I agree with you on some counts.. Manav does have a backbone (he refused to get divorced despite his aai threatening that she wud leave the house, he tried to convince archu multiple times and he defended her in front of his aai till the complaint) but unfortunately circumstances put him in such sticky spots that he ultimately loses hope.. like the entire divorce scenario: he had sworn that he wud die before signing the divorce papers... but ultimately archana's unresponsive behavior and situations made it look as if she wanted to 'move on with life' by marrying Satish, so he was heartbroken and signed the divorce papers... and so stopped looking for evidence as well cos he lost hope of archu returning.
Where the marriage with Shravani is concerned, he is almost divorced.. and so the marriage wud be legal if done after the final divorce date.
I dont exactly agree that he takes decisions according to others... ever since archu left.. he has taken all decisions on his own... but I do agree that all his decisions are made keeping in mind the feelings and betterment of others...there is a slight difference in both the things.. he will do what he thinks is right.. he will not be led by them...but often chooses others happiness over his own... he signs the divorce papers not cos his aai and family tell him to, but cos he wants archu to be happy... he agrees to marry shravani not cos aai and girishji tell him to or cos he is divorced, but bcos he thinks that someone has to take the responsibility and as always he is ready to be the bali ka bakra for the sake of his family, sachin's baby and shravani ... in all this he ends up hurting himself the most...
This i feel is a serious flaw which will ultimately prove costly to him in days to come, especially when he has to chose responsibility over love... in the past also Manav did this all the time... especially in the necklace case... he tried to keep sulochana and archana happy by buying the necklace in place of them.. he tried to keep savita happy by gifting her the necklace... but in the end who suffered- Manav himself- cos he has to work overtime to pay off the loan. He needs to understand that it is impossible to keep the whole world happy at the same time.
Where Archana is concerned... then yeah... having led a very sheltered life and used to being led by her mother.. it was a bit difficult for her to speak up immediately that too in favour of a person she had known for only 1 month and go against her family for his sake.. but her love for him ultimately gave her strength and she has become quite assertive now.
God.. my posts really end up being long... to sum up.. Archana has started getting a backbone... Manav had it long back.. but he is far too emotional thinking of others all the time and so does not assert his wishes or happiness and so ends up hurting himself.
Edited by nikitagmc - 15 years ago