Originally posted by: paradigm
Now my question is: Did Kunal do the right thing? He was right in refusing to fight the case. But did he perhaps go a bit overboard in fighting against Thakral himself. He could have probably asked a lawyer friend to fight it instead. Think of it from Thakral's perspective: your own employee and protege goes ahead to fight the case against you...
Kunal has been shown man who is very stubborn when it came to his principles. So not the first case he refused. If I remember correctly; it involved minister's son and a poor innocent girl. So in order to defend the girl against minister's son whom Thakral was presenting; he himself steps in. Given Thakral's reputation, no other lawyer would agree to jump in.
Another point.. Why did Kunal not work for 5 long years... He saw how much pain and suffering his family was in??? At that time even Gaurav's frustration was understandable. They had lost everything and he was having to slog it out while Kunal sat at home... q is why did he sit at home.. surely after some cooling period he could have gotten another job... also he values his principles so much.. didnt he feel it was his responsibility to take care of his family and not become a liability... This is what was shown in promos, a man who had lost zest for life. Kunal sure was aware of what his family was going through. After defeating Thakral; Kunal couldn't get a job or any case for about 6 months. So he decides to go into construction were Thakral comes in ruins them. This results in family losing everything. From that point on, Raj stops talking to Kunal. Gaurav no longer respects him as he use to. Kunal sure lost status in society and professional front; he felt he lost his status in family as well. But what really put him down was Richa rejecting him. Kunal still had will to fight but Richa didn't trust it. She wanted Kunal to apologize for doing right (against his family values) and make compromises to ethics and whatever for sake of lifestyle and money. There Kunal realized Richa truly hadn't accepted him as he was. The person he loved (I personally don't think it was love form either side) and person who claimed to love him actually rejects the core characteristics of his being. So in simple term, Richa rejected what defines Kunal. Raj not talking to Kunal also made him feel his father is highly disappointed in him and believes he's good for nothing. Raj says something lie this in 2nd episode and Kunal too was surprises when he hears his father saying how much he believes in Kunal. Yes KUnal's mother and Anand kind of understood him but not as much.
So basically it was not professional failures that threw Kunal in depression, but failures in personal life. His family not being much concerned with him and Richa rejecting him made him feel like a looser in life. People he loved most in a way implied he was looser because of his professional failures. So what is known as cognitive dissonance suggests that if your outside reality is different from your internal belief, soon your internal attitude will match outside reality. So Kunal felt he is a loser and whatever he may try, it is likely he will fail given what happened twice; which will further hurt his loved ones. So that made him give up on life itself. He once says to Siddhi, he should've died and not Anand. Everyone needed Anand while him... doesn't matter much. Raj himself had said when Kunal felt rejected from everything; no one in family bothered with him; only adding to his belief that he is good for nothing. But during that time, he still acred for family; just felt he may not be able to do much for them given he is a looser.
So to me it was what happened in his personal life that made him lose zest for life and that's why I liked CVs show significant evolution in personal life thanks to Siddhi.
I love Kunal but somehow I hate the fact that he has not done a great job of taking care of his family... Even with siddhi while he promised to try and keep her happy at the time of proposing to her; in the intital days of their marriage i never saw him make any effort at doing that. He was rude; often yelled at her; was proprietal about her without giving her any rights on his life.. and was too concerned for richa...
It was only around november that we saw kunal change and become a good friend and companion to siddhi.. my question is when it was he who had proposed and promised things to siddhi why didnt he keep to his promise initially??
The thing with Richa is; she was once an important part of Kunal's life. So he wanted Richa to be happy in her life ahead and being a nice guy he went ahead and helped her time to time. Yes at times it appeared (unintentionally but still) that he is too concerned about Richa. But Richa aware of Kunal's nature tried to create a scenario where Kunal shows his care for her. Although Kunal was clear with her and kept Siddhi in loop time to time about his relation with Richa.
Now the marriage was sure a big compromise for both. Yes Kunal said he would try to keep Siddhi happy, but they decided there will a strict limit to where how far their relationship will come. Siddhi more than Kunal had somehow managed to accept it as it was. For Kunal it was quite hard. First given his experiences with Richa, he was suspicious of all women, idea of love and also against marriage for himself (as seen through his conversation with anand & Veena). So initially he didn't like Sidhdi much as he thought she is no different than Richa. So brushes from Richa had not healed yet. And most importantly fact that Siddhi was Anand's fiance. So these factors had formed a great distance in their relationship to start with. Kunal had said to Raj it will be very hard for him to stay with Siddhi in same room. He thought he will try to make Siddhi feel comfortable and may not interfear much with her life. But at the same time, he wished Siddhi didn't bother him much either. Now incidents such as diary & kadvachuadh were quite threatening for Kunal. Diray was most personal thing of his and most precious possession. He became very defensive when he thought Siddhi may have tried to come closer to him. Kadvachaudh made him feel Siddhi is putting up a fake drama and violating what htey have decided. So reaction were him yelling at Siddhi. Such reaction emerged from his defensive attitude he had formed against women. He felt someone is trying to come close, which may allow them to hurt him like Richa did.
I personally didn't think he acted proprietal towards Siddhi without giving her any rights, but he tried to stop her thinking she is trying to come closer. His sacres from Richa were still there and Siddhi is the one who healed them. See both Kunal and Siddhi tried to understand each other in initial days. Given Kunal's past he became very defensive towards Siddhi's behavior as he didn't understand them very well. Usually in such situation, reaction is yelling with hope that other party will stay away due to rudeness. But Kunal was making attempt of fulfilling his duties. Protecting Siddhi in bus, saying to Veena not to worry as her bahu is also searching for job with him, giving up bed for Siddhi's comfort, restaurant scene, diwali party at Vikraam's place, getting auto to go to work together, giving her roses, helping with case preparation by giving her book, assuring case matter will be out of home, respecting her choice to fight the case, buying her necklace per his promise, turning off AC for her, etc does show Kunal was making efforts to accommodate Siddhi as much as possible.
Yes initially Kunal does appear rude, arrogant, taking a minute to yell but the roots lied much deeper than meets the eye. Kunal truly had never shared what impact his past had left on him and it took him some time to come out of it, thanks to help of Siddhi.
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