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I completely believe in this particular statement: If It Hurts, It Still Matters.
If it stopped to matter you, you have moved on. You have moved out of that relationship completely with all your heart. But if still hurts, there's something still left... Or may be it was always there.
The Pain Reminds us that we still feel... We are alive and we are merely humans.
Here in DevAkshi's case, i don't think anybody has a doubt that it still matters to them. They still care. It matters to Sona what Dev says to her and thinks about the changes in her. It still matters Dev what Sona says and does.
Like for example... When Dev said you have become the old Dev you hate, it affected her. How can he even think that she has become like him. She got furious. Again yesterday when they had a fight... At the end of the day she remembered their moments in that house. From the good old days to the day everything ended. She was looking at Dev's side of the bed. It shows, it still matters.
For Dev, When during the camp she said "He's pretending to be happy" he got affected. He got angry, as what he is trying to portray infront of the whole world, he wants her to see the same thing. Again the fight yesterday... It affected him that Jatin has become that important in Sona's life that she left Suhana for more than half an hour to talk to him (Which was definitely not the case as we all know) and Sona raised the valid question, what was bothering Dev more that Soha is not well or to whom is Soha's mother talking. Anybody can figure it out with his expressions what was bothering him at that particular time. His flashbacks of their beautiful moments and at the end of it the day they separated... All of it showed, it still matters.
If You Only Knew How Much Those Little Moments With You Mattered To Me.
This is what DevAkshi's state of mind is when they are infront of each other... They think for the other person, its all over. And that makes them feel why is still affecting me, when he/she is unaffected. When the other person has moved on, why am i still stuck at the same place. And these unreasonable thoughts, the frustration and getting to see each other every single day is leading to these weirdest outbursts. These outbursts have no meaning, but they take out their frustration through it. And they look completely stupid doing all these idiotic fights for no reason.
Some people create their own storms then get upset when it rains.
These two always do the same. They themselves create the situation to fight and say mean things to each other in anger to get upset afterwards. This is happening since the day they met. They don't really mean the harsh words they say most of the times and when they realise what just happened they feel sorry. But what's the use, it has all already happened.
Its hard to tell your mind to stop loving someone, if your heart still does.
And this is what making things even difficult for them. To face each other 24*7 and still try to prove "Your presence doesn't affect me anymore". But they have learned in these 7 years to put on a mask of "I don't care" infront of everyone. And now it's getting difficult to hide behind that mask when the concerned person is right infront of you.
It's a battle between the brain and the heart. As it was said in the tagline of the show "KYA PAATE HAI... KYA KHOTE HAI... JAB DILON KE PHAISLE DIMAAG SE HOTE HAI". They took a decision for their daughter. They have made their families understand that it is just for Suhana... They have tried to make their inner self understand, they are doing it for Suhana. They have said it to each other too. But they are doing it too often in order to let their heart understand, it's all for Suhana.
Your Have to learn where your pain is. You have to burrow down and find the wound, and if the burden of it is too terrible to shoulder. You have to shout it out.
Now this is what i have been looking forward to post leap and it'll surely happen someday in the show... A complete outburst. First of all i really want Sona to burst out and let Dev know everything... Each and everything she felt... She has gone through for 7 years and how painful it has been for her. On the other hand, i also want Dev's outburst on whatever is in his heart... How has he survived these 7 years without her, when it was not even possible for him to spend a day without her. How they have faced everything all alone.
Yes, they had people around them. But was it enough for them to survive, to be strong. I don't think it would have been easy. They always say things that need to be told on face to others, but not to each other. Which is a setback. This is the main reason for their ever increasing fights. They are cordial at one moment and are fighting and arguing in the very next moment. As they don't converse like 2 mature people.
We Either Make Ourselves Miserable, Or We Make Ourselves Strong... The Amount Of Work Is The Same.
These two need to really think about it. The amount of work needed is the same. There are these regular outburst and blame game going on since long. Them pointing out to eachother that "You cannot be a good father ever" or "You are not a good mother" is just making the things worse, as now it is happening often. What they only need is a single outburst, when there's only the two of them. Venting out everything at once will help them to move forward calmly.
These regular fights and blame games are making the situation miserable not only for them but 1 day it'll reach Suhana too. But if they vent it out once and for all, they can act sane afterwards and come out as a strong team for their daughter.
Sona's one dialogue in the summer camp "Toh Aaj Hum Ek Happy Family Hote" has given me some kind of hope that, if they can really work out on their past mistakes, things can definitely work in their favor. And i really want that to happen. It'll not happen at this point of time and things are still messed up. But the process of realisation and working out on the mistakes can definitely start.
Now i think i should stop this long rant. I have not done any character analysis here. I have only written about the couple and what i feel about their relationship. I just don't want to get into blaming the one of them or both.
As i have followed the show from the very first episode, i strongly believe if not for the people around them, they would have been the happiest couple in the world. Their love was pure, it was innocent and they used to understand each other, the way nobody else does. Yes, their relationship couldn't withstand the storm earlier. But now they can definitely build it stronger, knowing all the mistakes and working out towards asking for forgiveness and forgiving the other person. The mistakes should not be repeated.
The things that people in love do to each other, they remember. And if they stay together, it's not because they forget. It's because they forgive.
And this is what DevAkshi needs to do. They still remember the beautiful moments together, but if at all they ever want to stay together in future, they need to sit and talk about it all, ask for forgiveness and grant the forgiveness.
Anupamaa
Kabhi Neem Neem Kabhi Shahad Shahad
