Ok, so without watching the episode and purely on Kool's commentary I would say what Archana did today was very wrong. No matter how wrong Shravani is, you do not hit a pregnant woman (be it in
any culture). Yell at her, okay, but slap her? No way. I solely blame Savita for Shravani being like this ji. As far as I remember and know from reading the commentaries and family, it was Savita who hated Archana and
brainwashed Shravani against Archana. So why blame Shravani for it all or at all? The root of the problem was Savita. Now that Savita all of a sudden as been engulfed into the "shakkar" thing, she is just forgiven ji?
Yes, this is just a show and that's why I stay away from such torture. However, even if it is, it is a medium to send messages to the general public-be it good or bad. Sharavni was right in her POV b/c Archana had promised that she would leave right after the ceremony. Now did Miss Shakkar leave? No, she said 3 more days, and Manav said nothing. What do you expect of a woman, even if it is Shravani? She hates the lead woman. and I think rightly so. First Savita did the brainwashing, and then Manav showed the haq she had over his own wife. So when Shravani is acting like this, Savita and Manav are to be blamed here. If Savita had not constantly been that little voice behind her, and Manav actually respected his PR, then Shravani would have stepped back. Ironically, in most shows we have vamps b/c the lead-the good guys-drive them to it.
Archna had absolutely no right to slap Shravani, whatever rishta she shares with the child. Utter nonsense is shown here ji. This is not what the Indian culture is about. Yes, we do know it is not this; but those who are not familiar with the Indian culture will feel that seriously this is allowed? For example, my European friend had come over last night and my family brought her upto date with it. She turned to me and was like "Simmi, is this for real??". I laughed and explained that it's just a show. However, she said yeah it's just a show, but still wrong message much? And here, I had to agree ji.
In short, Shravni is right in her stand b/c the loverboy Manav and his Aai gave her that thinking. Maang mein sindoor, jab divorce hua hi nahi. Wah ji wah, chalta hai b/c it's done out of mahanata. Yeah right! Shravani has been made to look bad to cater the audience to pity Archna and Manav. However, I only feel bad for Shravni. Sure she is a spoilt rich kid, but who turned her so evil? The actions of those goodie goodies around her. If Savita had a change of heart, how is Shravni to be blamed? If Archna promised she should have kept it. For the simple reason that she is Ekta's lead girl; the ones who die over their vachaans.
Now Archna, the one who makes me cringe over her actions. I am not too sure as to how it has reached to this point, so from what I know I'll rant ji. I strongly feel that no matter if you are educated or not-you can be hoplessly in love. I'm one of those hoplessly in love. However, I am a bit saner in love. So Archna is gathering memories to live her life, and looking at Manav to do something. Sorry to say that Manav is a spineless man. Chalo, I can understand that Archna has low self-esteem, however, yes there is a however, it makes no excuse for how much she endures in the name of love. From one's sanskars, you can differentiate b/w what's right and what's wrong. And from what I know, Archna has like the bestest sankars ever. So where are they now? One of these sanskars is to respect your parents. Here I think she is totally disrespecting them for a man who seriously deserves no love. He loves her, but is not man enough to admit it.
He fell in love with her, and not the other way around. He should have tried harder. Pyar toh kar liya, bas libhana nahi seekha ji. When Archna can see how hurt her Aai is, why cannot she just not leave?? Her love for a man in 3 months is greater than the love of 25+ years for her mother/family? One does not need to be educated here to get this simple thing. Yes, love is love, but usski bhi had hoti hai. If you are in love and that love gives you pain, and that pain only comes to you-theek hai. However, if that pain is endured by more loved ones, then seriously get out. Manav's character has been butchered, so there is no hope there. Frankly, I would like this divorce to happen just so that Archna can be independent. I am more for women power than oppression. If the divorce is stopped, I'll be disappointed. It will be stopped b/c the effort will be done by others, not those 2 individuals who are bound in this union. If the efforts is theirs to stop it, then I'll be happy.
Sorry for such a long rant. I thought I could share my POV in a forum that actually welcomes different opinions ji. My intention is not to hurt anyone or their favorites. I have no favorites, so I talked from that POV. Feel free to disagree. But be warned ji, I may not be able to disagree back b/c of exams. Bachchi doctor jo banegi na lol.
P.S. One last thing. I would really appreciate it Shravni is stopped being called Choo or Chudail. There are kids ranging between 12-15 who come here, and I find it wrong for them to be subjected to such words. I have stopped my younger family members from coming here b/c they said this word in front of the 2 year old who repeats everything. Then when he learns that this word is for solely women, and his mom gets called that; it is not a good thing. However, it is just a humble request ji.
Anupamaa
