D.O.T.W #2

Originally posted by: Parm.

Being "The Other Women" is never fine. The only way Ishana should come anywhere near Nikhil is IF and ONLY if LaKhil divorce. Other than that she should keep her distance from him. It is not possible for either of them to be in each others company, especially considering all of this is so new. They seriously need to get away from each other. Even if LaKhil do decide to divorce, Ishana should stay away from Nikhil until such time as the divorce becomes legal, otherwise she will always be labelled as a home-wrecker (whether LaKhil had a traditional relationship or not).

Originally posted by: .Nafisa.

This area a relationship with two women and one man and having two families is a wide area, but to look at it in detail what does it mean exactly, the man will share his time between the two relationships, when he is not at the other house they feel lonely and the woman is thinking what he is doing at the other side, their kids similarly thinking what is our dad doing right now? The women will go mad in the end because of these thoughts alone.
well this is not something new but it should be avoided to be shown in nowadays shows.

One woman has her set of values and she will raise her kids in that way, the other one has a different set of values and will raise her kids in those values. If we think of how Ishana and Laajo would raise their kids, Ishana would raise hers like Barkha (I'm seeing her as a snob even now) so all their kids will be proud like Ayesha is like that, Laajo would raise her kids traditional like herself, those kids would have to go out and face society others as proud bas***ds (conceived out of marriage but proud nevertheless). The traditional kids want their father with them during festivals and ritual days and the proud family want the father with them just because they don't want him with the traditional one's family. Nikhil would be torn between the two women and their kids.

This is also a truth but here Nikhil is enjoying both women company, none of them took a stand to leave him while both have valid reasons to do so he's just enjoying this sort of game I mean to feel falling in love again(here with Ishana). But My WISH is Lajjo to leave him, and make him feel it.

Now one family having two separate values how will they agree? The man can try to raise his kids the same to love each other but the two women will always seek for their kids to have more then the other, and because the two women can't love one another they will never agree for their kids to respect and love the kids from the other relationship.

This is where children do suffer for their whole life.

Leave all of that, how will the man manage financially? Nikhil is a layabout, he doesn't want to study so far he hasn't enrolled in any school, Barkha mentioned him studying abroad, but we see his done nothing about his future, so it will all be on Inder, who will inherit afterwards, the kids of different values will start fighting each other for that inheritance, even going towards physically harming each other for the wealth.

Well this is something which should be sorted soon a married man should carry his responsibilities well, here he's not only always at home but has two women in his life...

What about society, a woman which wears all the emblems of a married woman but in the eyes or god and their friends and family no marriage happened Ishana. Their children will be ridiculed outside of their home by other kids and will be constantly fighting when their feelings are hurt by other kids. They would be under the microscope of society, every little thing they do will be gossiped about in society because they've placed themselves in a situation where they've set themselves from the normal behaviour of society whenever you do that people start wanting to know more and more about you and you are the butt of all jokes and conversations by them.
well Ishana is a nowadays girl accepting a married man so why will she think about the future of her kids etc. She will have Barkha Ayesha and NN to always encourage hewr in her eyes her POV this is known as high society.

Originally posted by: Desigirl_21

Nice discussion topics...in my opinion I don't find the second woman thing right it causes a lot of problems to everyone to the wife, the husband the supposedly second woman and their families and if kids are in the picture it becomes all the more complicated.

there are so many cases where if the guy promises to leave his wife but is not able to do so, the second woman has to go through a lot face a lot of problems from everywhere. I feel it depends on the culture and environment one is, but in whatever culture it is being the second woman is damaging to one's self-image and self-esteem the society labels you differently.

As for Ishaana's case I think she is thinking of a game plan she doesn't seem like a sort of person who would leave Nikhil easily.. her game plan could be humiliate Laajo in front of Nikhil and everyone.. she might try to glorify her love and her positive qualities too