Originally posted by: Madhu_Scarlet
Bajaj keeps mentioning about how much he trusts Prerna and now that he is falling in love with her, and trying to make her family also like him. Will Bajaj let go of Prerna by freeing her from the marriage, trusting and hoping that she will come back to him?
Not at this point. No. If he does, it'll be incredibly stupid of him. Also, I don't think that's something he can do.
Bajaj is a grey character because he is so very selfish. He looks out for himself or those he considers as his own. He does things that are ruthless if viewed from outside, but if you get into his headspace, you'll understand his motivation.
He needed Prerna for Kukki, which is a bit stupid if viewed logically. There are one thousand things he could have done to take care of this situation in real life but in the context of the show, marrying Prerna was his only option. Similarly, in real life, no one can corner anyone into agreeing to marriage the way Bajaj did to Prerna. But in the context of the show, Prerna's only option was to marry Bajaj. And before anyone points out that Prerna could have told Anurag about this, please understand that her character has a martyr complex. The first time, when Mohini and Naveen cornered Prerna into marrying him, instead of sharing her problem with her family, she decided to sacrifice herself. She doesn't trust others to solve a problem.
So we have two characters who are like extremes. Bajaj is selfish to the T and Prerna doesn't even think about her needs and happiness.
Now, Bajaj is falling in love with Prerna. (Which to me is in and of itself stupid because he has no reason to love Prerna right now but anyhow 🙄) So, the show hasn't explained this but I think it's because Bajaj had a crappy childhood, and so he is affection-starved. Right now, his love for Prerna is superficial. He sees the amount of care she shows to his daughter and her beau and it's incredible for him because he doesn't understand this selflessness. It is a novelty. And so he craves it for himself. At this point, it's an infatuation for him. And he will not love her unconditionally for a long time to come.
Unconditional love is a different beast altogether. It is not affected by the lack of reciprocation, or even indifference. Bajaj is not there. Right now, what he wants is to be loved by Prerna. For him to be able to let her go, he has to love her despite knowing that she might never reciprocate, that she will be, can be happy without him, and most importantly, he has to stop needing her for Kukki. Because as long as he needs her, he can't love her unconditionally. And him not needing her is not gonna happen anytime soon.
Also on the subject of trust... Bajaj doesn't trust Prerna with everything. He only trusts her where there are reasons for him to trust. He knows he can trust her with Kukki because he has seen Prerna's love and concern for his daughter. He also knows he can trust her to be loyal to him because he knows her as a person of integrity. He knows that she'll not overstep the boundaries of marriage. But he has no reason to trust her to come back to him if he lets her go, because he knows she is in love with someone else. He doesn't expect emotional fidelity from her. If he lets her go, she has zero reasons to come back and he knows that. He can hope that she'll come back, but that's stupid because he knows he doesn't have her love and BAJAJ IS A REALIST.
So he's not letting her go. And he shouldn't too. Not until Prerna feels something for him otherwise there's no point of him in Kasautii. When he lets her go, it will be his transformation from being selfish to selfless for the person he loves. Like Prerna always does. And if Prerna chooses to come back to him, against the wishes of all those around her, it will be her doing something selfish, for her own happiness.
Edited by aryapdane - 5 years ago