Originally posted by: amrapali2
It's commendable that your office took action. Uncomfortable gestures need to be identified and acted upon accordingly. We live in a social world with human interactions, and if someone cannot recognise that they are making the opposite person uncomfortable, then they are the problem.
For me the hand holding is the more disturbing because Ehsan is Katha's boss. That adds a power dynamic element also. This was one of the main problems that I had with Viaan giving the ONS offer (as he is her boss). But now the issue is not Viaan, it's Ehsan. So I hope that Viaan confronts Ehsan that he has no right to be cozy with an employee like this.
that guy was a bit of a lecher and so to be honest, was not surprised that he got fired. I was more surprised that he ticked off the men that they made the complaint rather than the women who were plainly ignoring him. what I heard was that during training, he would stand too closely in the guise of checking their programming (this was IT company). so more than the office, I was more impressed with the other men in the training who felt protective of the women colleagues and though this idiot needs to be chucked. if they didn't keep the complaints, the office would have ignored it. (this was a bakwas company to say the least and a terrible working experience)
back to the drama, weirdly enough I find ehsaan to be more intolerable compared to viaan. so even though viaan made the ONS offer, it was made as a personal thing -- he didn't crowd into her space and there was a formality to how he made it. she had the option to shut him down, to set terms and basically navigate how she saw fit. if she had stuck to her 'no', he wouldn't have come back and harassed her for it. viaan clearly has boundaries even when he was doing something unacceptable.
whereas ehsaan is clearly crossing boundaries. there have been a few times when he asked her to share stuff from her personal life. katha instead shuts him down with a smile, switches topics and has basically said nothing. one was the coffee, the second was the first time in office when he asked her about cancer, the third was during office lunch. so at least 3 times I can think of, she has indicated that she does not see him as a friend and has no interest in calling him or telling him anything. he is ignoring everything and going over to her house, now holding her hands. am afraid that katha needs to be a bit more blunt with ehsaan and tell him that she does not see him as a friend at all.
