Why blaiming Raavi ?

Copying and adding more in my comment from the other post

Why bashing Raavi?

Shiva is not wrong at his point but Raavi too isn't. On Twitter and here too people r bashing her I am suprised. What people wanted her to do? Whole Somnath knows Shiva hates Mami he can hurt her. What people want ki aarti utaare ? Raavi didn't said anything to Shiva when he shouted on her, even before that she was supporting him.

The sickle Shiva kept on Mami's neck she should clap for him for that ?

It is difficult for Raavi to support one side right now. Pandya family is her family and she loves them but for Raavi Mami is also very important. The taunt she got for Suman was unnecessary I am sure she meant no harm to Suman.

Mami kesi bhi hain we can't deny that she has given unconditional love to her and wants the best for her. And most importantly for Raavi, Mami has took care of her like a mother even when she was a orphan.

So right now everyone wanting to Raavi just suddenly ditach from her is not possible and say things would be wrong in soo many levels. She knows she did wrong but she did bad with PANDYA FAMILY and most things she don't even know about, she has KEPT HER LIKE A PRINCESS. She doesn't supports her for the wrong, she calls her out for it. But seeing her at that situation where she can get hurt she will go for her. Still she didn't said anything to Shiva.

About Insulting Shiva by Mami, I don't know if u guys saw or not but she has asked her to not talk like that with him but it was him who shouted on her. Even before if Shiva won't have come I am sure Raavi would have answered back.

Raavi was ok till Shiva kept sickle Mami ka neck. That was when it was a bit too much for Raavi.

Raavi has always supported Shiva in front of Mami even before wedding, she is doing that from childhood specially when he was sort of a BULLY to her. She is very clear with not taking her opinions but u can't expect her to be quite and see her Maasima getting hurt (She even called her mami while defending Shiva).

Now Shiva is her husband and most importantly now she knows that how many times he has saved her life so definitely she won't go against him and support Mami. But bcoz that thing could have hurt Mami that's why she stopped Dhara from talking. Also the level of frustration she has I am sure in tomorrow's episode she won't support Prafulla for her shit.

I didn't saw how Raavi was wrong. I love Shiva the most and I felt really bad with the way Mami was shitting but Raavi too was not at fault.

About Shiva shouting on Raavi I didn't find it that much offending. I am against manhandling of Shiva but this time I couldn't call him wrong. He actually asked her to shut up with his haq on her as husband. He may have shouted but his tone was not containing any indifference or any hate. He shouted on her as he thought of her as wife not as Mami ki behen ki beti.

Bcoz if this would have happened before marriage or even before khandar incident he won't have cared about her and we all have seen the way he has treated her. He didn't did anything to her so I saw that as a progress. Hope tomorrow Raavi doesn't disappoint us. Hope we see a meaningful conversation between them about the expectations they have from each other and what they feel about all this Mami ka drama. They need to talk hope whatever progress we saw from last 1 week won't go down the drain.

Also a different topic

What I am not liking is that how almost everyday Shiva Raavi r getting physically mentally and emotionally hurt. No one cares about them.

Gaura doesn't care they r in their own world of delusion that batwara did all good, Dev Rishita let's not talk about them, Krish chota hain, Suman is more into making Family United, Mami ke tamashe khatam nahi ho rahe. Literally no one is treating them like humans, they aren't robots that they will keep getting hurt and they would be fine. They aren't getting break from all the shit.

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All r saying we r disappointed by Raavi and what not things makes me mad thinking what people want her to do. Ignore that women who took care of her like a family and see her getting hurt.

She was not against Shiva nor she was supporting Mami.

Most importantly she knew her Maasi can instigate Shiva and he can do something, he won't even dream to do like physically hurting Mami.

I don't want her to support Shiva just because he is her husband. She needs to support him because he is right and maami is clearly wrong. This is about right vs wrong and not husband vs mother figure for me. Raavi needs to take some time and think over how evil and disgusting maami is and how she ruined the pandya family completely. If she doesn't know the whole truth, I would want her to ask suman or dhara about it. Just because maami gave her unconditional love she cannot excuse her maami or stay silent or neutral when that vile woman is completely shattering someone's self respect and self worth time and time again.

Originally posted by: GrilledCheese

I don't want her to support Shiva just because he is her husband. She needs to support him because he is right and maami is clearly wrong. This is about right vs wrong and not husband vs mother figure for me. Raavi needs to take some time and think over how evil and disgusting maami is and how she ruined the pandya family completely. If she doesn't know the whole truth, I would want her to ask suman or dhara about it. Just because maami gave her unconditional love she cannot excuse her maami or stay silent or neutral when that vile woman is completely shattering someone's self respect and self worth time and time again.

That's what it wil take time. Give her some time. Already she hasn't supported her when she tried to instigate or break the marriage.

She has been only her family.

It is barely a month into their marriage or even less.

Let her breathe but this bashing isn't required.

Raavi knows the difference between what is wrong and right. U think Dhara will tell her. She is mahanta ki murat, Suman talked like that, Shiva is a different case. No one will tell her.

Atleast give her time she will herself make that line.

First of all Ravi is at miserable place ..!!

Even if she knows what all her mother ( as she raised her since she was 10days) did !! She can question her about it but can't leave her because of that . It's not about how she loved her or cared for her .. it's a basic human nature .. u can't see your parents getting insulted !! Even if they are wrong you correct them in private but defend in public .

Her helplessness in front of suman was clearly visible .. she can't side suman n insult her mother niether she can side her mother and take a wrong side .

I think it's prafula n Anita's mistake to come n live and interfere in there family . They are subjecting Ravi to a condition where either she has to tolerate her mum n sister's insult or should become bad in front of her in laws and her own eyes by supporting what is wrong .

Both the situations are painful for her.

We saw how she defended Anita from Rishita ..I m sure if dhara would be there in the place of Rishita it would be difficult for her because she can't sunaoing dhara like she did for Rishita.

And I noticed how she called prafula mami instead of maasi .. maybe it was a slip of tongue because shiva was calling her mami maami so went in a flow .. and they thought of keeping it to give a real touch.

People are not understanding how miserable Raavi is. Just because she tries to be happy and keeps on smiling that doesn't mean that she is alright. Those who are bashing Raavi fail to understand how broken the girl is. She was left at the wedding mandap, then was married off to Shiva who kind of hates her, then Rishita is always taunting her, then the batwara track happened, and now this Maami and Shiva drama.

They are taking Raavi for granted, everybody is.

Originally posted by: Sakshi-deewan

First of all Ravi is at miserable place ..!!

Even if she knows what all her mother ( as she raised her since she was 10days) did !! She can question her about it but can't leave her because of that . It's not about how she loved her or cared for her .. it's a basic human nature .. u can't see your parents getting insulted !! Even if they are wrong you correct them in private but defend in public .

Her helplessness in front of suman was clearly visible .. she can't side suman n insult her mother niether she can side her mother and take a wrong side .

I think it's prafula n Anita's mistake to come n live and interfere in there family . They are subjecting Ravi to a condition where either she has to tolerate her mum n sister's insult or should become bad in front of her in laws and her own eyes by supporting what is wrong .

Both the situations are painful for her.

We saw how she defended Anita from Rishita ..I m sure if dhara would be there in the place of Rishita it would be difficult for her because she can't sunaoing dhara like she did for Rishita.

And I noticed how she called prafula mami instead of maasi .. maybe it was a slip of tongue because shiva was calling her mami maami so went in a flow .. and they thought of keeping it to give a real touch.

I think this was for either of the below reason .

1) KD has nailed his scene so changing it would require a lot of editing and good one which wouldn't be possible considering how the scene was just in sync . If you notice the sickle touches mamis face also . This scene gave us goosebumps as well as showed us noone but KD can play shiva . It makes you hate and love the scene .

2) They want to show us indirectly Raavi accepting her role as Shiva's wife and when mami insults Shiva as mami she berates her as mami and not as her masi ma .

Originally posted by: tarini0101

People are not understanding how miserable Raavi is. Just because she tries to be happy and keeps on smiling that doesn't mean that she is alright. Those who are bashing Raavi fail to understand how broken the girl is. She was left at the wedding mandap, then was married off to Shiva who kind of hates her, then Rishita is always taunting her, then the batwara track happened, and now this Maami and Shiva drama.

They are taking Raavi for granted, everybody is.

Not to forget the near death experiences ( suicide + kandar mein almost marna )

I literally felt bad for Raavi...she defended Shiva when he was called servant and called her maasi maami, yet Shiva shouted at her ......it was difficult for her to see her maasi in such state....she never sided with her coz she knows about mami's hatred towards Pandya family but she can't withstand her insult so she was telling her to leave......yet maa and Shiva scolded and taunted her......Raavi doesn't deserve such torture....I truly want her to give silent treatment to Shiva stating that she is just being the ideal quiet wife for dominating husband like Shiva who has manhandled her and asked her not to interfere several times and even scolded her...only slaps are left which she doesn't wish to face...so she has decided to stay quiet and obedient....and this would make Shiva feel guilty to no end 🌵

its not about who she should support? is she blind or deaf that she cant see the havoc mami was has always created since the beginning? i agree that she loves mami as she raised her like her own but loving your family doesnt mean you go blind and deaf and support or not speak against them when it is needed. when one truly loves someone they show reality instead of coddling them and here raavi was not supporting shiva but she didnt speak against mami either. not speaking at times becomes equivalent to supporting and it is a bigger mistake then supporting and here that is what happened. mami outright said she stole the kangans and yet raavi didnt say a word to mami about it. She needs to learn a trait from shiva and that is not be shy about showing someone a mirror when it is needed especially when it is someone like mami who has done nothing but created problems for pandya family. i mean they lost a big support i.e. their dad due to her. i dont think there is anything that can rectify that. 10 -11 years this family struggled and even there mami didnt let them be and did her planning, plotting etc to somehow do more damage. even now she is upto no good and this time in the name of raavi. Shiva can forgive and forget a lot but not when it comes to his family. he is crazy protective of them and mami not just insulted him time and again but tried to harm his family so shiva being angry enough to raise a sickle at her should tell raavi something. i dont know what GauRa's problem is but they are just ridiculous. Both were busy trying to tell shiva that he should not behave like this with her as she is their relative now? seriously? they didnt even bother to know what was said. all they say was that shiva raised a sickle and started lecturing him. Sometimes i do wonder if these people even deserve shiva's steadfast love and devotion as they just take it for granted and use it as it suits them. Dhara cant even raise her voice at insult of her so called child.

I'm with you on this. I don't really understand why Raavi is getting bashed ( I just left my comment on EDT after I saw the ep and haven't really checked the forum since).

I don't know how else Raavi would handle the situation any better. Just because she knows her maami was wrong, doesn't mean she's in a place to do anything about it. Suman herself isn't doing anything about it, or saying any more than she has said / continues to say, so I'm not sure what people here expect Raavi to do about anything. Raavi, despite the distant relationship she has with Shiva, defends him to her maami several times. She even keeps pleading with her maami to stop doing all that she's doing/saying. What else is someone supposed to do to their parent who is in the wrong?

Are we all watching the same show? The younger generation rarely EVER goes against or lectures or tries to guide the older generation. Do we ever see S+K+D ever lecture G/D/S about what they're doing is not right? So why is Raavi expected to do more than she already has? And even then, it's more than anyone else on the show does to call people out. Suman is the only one that consistently calls people out on their BS. But she's also the eldest family member. Shiva calls Maami out, but that's because he hates her. Which younger person on the show lectures/stops/reprimands the older people that they actually love? No one. At least Raavi has several times.

Also, the grabbing of the knife (i already forgot what its called), was extremely irrational. I don't care how angry you are, you don't come at someone with a knife. I love Shiva, but he has anger management issues, and all the years of coddling from Dhara did nothing to help him.

Who would stand by and watch their mother (b/c Raavi has no other mother figure) be threatened with a knife? How can she defend Shiva in that situation? It's not like she even supported Maami, she told Maami to stop talking. That was a conversation between Maami + Raavi and she could handle her mausimaa, Shiva had no need to get into it. But of course he has to because he can't keep his anger in check. And even that's fine. Him yelling at Maami, that's fine, he has a right to defend his family and stand up for himself. The grabbing of her hand and the knife was when he stepped over the line.

If they had so many problems and grievances with Maami, they should've just filed a lawsuit against her & sent her to jail. But no, family izzat and all that. Threatening her with a knife is not going to save their izzat either. lol.