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This is my first post on this forum. I've been reading so many of the posts and it got me to thinking abt a lot of things. I also kept wondering why are they keeping it a secret considering they didn't actively decide to hide their relationship like other tv couples that I've seen. The only thing that makes sense is that since it is their first love and relationship, they just want to keep it to themselves as long as they can. They want to be selfish coz this is the only relationship where both of them can afford to be themselves and be selfish for themselves. I think both of them are providers for their families obviously more for Dev but even Sona to an extent.
Going along with that, I wanted to ask whether Dev really does share everything he feels with Ishwari. I know he share important decisions and he def needs to share this one but from what I've seen, it seems he hid his inner most worries, feelings etc. from everyone. That's why he had the sleepless nights right? So it's clear that while they do have a stronger relationship than normal mother-son relationships, I still don't think he shares his real true feelings with Ishwari until he's ready or has to. Even the thing with Natasha, he talked to Natasha first and then just informed Ishwari. He didn't really take her advice or include her in such an important decision. Both when he agreed to the engagement or when he broke the engagement. Also, didn't Sona say to Elena that when she has a problem or something to share, she has Elena, Dada and even her mom but Dev has no one. I think it's true. I think before Sona, he would keep every feeling to himself coz it was mostly problems or troubles. I think he didn't have a lot of really happy moments relating to him as an individual before Sona. Like he said, he's never loved/wanted anything for himself but her. So I think he's following what he's used to doing. He's not used to sharing his feelings so easily even or rather esp his mom. I think right now, he's not even thinking abt telling her coz then he'd have to face the question on whether she likes her and what he would do if she didn't etc.
I think she's the most important woman in his life but she's on a pedestal so for him, their relationship for him is more about taking care of her and keeping her happy. On the other hand, I think for Ishwari, she considers them more than that. She's dependent on him for everything and also feels that they're best friends to boot. She expects him to share everything with her (esp personal). I feel her expectations and needs out of their relationship are much higher than his.
Sorry for the ramble. I've had soo many thoughts going on in my head since I started watching the show that I couldn't help but share at least some part of it.
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