Personal take on Gulaal and family

I am sorry if the paragraphs appear as incoherent thoughts. I am confused by Gulaal's behavior.

Yet I feel for Gulaal. She has been cornered but I also don't agree with whatever she does. She needs to be more considerate.

I certainly did not expect or hope for Gulaal to read those letters and immediately rush to Kesar to give him a hug for all the pain that he has been through. But I would have preferred that Gulaal gave a more serious thought to Kesar's letters. His heart and soul was in them. I would have liked if she dwelt upon the fact that Kesar lived those 10 years knowing the devastating truth and his inability to ask her questions due to fear of losing her. She did not even give it a care that even an office boy would give to one of those bundles of piled up papers in a government office. As a viewer that hurt me.

She made a big mistake of planning the K and T wedding. Her Deeyarvatu was the need of the hour. She is late in advising Kesar about their relationship. When a child needed that help and support, she did not give him. When she fanned Talli's imaginations of her prince charming in Kesar, she should have mentioned her plan to Kesar too at least through the letters that she wrote him. She was biased. For 10 years Kesar never came home once, so on what surety she guaranteed Talli of a marriage with him. She calls Talli's love as pure from heart, her love for Kesar who she has not even seen or interacted with in all these years. Recollection of eating lollypops or Golgappes together in childhood is not a foundation for a perpetual marriage between the two.

I agree Kesar was attached to her; it could be called as infatuation towards the perfect woman image he had ingrained in him. But he has been away from her for 10 years. Infatuation wanes out over the years. But he has kept that feeling in him alive for all these years through the letters which he never posted to her and that too inspite of the misunderstanding or the understanding of her involvement in Vasant's murder case. If in spite of that he has not been able to hate her, I believe it is deep rooted love the seeds for which were sown many years ago.

If she is branding Kesar's love as infatuation, attachment, attraction, how can she brand Talli's as divine and pure love? Is it because she is feeling for the guy of her age?

Forget about the aspect of love, having read about the Vasant's murder truth being known to Kesar for so long, she could have at least now spoken to him about her stand in doing so. She at least owed that much to him and should have respected his love for his brother.

Family woes

Talli was good in this episode. I mean Helly Shah. She showed that pain of losing out on her love, when she said about Kesar's letters being Gulaal, Gulaal, Gulaal, it showed her irritation on herself for having missed the clues. She may be crying now but it would do her loads of good to understand that she can't force herself into anyone's heart.

Sudha keeps ranting as if Kesar has trapped her in his love, used her up and then refused to marry. What Sudha keeps saying if anyone would return Talli's happiness is strange. In spite of being in a loveless marriage, she wants Kesar to marry Talli. Does she think it would help her Talli being trapped in a loveless marriage? At least Kesar was honest to admit his inability w.r.t loyalty in such a marriage.

Pannba was right in saying that Gulaal's and Sudha's immaturity prevented them to discuss this alliance with elders of the family, at least with Kesar.

About the Panchayat decision

MB said that Panchayat decisions don't make a relationship. Very true that by forcing or insisting we cannot change a person's perspective. Both Kesar and Gulaal are experiencing that. Kesar said that his thinking would not change immaterial of the decision Panchayat would take. Gulaal is proving that the decision from the village heads is not going to make her accept Kesar in the way they all want her to.

I agree, gulaal is acting very weird, and is not taking any responsibility for her actions! which I think is wrong!

Ah todays episode was quite upsetting, I really don't know what's going to happen next?


anyone got predictions?

i agree with you...gulaal has been acting immaturely to quite an extent...
and those letters...i have a feeling that maybe she did realize their significance but she still tried to push kesar towards believing that he does not love her because she cannot fathom her being loved by anyone else, least of all kesar and is finding it very hard to accept...

i think that there might be a flashback sequence with the letters...when we will see that gulaal actually does realize the love kesar has for her, but cries and tris to change his mind because she, at that point in time, only loved vasant...

oh...and who else loved the lecture that jamuna kaki gave to sudha??? that lady has ulterior motives alright, but she happens to be the only one who actually talks sense all the time now days, no matter what the motive...

😭it was very upsetting when she just blew off the letters as his nadani

The whole family is insane

NO NO NOOO, NOT AT ALL! I bet many of us are in the very thought of it, and present track is like a climax/half time of deyarvattu isn't? All the things that happened after the tragic accident. Only thing I am not confused of Gulaal but I am really starting to understand her. I see her as a human being, not a goddess or flawless mahan.

Like u said I do feel for the woman for what she has gone thorough and how she faced the given situations.

I don't think she took the letters lightly, she felt a lot but we are not aware or clear of her feelings as of yet. I mean we know Kesars but not Gulaal's, it is not shown to us for the entertainment purpose I guess. If u looks from Gulaal's pov, at present she can't even let herself feel or soften towards Kesar, which could be interpreted differently by Kesar. She has to maintain that all the time so she doesn't make a mistake in making herself clear about the love part. I am sure she would feel everything that we want her to regarding the letters, but she has to clearly draw the line about the love factor. That must be the most important thing from her pov. It would have been totally different if Kesar's love is not there.

KT alliance-at the time all she wanted to do is get herself and Kesar free of the deyarvattu, her intention was good but she didn't deal with it properly. She never thought Kesar will fall for her and now facing consequences and the for the sake of show to proceed after the leap. But I really liked it; the cvs have clearly maintained that it is her fault although the intentions are good, and now making her faces the consequences. Didn't we want to see Gulaal as human and not god?

Infatuation-Denial, guilt, also self-preservation in a way (she wants to be Vasanth's widow). If u sees the slap yesterday, it wasn't for Kesar actually; it was like her helplessness, in a way for herself. Have u ever seen some one in conflict/trouble/dilemma, not seeing things clearly, but u as the third person could see everything clearly. You could see the problem and the solution as well. Like that we see things clearly because it is not us who has to cope with the whole emotions, also we feel for Kesar. She is coping with one after the other shocks, K-T, Kesar knowing Vasanth's murder, Kesar's love, all at once. She is shocked, in denial and not in control of the situation, powerless. She is like denial of the truth to herself, trying every way to turn the situation, in a way she hasn't taken everything that is happening around her. Do u think she would've acted the same if Kesar loved someone else and her? She would have deffintely felt something the least if the love factor is not there. She sees Thalli's love because she is not in it, she is the 3^rd person there, and also she saw it in front of her eyes.

Thalli-loved what u said. Love her; I think we have bashed her so much that we must make up for it. Isn't it irony that the 2 young ones who were in the dark until now seems to see things clearly, and the rest who always knew the issue is confused now? Love her character growth.

Sudha- You are right. I understand her as a mother but not as a wife/woman. It is understandable because it is big thing for a marriage to stop in the village, and to see her daughter's 10 years of nurtured love/dream to shatter this way. But as a woman who had gone through rough marriage she should be happy for her daughter. She should know by experience that it is better now that late.

PB-was so right and applauds the cvs for showing that.-again indicating shortcoming of Gulaal's thinking.

MB-This is where he shows his unbiased love for Gulaal and Kesar. Now his character showing a lot of wisdom in his talks. U R right it goes for both.

Now days I don't see this show as an audience but see it from the characters pov. We do complain about Gulaal, but if we put ourselves in her situation we would do the same or similar. It goes for a lot of characters. The show is not shown in clear cut right or wrong way, but from every characters pov. I personally made a lot of like things as Gulaal. Made a one sided decision or a decision to cope at a given time then faces the consequences. Everyone must have at some stage in their lives isn't? Gulaal is not shown as goddess anymore, but strong woman. She handles situation well when she facing against negative factors eg: wrong, hate, lust and so on which were not a consequence of her act. But now she is faced with complex emotions which resulted from her decisions, act.

I am sorry I just gave my pov on the things for discussion purpose, not at all to offend u in any way.

Do show me some light if I am wrong/misinterpreting things.

I don't think she is unaware of that, It is just she can't handle it now. Vasanth's matter will do come back later as their friendship/ love journey flourishes. At the moment her priority is Kesar's love, how to handle that. Here we should understand she is bombarded with so much shock, emotions, confessions, just in few days. She needs time to breath. Also if u sees from her pov what and how does she explain to Kesar regarding that matter, it was so hard for her, and wouldn't it make her go weak in front of Kesar? For her explain to anyone regarding that matter, she needs to open up her feelings, hurt, pain, everything. That can't be done now with Kesar. She can't give that away to Kesar because he is in love with her, and she can't give anything to him in his favour. How can she show her pity/weak side one moment to the man who is already in love with her not to fall more? I don't know if I am making any sense? She never in her wildest dream expected that Kesar knows it all along. She is not just ready to deal with it; she is in her weakest moment. We should think about her mental state as well, she is not in her sense now; nothing is in her control/power.

This is a lovely post, and I think you're right. Gulaal isn't acting in the mature fashion that I'd have expected her to.