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koolsadhu1000 thumbnail
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Posted: 15 years ago
Tulsey trust me I know . In fact my son commented on it when we were on our India trips , that Indian girls here r less westernnized compared to Indian girls there .
My niece was working in a call center and what she told me about the goings on ........apalled me . Girls were so financially independent coz of the fab salaries offered , they lied to parents saying they have to go for duty , roamed around with guys , slept around ,. two timed , did EVERYTHIng while parents at home didnt have a clue . They matched horoscopes dutifully to get gal married in traditional style .
A girl I knew in college had flirted outrageously with guys , then gotten pregnant , gone to Kolhapur to her aunts place and had an abortion . Today she is married to a guy who is a chartered accountant , mints money , and has a son and is happpily married .he has no clue of her past and worships the ground she walks on .
I have stopped taking moralistic stances about such issues . I only look at it from a humanatarian angle .Did the girl harm sum one ? Did she lie , was she responsible for a crime ? If she has done a mistake ok , she needs help . I cannot bring myself to denounce her or pass judgement on her coz who am i to do so >This is not coz I am a woman ........it is coz I firmly believe in that story of Jesus in the bible where he stopped a crowd from stoning an adultress and said angrily whosoever has never sinned in his life may throw the first stone . I am a Hindu but I studied in an Italian Convent and these stories were told to us and I often prayed in their chapel for inner peace .........I still do whenever I see a church . This story affected me profoundly . To this date I cannot call a woman who as society says 'sinned ' as 'shameless' , 'cheap' ' has to pay ' . Same goes for a man too . A man too may take decisions which he cannot explain sometimes . How she got preggers before marraige , how shameless , how she fell in love so quickly does not at all affect me at least . Even today , I dont blame Manav for giving the commitment ............I blame him for not giving Archna a financial dime . Had he taken that responsibility too , fine , its his life is my attitude .
Edited by koolsadhu1000 - 15 years ago
Tanyaz thumbnail
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Posted: 15 years ago

Sid I have not been to Pakistan for a long time , I was there around 5 years ago but the circumstances were different . I was there for a evry different reason and could not really go out at all. Before that I did not go for a good 4 years .

I don't really know what's going on there . My cousins here who go there say that no one wears a shalwar kameez . I find it hard to believe , but you are saying the same thing .
And my cousins , my goodness the clothes they wear ... I a mlike shocked . I don't even wear sleeveless..I am so conservative where clothes are concerned , but when I look at my cousins I just get shocked ..
My cousin sister who is around 10 years older than me was telling me off and telling me that I should stop acting like a budhi and dress up a little more like now a days person.
Sid , I don't even know what a now a days person in Pakistan is like ...and what they are wearing ....
Edited by Tanyaz - 15 years ago
unknown18 thumbnail
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Posted: 15 years ago
There is another difference I hav noticed.

When people in Pakistan go to a big store nd buy candies, chips, drinks, nd all the junk food, they dont look at the ingredients. They assume that its all Halal (even the imported stuff) since its Pakistan. Personally, I hav seen non-halal products in stores in Pakistan. Those same ppl when they go to some foreign place, like Canada, they will look at all the ingredients before buying something to make sure everything is Halal since they r buying products in a non-Muslim country. Same goes with the values nd beliefs. In Pakistan, a kid looks at something/someone nd decides instantly that what the other person is doing must b right. They pick up those values nd beliefs nd start doing the same. In Canada, a kid looks at someone/something nd they think if this thing is right or wrong. they dont make a decision instantly. for example, they will look at a white couple kissing in public but they wud never do that themselves. they will think that yeh to gora hai yeh ker sakta hai magar hum nahi. so they think nd decide what is right nd wrong according to their social nd religious beliefs nd values. I dont know y this kind of difference nd hypocrisy arises just bcoz u r living in a different country amongst different ppl (who might hav different religion or home country than urs).

To b honest, i wud rather raise my kids in Canada than in Pakistan.
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Posted: 15 years ago
Kool, I like what u hav written😊
even I try to make myself a better person before I raise a finger at someone else (nd who am I to raise a finger at someone else. its their life nd their choice. u can advice someone but u cannot force them. leave the rest to God.calling someone names or bad things will do no good. if something is really bothering u nd its doing damage on humanitarian bases then do something nd take action). u know i hav friends here who say i want to marry a guy who is this nd that nd who is religious. i ask them r u religious? they hav no answer. then i tell them that 1st u shud hav this quality b4 u demand it or want it someone else. maybe ur fiance/husband wud want the same in u.

Tanya, trust me its really bad back home. i go there almost every year nd i see drastic changes every year. the time when girls will b wearing mini skirts nd couples romancing in public is near. we will b seeing that pretty soon in Pakistan. i hav already seen ppl hugging nd holding hands (nd these ppl r not into serious relations) which city did u go to? I am from Karachi. I hav friends there too (but not that close.they r my school friends). I hav seen pictures of them in Facebook. they all hav parties with guys nd girls together nd wear sleeveless nd capris nd snuggle. shalwar kameez is an old thing now.only the poor ppl wear that there. nd as i said dupatta is gone.skin tight nd revealing clothing is in.
Tanya, my cousins say the same to me😆 even my mom says i m a budhi😆
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Posted: 15 years ago
I was born in Karachi . But I left Pakistan when I was 5 . My family home used to be there in Karachi
Edited by Tanyaz - 15 years ago
Tulsey thumbnail
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Posted: 15 years ago
Sid, Tanya and Kool,
My daughter does not wear sleeveless to this day. she never wore deep neck like teenagers wear. Majority of the Indian/Pakistani kids listen to their parents and also parents have also learned to be give in. If the parents can teach their kids values of a good human being, that will go very far in a child's life. We have told our daughter that she can have friends but no "boyfriends" until she is in her mid university years. We encourage her to make her own decisions and do the right thing. I am always on my toes to keep an eye on her but this girl has never given me a moment to suspect her.
ONe thing I told her very early on that when you are under peer pressure or you are about to do something where your conscience will make you stop to think for a moment, you will know that it is not the right thing to do. If you would not allow your daughter to do what you would want to do or going to do, then you have the answer from your inner conscience. She is a very vocal girl like KOOL, says what she think is right and does not care about others around her IF she is doing the right thing. She has never touched cigarettes, never had a boyfriend to hold and kiss let alone sex, came home straight from school, etc etc....not that she never had the opportunities, but she holds her values dearly and everytime she goes to India she is disgusted with the way the girls and boys wear and behave.
I think at the end of the day, it is what a person values the most and stands up for it, no matter what. and this is what Shravani did not do. she did not need Sachin's family to help her with the baby...what ever, she could have shun the world and stayed at her rich father's house and raised up the child on her own. If the father could not keep her because she was bringing a bad name to him, then his true colors would come out. She could have moved out on her own or have gone to US with her father......
Edited by Tulsey - 15 years ago
unknown18 thumbnail
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Posted: 15 years ago
Tanya, Pakistan was very different back then. I left when i was 12. we visited Pakistan almost every summer (but now there is no plan to go bak there ever again).

i m similar to u.they dont think i m boring but they think i m shareef😆 actually i dont get into any politics(nd there is soooo much politics nd gossiping there). if someone is gossiping, i just sit nd listen or leave from there nd sit with other ppl nd hav fun. my tayi came to stay at our house during my sisters wedding. she has 2 daughters nd two sons.all married with kids. nd their house is a typical Pakistani house with bickering nd politics. when she was leaving she told my mom that she loved to b at our house nd sid(me) is so different from the kids here. sid jokes around nd has fun but never goes into politics.it was very different from her house.

its the same with us. for me, its just my dad, mom, sister, nd brother. i dont think abt the whole khandaan. well i dont even think of the society most of the time either.
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Posted: 15 years ago
I too got married very early ....19 and hence my son is a teenager while daughters r only 5 .
I dont know anything about Pakistan so i read it with lot of interest . I am a Hindu but my Convent education gave me a liberal mind . They taught us the value of forgiveness .The nuns were very kind . I hated the Brahminical rigidity , looking down on people for caste , control over women , chauvinism . Later I studied Hinduism from Sri Ramakrishna's angle and was deeply affected by its depth . It was a very different perspective , unknown to the average man who didnt know a thing about religion . The greatest thing was to be human and not take a high moralistic stand . The greatest thing also was not to waste a human life by doing foolish things as God does not tell us to be a fool . { Hence my irritation with Archana] .My thoughts changed rapidly over the years and are still changing .😊
Tulsey thumbnail
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Posted: 15 years ago
I have also seen people with double standards about their son's and daughters. I had hated this when I was growing up. The kids in NA are so confused. They are brought/born in NA but they have to behave/listen like an Indian. Some parents who are very strict, their children go on their own and make wild decisions just too afraid to talk to their parents. This is very bad.
The next thing is the peer pressure. If the kids don't have a 2 way conversation with their parents, they are eventually going to listen to their friends and get into trouble. When the parents find out about what their child has been doing, they just go nut on the child.
Tanyaz thumbnail
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Posted: 15 years ago

How interesting . Of course the most important thing in life is to be a good person and try not to hurt others ...

That's the most important thing to me ... worst thing in this world is to hurt someone knowingly , that is the worst sin , no matter what your religon is .

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