Are people really like this?

I just can't understand how people think like this:

1. No one likes Sudha and Jyoti because they are middle class.

2. They treat other people's daughters like crap. But, when it's their own daughters, they can't understand why people are treating them this way - for instance, CM tries to talk to Meenal's inlaws about Meenal returning and how unfair it is to treat her in this way, but CM herself treats Sudha and Jyoti like they are nothing.

3. Meena's father in law is concerned about the girl who Uday was supposed to marry so much that he has forgotten that he has stopped Meenal to reunite with her husband.

4. Meenal's husband doesn't have any say in whether his wife stays with him or not.

5. They agree to marriage between children without even the children accepting, or meeting or liking each other. And, they think they can marry one girl to another guy if the first guy doesn't like her - like the girl belongs to them to do whatever they please.

6. Everyone cares about their reputation more than their children or the feelings of their own family, to the point of thinking of sending a woman back to her inlaws even if the inlaws potentially could mistreat her ...

What kind of a world are we living in? I myself have faced some of this, and thought it was between particular families, but it seems to be rampant. There is no respect for human wants, needs, feeling, etc. It's all very selfish.

Originally posted by: samirah23

My question was a bit retorical as I know that some of this happens in real life.

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So, yes, unfortunately we all know situations like this - in Indian, Canada, the US, etc. It happens everywhere where we Indians are. Inspite of having such a rich heritage of knowledge and skill, we also have these bad things which force women to do only what men make them do ...

Originally posted by: Vrisha

I don't agree w/ the last phrase - what men make them do. Most abuse of women seem to happen from their female in-laws or even own relatives. In the serial itself, Jyoti is abused by no-one other than cm, Sudha is accepted by Pratik & Pankaj, but Minal is the prick who makes her life miserable. Back at home, Deepu never thought of Jyoti as a step-sister, but Padma & Sushma did. All the abuse here of women is done by other women.

And somehow, women are the ones with the hang-ups that if a girl ain't married, either she's worthless, or that her life is ruined. Although in this serial men are shown gossiping (like in Deepu's office), the trend is overwhelmingly that of women doing it.