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Hi friends...Since Mallu's return in this pagal condition of hers the forum has been buzzing with posts and views about who is right and who is wrong...Whether love should be above friendship or vice-versa...And also whether Mallu's condition is genuine or just an act to get back at Nidhi for marrying her Ashu...(Sorry this is so far only my POV)...
KP in one of his tweets has said that there often is a clash between friendship and love...I agree that often one finds oneself in such a circumstance that he has to choose which of the two is more important to him/her...Friendship or love...As Ashu is facing at this moment...
He loves Nidhi but in his own way...He values Mallika's friendship a great deal and so far as he is concerned it has always been friendship from his side...Mallika loves Ashu and Ashu knows this...Now what confuses me (and possibly others also), is what should we make of Ashu's behaviour in the present scenario...The concern he shows towards Mallu and the way he is taking Nidhi's acceptance of his behaviour for granted is atrocious (sorry for the vehemence)...and is quite illogical...What does he think? That just because Nidhi is his wife she should take all this quietly without voicing her objection? Bringing a needy friend home and giving her shelter in ur house is one thing...But letting her fall all over u and u falling all over her...and too in front of ur newly wedded wife is unacceptable behaviour from any husband...whatever age he may be...How can Ashu be so thick skinned that he can't see what effect his behaviour could be having on Nidhi? And if he does not think about this then how can he claim to love Nidhi? Loving someone means we think first of that person and then about any one else or even ourselves...
When we see Ashu's behaviour from this view point then it looks as though he loves Mallu and not Nidhi...Loving is caring for someone and the way he cares for Mallu is way above the care he shows or has ever shown for Nidhi! If we look at it from this scenario then I think KP is trying to show that Ashu actually loves Mallu and not Nidhi...The deep care and concern he feels towards Mallu is so akin to love that it would sow the seeds of doubt in any wife's mind...So for all practical purposes KP is trying to convey the fact that a 12 yr friendship is more valuable than a 12 month love...Or to put it more bluntly what Ashu feels for Mallu is hidden love and what he has so far felt for Nidhi could have only been attraction for a younger girl... Is this the impact of age gap KP is trying to show?
As for Nidhi? What exactly does KP want to show? How magnanimous/understanding Nidhi is? Or how she bows down to Ashu's wishes and tries her best to please him/make him happy by doing everything he wants to do even if doing so hurts her feelings? Mallika has hurt her time and time again...and Ashu knows that...Just by saying "oh u are so understanding" does not wipe away the hurt Mallu has caused her...How can he be so thick-skinned that he can't even see how much hurt he could be causing his wife???
Sorry KP but I simply can't understand ur thought process in this track...Any wife will consider her husband's friend as her own and look after him'her for his sake...She can even forgive any wrong that 'friend' would have done to her just out of love for u...But it is too much to expect that wife to stand by (in the wings as they say) and watch u falling all over that friend and also the friend clinging to u for dear life...I doubt if any wife is broad-minded enough to take such hurtful behaviour from her husband...
There are only 2 ways Ashu can be made to realise what he is doing is wrong...
1) If Mallu is faking all this or exaggerating her mental condition...And all her past misdeeds and scheming against Nidhi and her family are brought to light...
2) If Ashu reads Rohan's letter and Rohan comes back to give moral support to Nidhi at this time...Ashu dear, then lets see what ur reaction to Nihan's closeness will be...
Sorry friends if I have hurt any feelings...But just wanted to express my thoughts and feelings...
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