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Deepa

@deepsel

Rocker

+ 3

Posted: 8 years ago

Dear friends,

This is a response left by an ardent KRPKAB fan inside one of my post who happens to be a silent newbie and have acknowledged many members of this forum. I am posting this as a main post as it deserve it and also so that all those wonderful people can acknowledge this sweet person's wishes and leave messages for her to show how much it means to all of us😳.

Thank you once again Havima 🤗

Originally posted by: havima
Hi all dearies
Though i hve stalked this forum for half a decade.. i never joined to discuss any show.. watched only IPK nd RR before. But yest episode nd the harsh reality thy hve shown just blew my mind away.

I tried to watch shows with neutral point of view most of the times nd the excellent write ups frm u all apeases my need fr sharing my views. Kudos to u all fr writing so well

My mom has lived thru hell cos of her MIL.. Ishwari is better in front of her.. Krp is similar to my mom' s life.. my parents fell in love nd got married fighting all odds( although thy were related my moms family opposed to the match as they knew of her would be mil's nature).. i will come to it later why i call her my moms mil.

Though thy had a marriage with everyones consent.. my moms nightmare strted aft she shifted to the smaller town with her in laws. As Madhavi posted my parents had to get consent fr everything frm their in laws for their private time..

But the horror dawned on my mother aft my parents spend time together.. the older lady used to bawl her eyes out nd create so much scene tht half of the lane in the town cudnt console her nd later she will end up sleeping in btw my grandfather nd my father leaving my mom alone in the living room or the verandah..

for a newly wed nd married to a man with devish behaviour in a new town with half of the town judjing her, she lived thru hell. The old lady is so possessive of her men tht she even used to manipulate thm to turn thm against us kids nd hve thm beat us up.. at age of 7 9nd 10 we cudnt digress wht ws happening to us.. but my father was giving us as much as he can when we travelled around..

but later i think my father realised the real pic nd chose to stay in other cities cos of his job.. i can always see my mom stressed out nd anxious whenever the old lady visited us. The lehenga comment too hit me hard as my mom had to hear such comments (worst ever ) frm her.. she has lived thru this cos of her typical 'dev' in their private time.

the old lady passed away few yrs bk cos of cancer nd in my own granny's words.. her manipulations nd evil nature ate her up... (may god rest her soul)..

Since my father chose to ignore nd stay away frm the lady.. i appreciate the makers trying to explore this unchared territory.. i am really looking fwd the for progress of the show nd show us how to deal with it. I personally am learning several things frm the show..

Lastly my mom has become a 'neha' now nd we r having a difficult time whn she is having emotional breakdown.. will be very happy if the makers show more of neha too..how more relatable can the show get to me

For an ardent booklover like me the show has replaced all my reading habits.my days nd evenings are planned nd now revolve around 9.30 pm nd their repeats.

P.S. i hope the makers give us a convincing closure to the characters thy hve sketched. I love all the wonderful writers in this forum.. dikshat sajinifaby, rose4ever, maham, pushpull, doctor, dexterity.. sorry if i havnt mentioned some.. but i read each nd every one of the thread

deepsel nd silambu: neengal irandu perum nanraga eludugireergal

pkbdasji, vimal nd jade u get a spl mention nd big thanks frm me for breaking my idea tht only women watch romantic dramas..

P.P.S. i may not be an active writer in this forum but will keep reading all ur thoughts.. feels like i hve gone back to my college days nd chatting with my own gang..

Keep rocking guys

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Rope_of_Hope

@Rope_of_Hope

Sparkler

+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

hi deeps while reading her post i had tears in my eyes immediately i sent a pm to her..and one more thing this is the only forum most of us sharing our personal experience..really love this forum and the show .the show is so close to reality it tend us to share our personal experiene..hats off the team of KRPKAB👏

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pkbdas61

@pkbdas61

Dazzler

Posted: 8 years ago

Thank you very much. I do not recollect seeing this post...

Very sweet of you Havima.. yes, I know that there are overly obsessed MIL's in this world. I have written multiple times that it would be hell for any DIL to be live with a combination like Ishwari-Dev. Sad to hear about your mother... poor lady must have gone through hell...

Thanks for your post and do write more often!

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Monalisa(Hundi..my mom gave this name :)..

@Monaleojan

Inactive

+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

Hey Vagwan..that so Rude... :o

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Sneha

@Rhy2015

Inactive

+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

Really happy that u acknowledged her msg n presented in front of us...yes the show like KRPkAB is really close to reality...very happy to b a part of this forum.

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ashakd

@ashakd

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

Welcome Havia, we are a mature bunch here but quite crazy too. Join the fun.

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Deepa

@deepsel

Rocker

+ 3

Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: Monaleojan
Hey Vagwan..that so Rude... :o

😲 dear , what are you implying? My post or her situation ? I hope its the latter 😆

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Chandni Davey.

@Chandniyati

Dazzler

Posted: 8 years ago

A hearty thnks for such post... thank u for enlighten such post...

Havima thank u for making us aware with such situations...

I know I see many facing such issues around me... the limit or the way may b more or less but is there...

Even I have faced n facing some same situation from these...

I have never complained for any character coz I see them in real n can relate to such characters...

Even I don't b active much...

But I love the show for what it is n the way it is presented...

N so I really know n understand the effects of it ..

Being strong n live such situations is really task of a gem...

She must really strong n emotional n after such emotional breakdown is natural... she really needs a strong support sill...

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dikshat

@dikshat

Voyager

+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

Before I go on with anything further...or even before welcoming you to this forum..

Dear Havima... 🤗 🤗
Take this as a big tight hug from me darling...and mayb not just from me but from all of us here. I hope this hug does the same magic a real hug does.
And I really want you to, for real, go to your mom first and hug her the same way...a really tight one for a few seconds.
Coz no matter whatever I write after this, it won't make that difference which this hug will do. Sometimes we fall too short of words and this is exactly my situation right now. I have a lot going on inside me after reading your post, but too many words will still not be able to do justice, for What is your story to me is Life to you.

You know what you just did?
I call this an act of courage. It takes immense courage to bring out your story to people. Majority of us don't do it and keep it to ourselves. Some of us share it personally with someone. And very few ..very few are able to share it with everyone. I won't say others are not courageous. They too are for its tough to face a life which gives your all the reasons to break down and people like you and your mom still get up each day to live it again..never to give up. I am sure there must have been instances where your mom would have felt like giving up but then she would have got your face in front of her and she would have again given life a chance.
Some people even choose to leave their situation and step into a new life. Even they have some end to their miseries as time does make you accept things (heal or not I don't know). Initially its tough but it does get better.
But to continue with the same life, each and every day knowing the darkness it is taking you into cannot be understood. It takes all to do it. It brings you to a place where no matter what, you just cannot go back to the person you once were or wanted to be.

And You know what is the best part about you that I saw in your post?
Inspite of whatever you mom, you and your father went through, you still kept your post restricted to what you and you mom faced without speaking ill of you grandmother after what she did. Yes, you addressed her as old lady and not your grandmother, but I truly relate to that coz relationships are felt and it comes from within(I too never spoke to my grandmother for my entire life). But we can surely make our life better by letting karma do its work not letting bitterness take over us.

Now, I Welcome you to the Forum dear.
I see my name there in your post. And it gave me a good feeling.
But can I request you something plsss...??
I really would want you to come to this place and not be silent reader. Maybe not too many posts, but we really need something From somone like you who has faced things of which we can only talk about.
People like me need to know your story for it will be inspiring one for us ...a story where life tried to knock you down but your family stood up. Such experiences need to be shared and known. We have too much negativity in our lives and we need more of positivity. such experiences will surely bring balance and make us have a different outlook towards seeing life.
For you, it can always be a place to release your baggage. They say na "we all come with a baggage, find a place which helps you unpack".

Plus this place will surely make you laugh and smile and bring tears to your eyes..but they will be tears of joy. We have a crazy bunch of people here, your stalking must have told you..

God Bless!!

PS: Deeps 🤗 coz I don't need a reason to give you one ❤️

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havima

@havima

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

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A big thank u to all of u for the welcome.

U guys r literally pulling me out of my silent mode nd l will try my level best.. for u guys im a newbie but fr me i hve been associated with u all fr the last 6months so doesnt feel new fr me at all

Dont be mad at me if i hvnt hit the like button on ur posts. Its because my entire day passes by reading all the threads

I can see some wonderful writers are staying away frm the forum.. i wish thy comebk too

Keep the craziness going