Life lessons from a parent....as only a parent can...

Originally posted by: LizBennett

As is my wont, I begin at the end...

I loved the two mothers for taking their young...( and yes...we do forget their youth don't we..) offspring to task...and putting forth ..into their most present and conscious of thought processes...how they have and do continue to err... in this their battle of wills, egos and justifications, actions, reactions and what have you's...

@underlined: Yes, we always forget their youth, and expect them to behave with the maturity of at least a middle-aged couple 😆 Esp poor Jalal is assumed to have been born as Akbar the Great and constantly butchered, not by the CVs but by his fans, for falling short of these expectations!

Both Maters are perfect and opposite mirror images...and both bring forth wonderful doses of sanity and experience in their sage...and no punches withheld tough advice to their progeny...

It is only a parent ..and one who has the most clear of thought processes...who, instead of blindly supporting their children...are willing to take them head on and push them in front of an insightful mirror...one from which there is absolutely no place to hide...and all of one's deepest insecurities,hubris,flaws and strengths are laid bare for open scrutiny...

The gentle,soft and generally cast aside TrueMom Panacea...is today rightly castigating her Imperio son...not for his reactions...the desperate ,heartfelt..and absolutely sincere quest for his one true love and his desire for apology ...but for the ACTION...that caused these reactions to occur in the first place...the jump the gun...and think later...impulsive action that he is so prone to when it comes to Damsel...and her alone...constantly setting her up on a pedestal and Setting her up for a fall...then expelling her from her home..repeatedly...this is what Panacea is so miffed about...this yo-yo approach ..

Because...what is to stop that from happening again...no matter what HE says...cause his reasoning goes for a toss where his FireBrand is concerned..

@underlined 1: True. We hate them for this when they are around and miss them for this when they are no longer around! 😕

@underlined 2: This is what is scaring Damsel also from coming to him, despite her aching heart 😭

And on the other hand,there is Momma ReversPyschologeee...who puts forth her perspective from her beloved Imperial Son-inLaw's corner...She is talkin tough about the REACTIONS of her FireBrand daughter...while acknowledging the erroneous actions of her Son-in-Law...(isn't this wonderful to see...two sage and mirror perspectives)...here..her take is that HER reactions to his efforts are more a sign of Hurt Pride...than genuine distress...and that she wants her child to be more pragmatic in her approach...rather than the emotional head first toss outta the window tendency...to which these two are so prone...rightly saying that setting the wall of pride too high..stops your voice from being heard...

@underlined@ "head first toss outta the window tendency" is such a wonderful term - loved it 😆

Notice that both of them don't mention the LOVE word..leaving these two to discover it for themselves..that IS delightful!

Well both maters know there is no dearth of love in their bull-headed kids ... only their pride is keeping them from admitting it to each other 😉 and the poor families are having to suffer because of their kiddish fights...😭 Not to mention the 2 families being reduced to laughing stocks across Hindustan 😕

Even after Damsel returns to Madhouse, she is not going to admit she came back for love, according to some spoiler... God, when will they cross the Ocean of Pride and reach each other? 🥱

Strong, feisty,full of sass...are these two...and they need sage, strong and clear in the head parents to guide them..as they move on their path to change and shape destiny..

Blessed are the children...who have a parent such as these two...who can gutsily show their strong-willed children a mirror like this...instead of lovingly..( and wrongly) supporting n covering up their faults...

Liz, thanx for holding up a mirror to me...I was pretty cheesed off yesterday by these 2 for not supporting their kids in their pain...but now u have shown me the error of my ways...😆

It's been 8 years now ...and I absolutely and completely miss my own mirror...my conscience, my bestest buddy...and the bestest..wisest Papa in the whole wide world...every single day...every single day...

This one's for you..!

Aww, so sad...I'm pretty sure wherever he is, he is happy that now u don't need his advice ...he must be proud of u today ⭐️...it's one year since I miss my own TrueMom Panacea...but, you know Liz, their words always stay in our hearts and minds, providing we are still willing to listen...

LizB..

With a few tears,

Pemberley..

Originally posted by: LizBennett

As is my wont, I begin at the end...

I loved the two mothers for taking their young...( and yes...we do forget their youth don't we..) offspring to task...and putting forth ..into their most present and conscious of thought processes...how they have and do continue to err... in this their battle of wills, egos and justifications, actions, reactions and what have you's...

Both Maters are perfect and opposite mirror images...and both bring forth wonderful doses of sanity and experience in their sage...and no punches withheld tough advice to their progeny...

It is only a parent ..and one who has the most clear of thought processes...who, instead of blindly supporting their children...are willing to take them head on and push them in front of an insightful mirror...one from which there is absolutely no place to hide...and all of one's deepest insecurities,hubris,flaws and strengths are laid bare for open scrutiny...

The gentle,soft and generally cast aside TrueMom Panacea...is today rightly castigating her Imperio son...not for his reactions...the desperate ,heartfelt..and absolutely sincere quest for his one true love and his desire for apology ...but for the ACTION...that caused these reactions to occur in the first place...the jump the gun...and think later...impulsive action that he is so prone to when it comes to Damsel...and her alone...constantly setting her up on a pedestal and Setting her up for a fall...then expelling her from her home..repeatedly...this is what Panacea is so miffed about...this yo-yo approach ..

Because...what is to stop that from happening again...no matter what HE says...cause his reasoning goes for a toss where his FireBrand is concerned..

And on the other hand,there is Momma ReversPyschologeee...who puts forth her perspective from her beloved Imperial Son-inLaw's corner...She is talkin tough about the REACTIONS of her FireBrand daughter...while acknowledging the erroneous actions of her Son-in-Law...(isn't this wonderful to see...two sage and mirror perspectives)...here..her take is that HER reactions to his efforts are more a sign of Hurt Pride...than genuine distress...and that she wants her child to be more pragmatic in her approach...rather than the emotional head first toss outta the window tendency...to which these two are so prone...rightly saying that setting the wall of pride too high..stops your voice from being heard...

Notice that both of them don't mention the LOVE word..leaving these two to discover it for themselves..that IS delightful!

I loved both the mothers too..I esp liked Mainawati here,for all her cuckooishness,here she did a fabulous job👏👏...The way she spoke,straight from the shoulder,not sugar coating her words yet not too harsh created a huge impact.She came across as a sensible mother ,loving,understanding but ready to show her daughter the mirror and bring her back on track when needed.She had been making a gentle effort all along,playfully,just rubbing her daughter's ego very slightly to get the desired response.But when she saw things getting out of hand,her response was indeed fabulous.And I loved how she saidthat she wouldn't ask her to leave Amer and the final decision was Jodha's...Can see flashes of my own mom here 😳😳

Strong, feisty,full of sass...are these two...and they need sage, strong and clear in the head parents to guide them..as they move on their path to change and shape destiny..

Blessed are the children...who have a parent such as these two...who can gutsily show their strong-willed children a mirror like this...instead of lovingly..( and wrongly) supporting n covering up their faults...

Very well said...And it is the value systems that they pass on that holds us in good stead through thick and thin...always 😊

It's been 8 years now ...and I absolutely and completely miss my own mirror...my conscience, my bestest buddy...and the bestest..wisest Papa in the whole wide world...every single day...every single day...

This one's for you..!

LizB..

With a few tears,

Pemberley..

Originally posted by: LizBennett

It's been 8 years now ...and I absolutely and completely miss my own mirror...my conscience, my bestest buddy...and the bestest..wisest Papa in the whole wide world...every single day...every single day...

This one's for you..!

LizB..

With a few tears,

Pemberley..