye towards things men do and never think to correct them. Worse women who even encourage them.

Some problems perpetuating rape culture in our society are as follows
- Since dating is common in western society all boys and girls get 'the talk' from their parents and teachers. It is not just about safe sex and safety, but about respect, treating people right and not doing stupid things. Indian kids are never educated in such matters by their parents and teachers. This means that people grow up believing myths and misinformation.
- A respectable woman is expected to behave in a certain way. If a girl wears short clothes, dates, has male friends, goes out to clubs, drinks, smokes etc she is a loose woman with no morals. Women themselves perpetuate this by looking down on other women who are more liberated. This makes men believe that liberal women are loose and they can do anything to them.
- In western society no means no, and a girl can get a restraining order easily if she experiences too many unwanted advances. In India stalking and pleading about love is mistakenly passed on as romantic. Movie heroes woo women even after they say no several times. Men are led to assume myths that if they truly love someone and try hard she will eventually say yes. Chasing and stalking is romanticized and ceasing being a heinous crime that it should be.
- Eve teasing and some forms of sexual harassment is laughed off and dismissed as boys will be boys. Parents will laugh it off and tell girls not to provoke guys. Cops dismiss it saying its a social fact and women should dress and behave to avoid eve teasing.
- Society is still male dominant and patriarchal where a woman loses more in rape than the rapist. We still live in a society where a raped woman is considered damaged goods. A raped woman is robbed of her virtue and chastity. Men still dream of coy virginal women to be their brides. Even if men are progressive many in their family want the perfect virginal Indian bride. A raped women is not embraced by society as much. A rapist on the other hand doesn't have to worry much about repercussions other than criminal charges. It is very rare that he will be caught because women are afraid to report. Even if she reports, prosecuting is such an ordeal in India that he may go free. She will be shamed throughout the process asking her whey she behaved. No one will hound the rapist about his amoral behavior, his criminal tendency or his lack of virtue and chastity. If he gets free society will embrace him again. Unlike western society he doesn't have to live with any major sex offender stigma. In some parts convicted rapists still get married and have families because men are less vulnerable to stigma. Heck in some parts rapists get away by offering to marry their victim. Some target women who said no, to show that they can get what they want.
- Finally, it is one thing to say don't rape. One needs to know what rape is before that. Unfortunately, the only definition of rape tends to be the shocking, blatant and brutal rape. However, rape isn't always brutal. Any act without consent can be rape or harassment. No one is teaching men that their coercion and emotional pressure is unwarranted. No one is teaching men that just because the girl is dating you or hanging out with you, she is ready for sex. No one is teaching men don't mix alcohol and pleasure. No one is teaching men make out sessions can be just that and should not always escalate to sex. No one is teaching men that you cannot demand a blow job or hand job as a trade off for not having sex. No one is teaching men to check "are you ok" or say things like "tell me if I do something you don't like". Also no one is teaching women to say "no". No one is telling women just because you made out with him doesn't mean you have to have sex too. No one is telling women that she does not have to compensate for not having sex and she should do things only when she is ready. No one is telling women she can say "stop" or "Not that" or "I don't like this" if she doesn't feel pleasure or dislikes it. No one tells women that real men will be understanding and she can be free to express herself without worrying whether he will not be into her anymore.

I honestly feel Indian society is seriously lacking in teaching their youth "don't rape". We are eons behind in raising sexually well adjusted and balanced men and women.

Originally posted by: nkapoor01

W*F?😕

Originally posted by: ChuglkhorBander

I mean dont think otherwise, i do keep bacardi and coke and home, but stock may be over sometime also. then what are my options. how can i save myself from the wrath that follows. to what extend can she go to get what she wants?