Do u agree with Anjies stand? - Page 2

Originally posted by: Armu4eva

I believe.. these are the contrasts..that the maker wishes to highlight..

We have been crying hoarse about Nidhis hesitation for a child.. and that she feels that she is still not ready to handle one... whereas we have Anjie for whom its a mere responsibility fulfillment.. have a kid.. give it to ur mom.. n thats it... !

I think.. Anjie while being the ever practical that she is.. will learn to be a mom... !

While i understand Anjies stand.. deffo not happy with her passing on the parcel ..attitude..!

In my office there are 2 ladies (around 25-28 age) who are best friend too.They were carrying almost around the same time . They are keeping their child with their Mothers who live in another city. They have left their child when it was just 6 months old and now the kids are almost 5 years old. These couples go once in a month with lot of gifts for chid as well as grand parents and Mama -Mami! I wonder how can they live without their own children.

Tanu ji, i voted for No.. The anjie- nidhi convo ws the worst scene of the epi.. Anjie may be practical bt she lacks maturity of being human being.. I wanted ranga to wack anjie right there infront of ashni for saying such abt their unborn child...

Originally posted by: rajanigandha26

In my office there are 2 ladies (around 25-28 age) who are best friend too.They were carrying almost around the same time . They are keeping their child with their Mothers who live in another city. They have left their child when it was just 6 months old and now the kids are almost 5 years old. These couples go once in a month with lot of gifts for chid as well as grand parents and Mama -Mami! I wonder how can they live without their own children.

Voted for NO.

Nice poll Tanuji. My POV: Parenting has to be parents's take only. Grandparents can help and guide as and when necessary but child raising should not be entirely their responsibility.

Voted for No. Children are entirely the responsibility of the parents. They can take the help and guidance from elders.

I would be a hypocrite if I said anything but yes. Although it was not planned that way, my mother took on complete responsibility of raising my children. This enabled me to go back to college to complete my PG and start working. Almost every working woman today, who has the luxury of a parent in the same city she lives in, depends on them to help her with child rearing. This has been the case historically in India. Grandparents and elders have taken on the responsibility of children even when the mothers have not been career women. That is how the family system works in our country. I refuse to sit in judgment on Anjie in this context. So long as her mother is happy doing it, I don't see what the crime is in taking support from her mother for childrearing. She has a support system that she is using. Otherwise, she would have to dump them on a nanny if she plans to work. And then spend all her time at work wondering if the child was being cared for properly. If a woman had to undertake childrearing all by herself, she would have to give up a career for a time at least. Why should we make that sacrifice when we can have the best of both worlds?

A very good point Tanu...

Regarding the child rearing... I say Yes..

because its practical, convenient and everyone is happy about the arrangement and no issues...

Anji was practical from the beginning... So she must have thought this way!!!

No doubt, parents have a bigger role in the upbringing of their children..but children brought up in the joint family have heir own advantages!!

No, I don't agree with Anjie's stand.