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My Daadi used to say (in Gujarati)...Dukhe chhe pet ne kute chhe maathu...meaning its a stomach ache and instead you are hitting your head đ!!
Matlab... the problem lies somewhere else, but you don't want to confess. In stead you insist its something else and are trying to treat that!! The issue is different, but all the pent up anger and frustration are being taken out on a totally unrelated zone cause you are in denial!! Or may be you are unaware of what is actually hurting you!! đ Or may be you are plain pig headed stubborn and won't confess to a stomach ache...in this case heart acheđ!!
The fight was totally inconsequential, the reason totally irrelevant. It made no sense at all. Yet, it was classic Rudra!! Heard some complaints in the past few days about Rudra's softening and to be honest, I too was a bit uneasy. What the heck happened to my quick silver concrete headed Major Sa?? This can't be himđ˛!! Well he is back, and was totally in character!!
The honey moon period officially over. Rudra could only bend so much, and was bound to snap. And snap he did, while I cheered. It was all too much for him đ!! A man like him can only stand so much of sweetness, can only be so much considerate...bus hadh aa gayi!! He can't tolerate sugar u know...đ!!
Looking logically, there seems to be no reason for his temper tantrum. He already knew what he heard, right?? But he just got an excuse, however flimsy, to pick a fight, to let out his frustrations. He so wanted to get back to his usual, I hate you, get out of my life, this marriage does not matter, mode. And he just latched on to the first excuse he got, however nonsensical. He was so uncomfortable in the loving hubby mode, just see him get back to his cactus dipped in acid form. Looking for logic in love??? Never happens...đ
And the real issue was something else. The chaos that had erupted in his insides since the last couple of days, had to have an effect. The man is falling, and falling hard, he had to resist. This rebound was bound to come. He had to get furious and frustrated (thank you cvs, its vintage Rudra, every time he feels he has shown a soft spot, or he is weakening, a harsh reinforcement and reminder has to delivered) After all we can't expect Hottie Sa...to coolly and calmly fall in love, not happening. He will go screaming and kicking and protesting to the ends of the earth, before we see him crack. And what hurt him, his ego, was a pointer too. He just hated the fact that she begged in front of someone for his job. Yes, he didn't want anyone begging for his career, but more so, Paro. He just hated the thought of her begging in front of anyone, and that too for his work.(and I hate it every time she does it too, but I guess that's Paro) In a way, her dignity, her self respect was wounded, and that cut him too deeply. His wife, his Paro, does not kneel down in front of anyone, and that too for him?? And plus, the always ready to get offended, ever present, super inflated male ego..phew!! All men are ruled by their egos. So, what does she think?? I need her help?? She is the one that rescued me and my career from a tight corner?? That I couldn't have done it without her?? Trying telling that to any hubby...and see him transform from a male to an ogre đ¤˘!! Very few men can digest that kind of poison đ!!
So, it was so not what it seemed!! The reasons were varied, and variables too. Lets just say the proud major hates to fall in love, it leaves him vulnerable and weak and confused, and totally out of control. He just hates his world turning upside down, his insides churning and going topsy turvy, and no wonder, he wants her out!! Now that's heaven đ!! So, he has to protest !! Love is happening and how the man hates that!! đ
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