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Spending time with my daughter Palak – My daughter, Palak is very tomboyish and when I return home after the shoot she is in dirty hair and dirty clothes with a simple rubber band to tie her hair. At times, I get irritated that she doesn't maintain herself but then I don't go after her since I am not at home all day and I get only 2-3 ours with her and if I trouble her then she will run away from me so even as I am talking to her I get her to wear good, fresh clothes, apply cream, comb her hair. I think it is very important for mothers to stay at home with kids especially daughters because they don't know how to take care of themselves otherwise. I think I am a very careless mom because I shoot for almost 16 hours a day and reach home at odd times. If it is a regular 9 am to 10 pm shift I reach home by 10 pm and she sleeps by 10:30 – 11 pm and if I reach late at 2-3 am she has already slept but then I wake up with her early morning to get her ready for school since that is the only time I get to meet her.

Even though I am out of the house, I track her every move – Palak is in school from 7 am to 5 pm after which she plays for 2 hours in the society, has dinner and sleeps so she doesn't go anywhere else alone. And when she goes to her friend's apartment even within the society she needs to call me and tell me she has reached there or else I get scared. Whenever she gets into a lift, she has strict instructions to call and tell me and then when she comes out she has to call me again or else I feel what if she gets into the lift and then disappears mid-way then, how do I find out where she is in amongst all those apartments if she goes missing? She calls me when she reaches office and if I don't get a call from home then I call from my side and I also have the school bus attendant Surekha's number with whom I am in touch with continuously to know whether she sat in the bus and got off from the bus so I know constantly what is happening to my daughter.

I feel guilty for not being there for her – I have lots of guilt feelings especially when she gets hurt or wants me, needs me to be with her and I cannot reach there at that time. I cannot go to her school when they call me because I am a single parent and working too, so I tell my mom or brother to go, However, Palak doesn't crib much but I know somewhere that she wants me to be there for her. When there is Open house, PTA meetings at her school I feel terrible at those times thinking why am I working, why am I doing this? But then since you are so busy in work that you cannot do anything about it. I don't miss Palak on the sets while shooting but I feel that when she is free she should come and visit the sets because she enjoys being with the kids on the sets. So when I'm shooting she sometimes visits me on the sets and she gets along very well with my on-screen daughter Aashika Bhatia (Ginnie in Parvarish Kuchh Khattee Kuchh Meethi) and they all play together.

I am strict and punish her too – Palak had a mobile but it has been banned because she was chatting too much on the BBM and ignoring her homework in the process. I caught her once when she told me that she had stomachache but sent her friend a message saying that she is not coming to school as she had not done her homework. When I saw that message I punished her for lying to me and banned her mobile. Now she keeps on asking me when about getting the mobile back and I have told her that she will get it only when she turns 18 and stops lying.

On pressurizing Palak – I believe that she should do what she likes to do otherwise she will not be able to do it at all. It is no use forcing kids into doing anything. My mom never forced me and so I too will not force my daughter. At present, every morning she gets up and wants to be something different everyday – someday she wants to be a pilot, dancer, teacher, swimmer, etc. So till now she is not able to decide what she wants to be!

Every minute, everything about my daughter is very special to me – In fact, whenever there is a special day whether it is Mother's day or my birthday she writes a long two page letter to me and I wait for that letter where she says a lot about herself which she normally doesn't tell me.

Seema Khot Mattoo

http://www.india-forums.com/tellybuzz/wassup/14779-i-feel-guilty-when-i-am-not-there-for-palak-when-she-needs-me.htm

Sparsh Khanchandani who is currently seen as Rashi in Sony TV's popular show Parvarrish, recently made her grandmother feel very special on her special day. The little girl planned a surprise party for her granny on the occasion of her birthday and Mother's Day.

Her granny became emotional to see her granddaughter doing so many special things for her. Sparsh got a big banner prepared for her granny saying 'Janamdin Mubarak Ho Maa,' because she is considered to be the mother of the family.

We contacted Sparsh to know more about the surprise party planned by her for her grandma. Sparsh said, "It was a very traditional party; a modernized traditional party. My Dadi turned 85 years old this year. When I celebrated my birthday I realized that I have crossed my Dadi's height and thought of celebrating her birthday. Me and my mom kept this plan secret for 6 months and secretly we invited all our relatives from outside Mumbai. I was shocked to see that I have so many relatives. We had not met each other for years. They knew me as Ichcha but I didn't know them. I was so excited to meet my cousins, my bhabhi, jijaji and all other relatives."

So, did anyone from your show attend the party? "Nobody from my show attended the party since it was a personal, family party," replied Sparsh.

Talking about the gifts she gifted to her Dadi, Sparsh added, "I gifted her a yellow saaree which she liked a lot and she wore it on her birthday. I dressed her up and did her hair styling and make-up. Now, we are planning to give her another big birthday gift. We are sending her to Mount Abu along with my Nani."

Sparsh also remembers her Dadi's reaction, "She was very happy to see all this and she said that this is the biggest birthday gift for her. She couldn't control her tears of happiness. Everybody showered flowers on her and she was happily surprised to see all this. For the first time, she cut a cake and danced on music by a DJ. She was dancing even thought she was wearing a heavy saaree."

Anwesha Kamal

Barkha Bisht Sengupta, Comedy Circus

"My daughter Meira is just 1 year old so I don't know how she will turn out to be. But I remember when I was young, I was a rebellion. I always did what I wanted to do but my mom was always patient and understanding. Amongst my parents my dad was very strict with us while my mom was the calm one. She would take my side and explain things patiently to me. She was the perfect balancing factor. Now as a parent, I think I have picked up my dad's traits so I am the strict one while my husband Indraneil (Indraneil Sengupta) will have to stay calm. I don't want to be strict and had always wished I would be like my mom but unfortunately I am more like my father so I only hope that Meira doesn't turn out to be a rebel."

Shweta Tiwari, Parvarrish – Kucch Khattee, Kucch Meethi

"I was a difficult child during my teenage years. It is an age when you feel that you know the best and better than your mom. In such a situation it is difficult for the mother to try and make any child understand but when my mom would tell me I would be more adamant and do it any which ways. Then my mom decided that she won't talk to me on that topic and then later on while casually chatting she would give an example or story to make me understand that the result of my doing would be wrong even though I was not ready to understand at that point of time. Later, I would think about it at peace and then realize my mistake and tell her I am sorry, I was at fault and I will improve. At present, my daughter Palak is 12 years old and I don't know how she will turn out to be but if she does turn out to be a difficult child later then I think I will apply the same technique because it was too good."

Shalini Kapoor Sagar, Qubool Hai

"I was a timid, shy child and not confident at all. That is the time my mom would encourage me and I remember when I entered the Miss Calcutta 1996 contest I wanted to take part but didn't have the confidence and that is the time my mom advised me to participate and give my level best. I went on to win that contest and it was a major boost of confidence for me. My daughter Aadyya is just 2 years old now and I hope to be as good a mother to her as my mom was for me. Nowadays we have lots of help in the form of books, media which earlier moms weren't exposed to. We are better equipped due to the knowledge from the internet, and colleagues so we can go a step further and be a dedicated mom."

Gauri Tonk, last seen in Crime Patrol

"After Pari I have learnt loads of patience but as a child I was very impatient. Now people talk about it and compliment me in how I deal so nicely with matters. When I think about my mom I realize that she has helped me in everything. I get my good looks from her and she has taught me to be a good human being and a good friend so 90% of the credit I get goes to my mom. I come from a very middle class family and no one would have thought I could have achieved so much in life. Even I didn't have that confidence and would say ok, I will be something in life, that's it, but it was my mother who gave me the confidence to be what I am today. My mother is the ideal mom and someone I look upto whenever I have a question mark in life. For my daughter Pari too I am trying to be same as my mother and hope to guide her the same way."

Shweta Kawatra, last seen in Adaalat

"As a child I never would keep things in place but thanks to my mom who stressed on that fact and made me change my habit. She guided me by continuously telling me to do it. Today I am very disciplined when it comes to keeping things neat and clean and at their proper place. My daughter Zahra is just one year old and doesn't understand these things but even now I do keep telling her even as I talk to her about it. After play time I pick up things and tell her what I am doing and she sees me keeping then properly in their place. I hope she picks up this habit fast and I continue to encourage her to do so!"

Seema Khot Mattoo

https://www.indiaforums.com/article/my-mom-my-idol_44328

Tell us some thing about yourself?

I am very naughty and like to do lots of masti but sometimes I am very simple too. I love acting and dancing.

How did acting happen to you?

When I was 9 years old, my Mom took me for an audition which was happening for NDTVImagine's Meera. I got selected and this is how I got my first show.

How do you manage between your studies and professional life?

I try and manage between both of them. I have spoken to my principal about this and I manage to strike a balance between my acting life and student life perfectly. I study in between my shots on the sets during my exams.

Can you relate yourself to Ginni?

Yes, I can relate myself to Ginni a little bit. Ginni is very sweet in front of her Mom, Dad and family but she is a strong and Rockstar kind of a girl in school. She is polite but in real I am not so polite and sweet but sometimes I am very naughty and bubbly.

With whom do you bond the best on the sets?

We are 5 kids. We all do lots of masti on sets. I share a very good bonding with my on-screen brother Rocky (Tapasvi Mehta). He is older than me so we don't have fights with each other. He is a very sweet kind of a person. The rest four of us fight a lot and at the same time we do lots of masti too.

What interests you other than acting?

I love dancing and I have been dancing since I was 3 years old.

Do your friends follow your show and give you feedback?

Yes, my friends do follow my show, and give their feedback according to the changes coming in the tracks.

Tell us the funniest prank ever played on someone on the sets of Parvarrish?

We keep on playing pranks on each other. The one which I can recall now is there was a sequence in which Ravi (Aanchal Munjal) goes into flashback and imagines Sunny (Rakshit Wahi) as a beggar. So, Sunny has to play a beggar for that sequence. He didn't expect that someone will come give some money to him. Ravi and I went to him during the takes and gave some money to him and the whole set cracked into laughter seeing Sunny.

Message to your fans?

I would like to say to my fans that even if you find the show boring please keep watching the show because there are lots of interesting tracks going to come up in the show which will entertain you all. Parvarrish is all about the sacrifices and other things your parents do for your well being. You should learn from this show so don't stop watching Parrvarish. Keep watching.

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