Tulsey trust me I know . In fact my son commented on it when we were on our India trips , that Indian girls here r less westernnized compared to Indian girls there .
My niece was working in a call center and what she told me about the goings on ........apalled me . Girls were so financially independent coz of the fab salaries offered , they lied to parents saying they have to go for duty , roamed around with guys , slept around ,. two timed , did EVERYTHIng while parents at home didnt have a clue . They matched horoscopes dutifully to get gal married in traditional style .
A girl I knew in college had flirted outrageously with guys , then gotten pregnant , gone to Kolhapur to her aunts place and had an abortion . Today she is married to a guy who is a chartered accountant , mints money , and has a son and is happpily married .he has no clue of her past and worships the ground she walks on .
I have stopped taking moralistic stances about such issues . I only look at it from a humanatarian angle .Did the girl harm sum one ? Did she lie , was she responsible for a crime ? If she has done a mistake ok , she needs help . I cannot bring myself to denounce her or pass judgement on her coz who am i to do so >This is not coz I am a woman ........it is coz I firmly believe in that story of Jesus in the bible where he stopped a crowd from stoning an adultress and said angrily whosoever has never sinned in his life may throw the first stone . I am a Hindu but I studied in an Italian Convent and these stories were told to us and I often prayed in their chapel for inner peace .........I still do whenever I see a church . This story affected me profoundly . To this date I cannot call a woman who as society says 'sinned ' as 'shameless' , 'cheap' ' has to pay ' . Same goes for a man too . A man too may take decisions which he cannot explain sometimes . How she got preggers before marraige , how shameless , how she fell in love so quickly does not at all affect me at least . Even today , I dont blame Manav for giving the commitment ............I blame him for not giving Archna a financial dime . Had he taken that responsibility too , fine , its his life is my attitude .
Edited by koolsadhu1000 - 15 years ago