***LOVE AND PAIN***

Morning all,

I am new to this site and have made a few friends. I just wanted to talk about Love and the pain of heartbreak just to guage peoples reactions. I have major pain 3 times in my life the loss of my grandfather in 1997 the death of my best friend in 2003 and the split from my girlfriend in 2006.

I had been dating my girlfriend for 15 years we got secretly engaged when we were 16 and then i spoke to my grandfather to se if we could get married whe we were 21 at the time he said it was a good idea well actually he said acha bachoo shaadi abhi karne hai. to wind me up. Anyway he passed away in in 1997 when we turned 17 so there went out biggest support. I went to may parents when i turned 23 and they werent to happy had picked my own bride but went along with it they went to her parents who said no coz they had chosen her husband for her already and were not gonna change there minds.😭😭😭

We carried on seeing one another spoke to here parents who then told her it was either me or them if she chose me then for them she would be like a person who never existed.She would be dead to them. So like any child she had to choose her parents and we walked away she was forced into her marriage last week i turned up and rang her to think about it again but she thanked me for all the good times and the love i had given her and we would be together in another lifetime and she then left for her new life of slavery and a loveless marriage. Here i am plodding on through life one day at a time my heart in several pieces.

Something else happened when i was driving back from her wedding i was in tears and came up to a sharp bend and dont remember wether i tried to brake or did i speed up but i woke up sometime later and the car was upside down in a field and i had cuts and bruises. I dont get it no matter how hard i try i cant remeber wether i did it on purpose or delibratly.sometimes i feel dead on the inside when i think about her and the times we shared.🤢

Anyway i was wondering if anybody else was in love on here or had anybody else been hurt like me and how did you cope with it.

Lastly i do still believe in love i feel good when i see love on tv especially the dramas on star for e.g Kt and Lakshya from KSBKBT, Sharman from kumkum or Maithili and Pranay from KGGK there loves are innocent and dramatised in a lovey dovey way but the reality is a lot more painful anf hurtful.

Anyway take care and happy posting.

KAL

awwwwww blesh...i duno wa 2 say man...i mean if i say i understand ur pain den dats jus gona b liein coz da person dats gone through it can onli understan da pain...if i say i wana share ur pain den dats cumin 4rm ma hart true coz if i cant understand it atleast i can share it init...15 yrz is a reli long tym n u must av so much hapi memories 4 wen u woz wiv er....er parentz tuk er away 4rm ya ba da fing dat no1 can take away 4rm ya is does sweet memories dat u both av ov each oda....it does hurt wen da hart breakz ba still a person has 2 b strong n live lyf...sorrows n hurtz makez a person strong n dats wen God tests us 2 c how much we pain we can take...she is rite...not in dis lyf ba in da next lyf u both gona b 2gder n gona b married as wel..in dis lyf u av learned dat by delayin da marriage she has married sum1 else ba in da next lyf u wun repeat da same mistake again....even tho she is sum1 elses wife er hart is alwyz by u....true luv onli hapenz once so she is gona b urz n onli urz 4eva...alwyz memba dat she luvz ya as much as ya luv er...ur smile n hapiness mean da world 2 er...she wants ya 2 move on in lyf..no mata how hard it is we still av it 2 face it n liv lyf...lyf is 2 short 2 keep hold ov da sorrows n pain...let it all go...jus memba all da hapi moments ya spent wiv er...dese lil memories r da base ov lyf...u gota move on..not 4 urself ba 4 dat gal as wel n da luv between both ya...Inshallah u gona find anoda gal dats gona luv ya...care 4 ya n give ya da hapiness u deserve...Ameen..take gud care ov urself