U stretched this far too much, BANI!!!

Hello Everyone!

Does anyone find any justified reason for Bani's behaviour? Please do let me know coz as far and wide as I can think… this is the most insensitive, inhumane behaviour I have seen on Kasamse… not only form Bani but from every single person who stood against Jai, and so to say they were the people he considered closer even than his immediate family. I am sorry if I end up offending someone with this post. If u find Bani justified, it is a better to give this post a skip.

How could Bani do something of this kind? She arranges for a LAVISH wedding at Jai's house, invites guests over and if even that wasn't enough gets the Media just to keep Jai in check. Then came the MOST INSENSITIVE, CALCULATIVE move… Bani asking Jai to bless the couple??? Any justifications on that front apart from telling Jai 'He LOST'? She might have sounded calm and dignified, but that didn't take away from the fact that it ridiculed the Man, JAI WALIA. I am not saying this coz I am sad cz the pride, the ego of Jai Walia bit dust… I couldn't believe she put him through the pain of wishing that someone he loved Good luck. I am a huge Bani admirer… but this act of her left me shaken.

What more? She tells Pia that she is sorry for not having a wedding she deserved. Excuse me Mrs. Walia, what was it exactly that you have dreamt for your sisters wedding and couldn't do? Get Jai to arrange for a grander wedding??? Simply atrocious.

Then came the icing on the cake… Bani strolling into Jai's study with a content HAPPY smile on her face. Did she for a moment think about Jai's state of mind? I might have said I don't expect anything from her before this episode but I was so sure she will have guilt in her eyes when she meets Jai. NOTHING. Forget regret, she didn't even have concern for Jai. She coolly, unaffected says it was her only option. Bani for a moment left me wondering if she took such an extreme step for Love, not that of Pia and Pushkar… but for that of hers and Jai's!!! Was it insecurity and jealousy that lead her to such a drastic step. I know I am making no sense… but Bani didn't make any sense to me.

No matter how bad Jigayasa is, I thought today she was the saving grace. She made sure, Jai's dignity stayed intact. And I am happy atleast for once she stood up for her brother. Dadi was another person who claimed to be Jai Mom, if I amnot mistaken…. What did she do? Ridicule Jigyasa's concern for her brother? Proud of Jigyasa when she said "main unmein Se nahi hoon jo dukh mein apnoon ke sath dene ke bajah gairon ke kushion mein shamil hote hain."

All said and DONE… the real payback time is HERE. Jai will destroy everything and mostly HIMSELF. I know he told Bani he will show her what 'Marriage' means… but I am 100% sure that he wont resort to pyshcial abuse. No matter how bad things are He WONT stoop down to such a level. From what Jai said "tumne shadi ko ek mazak bana ke rak diya hai"I gathered he values this relationship and the sanctity of it more than Bani does and more than we will be able to imagine.

I don't want to waste my energy of time on Pia-Pushkar… simply coz they are not worth it. a bunch of spineless losers who deserve eachother and noone better. I am not wishing them luck for this wedding… coz they really don't value or have any respect for their relationship… coz if they had they wouldn't have resorted to such a cowardly act. Even without Jai bothering them, their relationshio wont hold for long. Bani just blew up her goodness for these two.

At the end of the day? Did it serve the purpose of dealing with the situation? No. It only worsened the situation. My point is Jai's reactions arent unpredictable... He would be raging with further at the end of the day... knowing this, was it worth it? I don't see any respite from this hostile situation… it is just going to get worse. And Bani, this time u just stretched your luck and Jai's almost nil patience far too much. There is no one to save u from this situation, except for Jai. And I doubt he will do it even if he falls in love with you.

Sorry once again!

Luv

Anu.

u said all this but did u once think wht bani was gng thru.. did u see the things that jai walia did to her sister n the guy she(bani) loved?? why are we forgetting the fact that bani loves/loved pushky!! i knw tht everyone wants her n jai to get together but right now they are not. and this story is more abt bani's love... and she has proved it tht she loves her sister more than anything or anyone else in this world.. y are u forgetting tht she herself also is soooo hurt cuz she saw her love being married to her own sister???

bani is not selfish.. she jus got back to jai the way he tried to get back at the 2 ppl she loved soooooo much!!! jus imagine wht she has been gng thru..she fought wit the whole world for this sister of hers who broke her own trust.. cmon the serial is all abt bani's love for pia and rano.. and the fact tht she wud do anything for them.. she proved it today..

in fact i love bani even more today for this.. we shudnt sympathize wit jai today... cuz he got wht he gave.. wht goes arnd comes arnd... right??

im talking abt jai not ram.. so think of the character and not the actor please..

wht do u guys think??

i think whatever bani did was justified!! you are not looking at the bad side of it!! Bani knows that after she's done getting pushy and pia married, she will have to go through serious dilemma!! Her life is already hell, and jai will make it more miserable!! she did her duty towards her sister pia because she promised her father that she'll always take care of her sisters no matter what!! i understand jai is very hurt, but if she wouldn't have got pia and pushy married, then they would never be together for rest of their lives as jai said to bani!! well pushy and pia's marriage is not going to be a good one, because im sure they'll go through a lot!! i did find one thing bad that when bani asked jai to give blessings to pushy and pia!! he must have went through a lot of commotion!! i think because of pushy and pia, both jai and bani are suffering, and now in order to justify jai's anger, he's going to teach bani a lesson, who has nothing left in her life already!!

I don't know Anu...but somehow I think that you have percieved the episode in a different way than I have...dunno, I am getting konfused now! 😕

Bani does not look happy when she goes to Jai's study...wait, the repeat is going to be aired anytime now...its 11:30 Pm in India (and I know I am mad 😳 ) Let me watch the episode once more and get clear on the whole issue...I definitely saw pain in Bani's eyes when Jai plants the kiss on Pia's forehead...and she does try and offer Jai an olive branch when she goes to meet him afterwards....but yes, she wasn't the docile, pleading girl she was a week before....but then, Jai has also crossed a lot of limits...

OMG...how could I forget to add the most important line that Bani tells Jai! She tells Jai, "Main aapki bahut izzat karti hoon"...Bani is not the sort of person who will utter such lines if she does not mean them....she absolutely respects Jai and as far as I can see wants to be a good wife to him....but at the same time, she wants sanity to prevail...its not a question of just protecting Pia or supporting her sisters, it is also a question of getting all the hatred and bitterness out of Jai's heart, once and forever...for his own good!

I am not saying that what Bani did was totally correct, but one thing is sure, what Jai is doing is absolutely wrong now....Bani appeared insensitive because she truly had no other option and Jai has the option to be a magnamious person but he chooses to be otherwise....

I am personally of the opinion that Jai should let go now....he has been wronged, everyone knows it....and if he can forgive Pia, what is wrong in forgivng Bani....and as I mentioned before, she has already got a punishment far worse than her crime...Jai does not love her and even if he does in the future, she will never occupy the place that Pia did....nothing can be more demeaning for a woman and a wife...Bani has to live with this bitter truth!

For Bani, nothing matters more than love...and Jai does not love her....Khel Khatam.....she has lost even before the battle has begun....and on top of that Jai is going to destroy the very fabric of her life...Bani has nothing left...and I think that rather than spend the rest of her life cowering under her Husband's omnious shawdow, she should try and live her own life also...

Jai has got over what has happened to him, he should just live and let live...we all sympathize with him and he has been betrayed by the people nearest to him...but as Bani tells him that what has happened cannot be brought back....and by living in the past, he is bringing maximum pain to himself!

Oh, I feel so depressed today..... 😭

MT

i agree with u there MT!! so true

Originally posted by: justneh

u said all this but did u once think wht bani was gng thru.. did u see the things that jai walia did to her sister n the guy she(bani) loved?? why are we forgetting the fact that bani loves/loved pushky!! i knw tht everyone wants her n jai to get together but right now they are not. and this story is more abt bani's love... and she has proved it tht she loves her sister more than anything or anyone else in this world.. y are u forgetting tht she herself also is soooo hurt cuz she saw her love being married to her own sister???

bani is not selfish.. she jus got back to jai the way he tried to get back at the 2 ppl she loved soooooo much!!! jus imagine wht she has been gng thru..she fought wit the whole world for this sister of hers who broke her own trust.. cmon the serial is all abt bani's love for pia and rano.. and the fact tht she wud do anything for them.. she proved it today..

in fact i love bani even more today for this.. we shudnt sympathize wit jai today... cuz he got wht he gave.. wht goes arnd comes arnd... right??

im talking abt jai not ram.. so think of the character and not the actor please..

wht do u guys think??

I think u got me wrong... I surely am one Bani supporter... and it has nothing to do with Ram or Prachi.

I am not turining overlooking Bani's hurt and pain.. but what i am trying to say is... how correct is Bani to overlook Jai's pain and hurt for sister's and friend's happiness??? And i wouldnt call her selfish.

Thinking about issues from Jai's point of view doesnt mean i agree with what ever he does. He is destroying Pia-Pushkar's life... IT IS WRONG. But wasnt Pia-Pushkar wrong in destroying him? Why is Jai being made out a villian? coz he is using his power to his advantage? Why is he being termed BAD? Just coz he cant FORGIVE? Jai is not a saint... he is human... it is difficult for him to cope with the tragedy. All i am saying for the better of everyone is not to infuriate an already raging Jai. Going against him and hurting him more is no solution.

I am aware of the pain and hurt that Bani is going through. But that doesnt mean she expects Jai to deal with the situation in the manner she did. At the end of the day... was there any good that came out of this? NOTHING. She just worsened the situation for all, including Jai.

Luv

Anu.

Originally posted by: mistletoe

I don't know Anu...but somehow I think that you have percieved the episode in a different way than I have...dunno, I am getting konfused now! 😕

Bani does not look happy when she goes to Jai's study...wait, the repeat is going to be aired anytime now...its 11:30 Pm in India (and I know I am mad 😳 ) Let me watch the episode once more and get clear on the whole issue...I definitely saw pain in Bani's eyes when Jai plants the kiss on Pia's forehead...and she does try and offer Jai an olive branch when she goes to meet him afterwards....but yes, she wasn't the docile, pleading girl she was a week before....but then, Jai has also crossed a lot of limits...

OMG...how could I forget to add the most important line that Bani tells Jai! She tells Jai, "Main aapki bahut izzat karti hoon"...Bani is not the sort of person who will utter such lines if she does not mean them....she absolutely respects Jai and as far as I can see wants to be a good wife to him....but at the same time, she wants sanity to prevail...its not a question of just protecting Pia or supporting her sisters, it is also a question of getting all the hatred and bitterness out of Jai's heart, once and forever...for his own good!

I am not saying that what Bani did was totally correct, but one thing is sure, what Jai is doing is absolutely wrong now....Bani appeared insensitive because she truly had no other option and Jai has the option to be a magnamious person but he chooses to be otherwise....

I am personally of the opinion that Jai should let go now....he has been wronged, everyone knows it....and if he can forgive Pia, what is wrong in forgivng Bani....and as I mentioned before, she has already got a punishment far worse than her crime...Jai does not love her and even if he does in the future, she will never occupy the place that Pia did....nothing can be more demeaning for a woman and a wife...Bani has to live with this bitter truth!

For Bani, nothing matters more than love...and Jai does not love her....Khel Khatam.....she has lost even before the battle has begun....and on top of that Jai is going to destroy the very fabric of her life...Bani has nothing left...and I think that rather than spend the rest of her life cowering under her Husband's omnious shawdow, she should try and live her own life also...

Jai has got over what has happened to him, he should just live and let live...we all sympathize with him and he has been betrayed by the people nearest to him...but as Bani tells him that what has happened cannot be brought back....and by living in the past, he is bringing maximum pain to himself!

Oh, I feel so depressed today..... 😭

MT

That is my problem na MT... Jai is going MAD now... there is nothing that is going to stop him. Who is in trouble now? BANI & JAI! Jai is not going to stop at anything now... knowing Jai's temperment this was a wrong thing to do... keeping in mind the peace of everyone connected.

I am dont want sympathy for jai... i just want some understanding for him no one understands him, he needs time to heal... why is he being blamed coz he is not able to forgive? Mujhe samaj nahi araha.

He hasnt forgiven Pia? What made u think that? That kiss on her forehead meant nothing... his dangerous look he gave her, sent cold shivers down her spine for sure. He is not going to deter from making sure she wont be happy coz that would mean... even Bani suffers. And Bani's smile was surely there... if not fully happy but def CONTENT😕

It is a complete no win situation and expecting Jai to calm down NOW... is impossible. any soft corner he had for Bani is gone. There is no solution to this but to let Jai calm down... coz it can never happen that Jai will accept defeat if he is loses. He will strike back and with VENGENCE and more dangerously.

And dear, Jai didnt love Pai... it is just infatuation, attraction. That emotion is reserved for his Darling Wife... dont worry, one eska gussa drains out of his system he will be able to see it more clearly. Both of them are blessed with eachother. 😃 I am asking for just some time for this gaint to cool down. (That is next to IMPOSSIBLE now) and i really dont know what is going to cool him down

Hmmmm...interesting discussion let me add my two cents to this...

We discussed earlier who was the biggest loser amongst them all and I said that before and saying it now, Bani loses the most. Jai is obsessed with Pia but Bani truly loved Pushkar....People make such a hullabaloo about how she shouldn't have asked Jai to bless the couple but atleast he was spared the pain of watching the one he loved with all his heart being bound in holy matrimony with someone who is equally so very dear to her. And then she will always be Jai's second choice no less...
Anything more hurtful for a woman than the fact that she loses her love to her much undeserving younger sister, the man who is her husband will never love her the way he loved her sister????

Originally posted by: anut

Hmmmm...interesting discussion let me add my two cents to this...

We discussed earlier who was the biggest loser amongst them all and I said that before and saying it now, Bani loses the most. Jai is obsessed with Pia but Bani truly loved Pushkar....People make such a hullabaloo about how she shouldn't have asked Jai to bless the couple but atleast he was spared the pain of watching the one he loved with all his heart being bound in holy matrimony with someone who is equally so very dear to her. And then she will always be Jai's second choice no less...
Anything more hurtful for a woman than the fact that she loses her love to her much undeserving younger sister, the man who is her husband will never love her the way he loved her sister????

Bang on Anut, just my point...Both Jai and Bani have lost a lot, but Bani's loss is the loss of a lifetime........she lost out on the man she loved and she has no hope of getting the love of the man she married.....😔Jai atleast has a choice, he can get Bani's selfless and devoted love if he wants to.....the Ball is in his Court...she has offered a friendly hand today....he not only refused it, but further broke it....

MT

i havent seen the episode yet but based on what i've read i dont think bani's action is justified. i agree that pushkar/pia marriage is a total cowardly act. but i'm glad that pia is going to regret marrying pushkar because she's gonna be crying since there wont be any money for her. but yea looks like jai wont ever love anyone except pia. it's a darn shame b/c i thought pia/jai shouldve married each other and bani/pushkar shouldve been together. oh well. i think at this point EVERYONE NEEDS TO SUFFER IN THIS SHOW EXCEPT JAI