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My all-time favourite definition of love is from the Bible. After watching yesterday's episode, my respect for Milind and his love has increased manifold. I think Milind's love is befitting this definition. Here is the verse and my interpretation of it for Milind.
Love is patient and kind.
Even after meeting his wife after 5 years, 7 months and 12 days, the man waited patiently to hear his wife's explanation as to why she left him and how she landed in the D family. He was kind and sympathetic to her plight.
Love is not envious, boastful, arrogant or rude.
He was not envious of the fact that while he led the life of a vagabond all these years she seemed to have lived quite comfortably amidst people who seemed to care for her.
He was not boastful that his love was superior to hers because he suffered more.
He was not arrogant in his behaviour towards her and did not rub in her mistakes.
He was not rude in his discourse with her but showed a great deal of maturity in reigning in his emotions. Given his quick temper, this must have indeed been a herculean task, especially after he learnt that she had hid the fact that he had fathered a son.
Love does not insist on its own way.
While he wanted her to declare her love for him in the presence of every one and come with him, he did not insist on this for he wanted her to come back on her own as his Prachi, after removing all traces of Panchi residing in her.
Love is not irritable or resentful.
Any other man in his place would have been both irritated and resentful of her behaviour. Yet he showed utmost understanding of her past behaviour and was willing to forgive and overlook her flaws and take her back unconditionally.
Love does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth.
This does not mean he approves of her mistakes. He does not approve of them and reminded her of her promises to him at the time of her marriage. He rightfully asked her how she can deprive him of his family so as to appease the family of a woman she hardly knew.
Love bears all things,
Not only did the man bear the pain of separation for over five and a half years, he bore the pain of rejection when she stubbornly refused to come with him, citing the responsibility she had towards her children.
believes all things,
Despite the fact that his wife spent all these years faking as someone else's wife and shared a room with him, the man steadfastly believed in her chastity. He believed that she could have never let another man near her other than him. He believes in his own love and knows that he will win her in the end.
hopes all things,
The man has practically survived on hope all these years, hope that he will meet his wife some day. Now that he has met her, he realises his quest for happiness is not over yet. So he hopes that he can make her see where her priorities lie. He hopes to extinguish Panchi from her being and take back his wife, Prachi with their son.
endures all things.
For this he is willing to endure any amount of pain. It hurts to see her faking as the wife of a stranger. It hurts to see his son call that stranger his father. Yet, he is willing to reside in that house and witness this day in and day out, till the day his wife sees reason. He is willing to subject himself to this ignominy because he wants to live with his family, but he will get her to admit the irrevocable truth that her place is by his side.
Love never ends.
No it never does. If it did, he would not be standing before her waiting to take her back with dignity not humiliation and willing to face any challenge that comes his way.
Now faith, hope and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love
He has faith; he has hope; but most of all he has the unconditional and indisputable love which will surmount any trial or tribulation that comes his way and emerge triumphant.
From Saint Paul's First Letter to the Corinthians (13:1-8, 13)
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