Misplaced Expectations

I still remember the episode where dadi very fondly and confidently predicted that Jab Shivaay kisi se pyaar karega... to doob ke karega' (I hope no pun intended ...as in dips in the swimming pool) irrespective of the fact that Shivaay so vehemently has accepted that he is devoid of feelings' and heart. His claim that head is the only decision maker and everything is a deal. Dadi daid that ishqbaazi mein dil haarna padta hai' ...SSO and defeat (haar) don't go hand and hand. She had hoped that all the three of her grandsons would be Ishqbaaz' and she had even higher expectations from Shivaay her favourite and eldest grandson... her buillu', because she knew that whatever he did, did with absolute passion. Along with her we too, the loyal IBans built the same expectations.

But Shivaay Sing Oberoi has been true to his words and I feel dadi along with us, is in for a disappointment.

I don't believe or agree with dadi that Anika is perfect for Shivaay and their ishqbaazi' will be takkar ki'.

I still feel that out of the 3 ladies that were in Shivaay's life, Mallika was the one that he could have fallen in love with. She had the NKK, she was intelligent, beautiful, smart, had the same social status as Shivaay and she also possessed the child like character that Anika has. She was the most compatible to Shivaay. But that did not happen. He did not fall in love with her.

Tia, his girlfriend for 3 years before he decided to get married to her and the relationship is almost non-existent. So no love there.

I don't think that Shivaay loves Anika too. That is utterly not possible. They are not at all compatible. Opposites attract' theory will not stand true where SSO is concerned. Even after the Daksh trying to kill Anika fiasco...he shows nothing for her- no feelings. I am a firm believer that the hug and the tears were more out of guilt than love.

I think that SSO truly knows himself and dadi has absolutely no clue about her grandson. He might care about Anika but that is not love. The doob ke pyaar karega' love requires passion, which I guess that Stone Sing Oberoi lacks or more to say is incapable of. I do not see Shivaay ever have doob ke pyaar karega' love. He cannot. He is not good at physical intimacy...hand holding, grabbing her passionately, getting jealous, evading her personal space, all all that we are hoping for, might never come true. I cannot imagine that SSO... it is so not him. Anika might never get that love from SSO that she aspires for or dreams to have- uski sari sinjagi mere ird gird ghoome... You..he muskuray...'. That is so not SSO...he cannot do that.

So why are we so bothered by the divorce track? Even if they stay together as husband-wife that love will not be shown, because it cannot exist between SSO and Anika.

So what is it that dai and all of us expect?? Because - the doob ke pyaar karega' will never happen. It is so out of character for SSO.