Originally posted by: psawyer
Oh dear lord, another post about the same thing! 😆 This is a popular subject these days 😆
Ok, for what its worth - my two cents. Now, please bear in mind that I haven't actually watched the show since end of September, but I have read Shruti's rocking updates and heard other peoples' opinions on this topic...
Firstly, I understand completely that AP are friends and they share a relationship because of their children. Fine. But any friendship has its limits. A friend can be there for their friend in troubling times; a friend can support their friend and help them out of pain and heartache. BUT, a friend cannot or should I say, SHOULD NOT live their friend's live FOR them. All said and done, what is happening to Prerna is HER LIFE - Anu and Sam Anu &&& SAM?? Hello all she's doin is sitting back & commenting....if she's so worried den her bein a woman she shud und Prerna more dan Anu....Prerna is vry lonely & she rly needs a friend.... dey havent crossed any limits...it's all in the open....crossing limits is wen somethin's done secretly.....bt psawyer U havent been watchin it lately so mayb it's a different wit u....can be there for her, support her and help her out, but why does Anu have to live her life for her? Being a friend means trying to reduce your friends pain, not joining them in it. What comes of wallowing in someone else's misery, anyway?
And what the HECK is a "dard ka rishta"?? All he's tryin2 say is dat watevr pain has cme in2 their lives has joined dem 2gether again....it's lik their weakness...coz komo,apo*na all knew their past & juz wanna destroy dem...so i hope u'v got wat d term actually means.....Please, SOMEONE explain this to me because it is the DUMBEST idea I have ever heard. Pain does not have a rishta. Pain is pain is pain. Instead of trying to get rid of the pain, Anurag seems bent on turning that pain into a relationship - why is he holding onto something that brings hurt? Only because, in the most tenuous way, it provides a link to Prerna? That's ridiculous. They'r nt the ones goin bk 2 pain & sufferin bt the pain itself is pulling dem towards dem coz dey share the same sort of pain....loss of son...etc
Next, loyalty in friendship is important. But the most important relation is that of family. And their respective spouses ARE that family. Family should always take precedence over friendship. Sam has never said that she didn't want AP to be friends - in fact, she has been MORE of a friend to Prerna in the past - supporting her over Anurag during the rape case, and forcing her to stay in basu House over the leap. Any other wife - Komo, Aparna etc - would have booked a hotel or guesthouse for Prerna and sent her and her family packing. Sam's far better dan komo so no comparison there & yes I agree she has been a good frnd 2 P in d past den y not? Instead of tellin Anu 2 break up his friendship it wud hav been better if she wud hav taken d lead & wud hav given P a helping hand.....
Sam has only wanted one thing - why should her husband share his sorrows with someone else? When he wants to talk, or cry or curse his kismat, he can come to Sam and she is expected to be there for him. But when she wants to share his sorrows herself, she is sent away? OK, maybe he wasn't in a mood to talk. But why share such feelings with Prerna - a so-called "friend", and then, moments later, shout at your wife to leave you alone? What does that mean? What would ANY wife, in that situation, construe that as? No he doesnt do dat! He juz did it wen Mukti passed away...& it was also lik dey had lost Prem again... bt no matter wat Prem is AP's son & nobody in d whole wide world cn hav d same heartache as dem......Sam wudnt hav been abl2 console him in the same way.......coz she wudnt rly knw d real pain....
And maybe Sam is being jealous over the TV report. So what? Given what she has been made to see recently, does her jealousy strike you as odd? When AP went to Panchmeshwar to buy Bajaj's hotel back, why didn't he tell Sam he was going? When Prerna asked him, he said "I don't have time to tell her right now, Mr. Bajaj is here...blah blah" - tell me; how long does it take to pick up a phone and say, "Hi wifey, just to let you know, I'm in Panchmeshwar with my ex-lover, but not to worry, I am only here to find her husband for her"??? Two minutes? Ten, at the most? And he says he doesn't even have TEN minutes for his wife? U cnt expect ppl 2 rem even some major bit wen u'r in d mid of a crisis.... even Prerna dint knw....bt sam shud hav known dat it's jus coz he's so tensed these days dat he might hav forgotten...he nvr hides nythin frm her.....
When Prerna was in jail, AB and Sam romanced like horny teenagers. As soon as Prerna is out, he goes back to her? Obviously Sam managed to keep him occupied these past five years and would have done the full fourteen, had Prerna not come out. So Sam presumably has something that his previous wives (incl. Prerna) don't. Wen P was in jail there werent as many complications as there r nw.....think abt it!!
And notice how Anurag said TWICE - "I have only loved one woman in my life and that is Prerna" but Prerna is clearly besotted with Bajaj - so much so that she is crying over him day and night. Who is the one who has not been able to move on? He was talkin abt d past & hw he had loved only her bt he cudnt make her his own....stp misinterpreting guyz!!
What I can't understand is, if AB is going ot keep harping on about his and P's relationship being "pavitra" Pavitra bcoz everythin is done in sam's sight & openly...nothin is done secretly.., then why the hell is he not able to share that friendship with his wife? Why are Sam and Prerna mutually exclusive in his life? Dats Sam's choice, Anu nvr told her 2 kp away frm their friendshipWhy does he feel the need to lie or omit details from his wife, regarding Prerna, if they are just "good friends"?
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