IBF complaint number 2 - Page 2

Originally posted by: Nja91

But Virat ruined >>>> sai.

Sai - its a sad state. She has been emotionally manipulated into compromising and tolerating things she wouldn't have if she weren't in love with V and attached to the pathetic Chavannis. So that fire that made her Sai Joshi- the one who wouldn't tolerate any shit - that fire has been dimmed. Its not extinguished yet...

V in love acts like Sai is utterly inconsequential and she's always taken for granted

And Sai in love has made him and his gfs family the center of her universe.

Other characters in the show didn't compromise their self respect to this extent even for that matter pakhi.

Until shruti track I was able to sympathise with her.

But the way she behaved during shruti track was so uncomfortable.

She got many chances to escape from that toxic environment.

It's not like no one was there to guide her.

She had pulkit.

During character assasination track & post anniversary track Pulkit was there for her strongly going against Virat family.

But she made a fool out of him by choosing her toxic husband over genuine support from pulkit.

After aj track,her friends clearly told what a toxic husband virat was during virakhi cafe scene but she defended him by saying he did it in anger otherwise he is good human being bla bla.

If she tries to adjust for every abuse for family sake as she is orphan

That was still understandable. Like aswini knows the treatment she is getting is unfair but she has no chance but to tolerate the abuse for society sake,son sake & other reasons. Such character can get sympathy. But sai right away whitewashing her abusers to no end.

Especially after current miscarriage and surrogacy crap.

Now her asking other woman to adjust to her in laws is so so wrong. .

When did she become such misogynistic.

What is the difference between her and aswini. Aswini was called manipulative when she tried to convince sai to accept whatever happening to her. Now sai also did the same to other woman.

The dialogues like whole country is like a family to my husband. Holy crap. That same husband protected a nexilite by choosing friend over country.

Its easier said than done. She is in love with that man since Shruti track itself. Thats why his behavior impacted her so much. She kinda had realization then, just that she wanted to confirm. She was accused and manipulated into believing shes wrong. Pullu has been useless. He didn't put his foot down when needed. Her friends are not gonna support her beyond words. She is expecting a baby now, so she cant just up n leave. As hurt, angry as she is, pp us carrying HER child. Nobody has made V realize what Sai went through. Everyone blames her and so shes conditioned into believing she deserves everything happening to her :(. She was at an impressionable age when she got married and as she got attached to V and his stupid family, she has started to adjust n compromise. She still speaks her mind but problem is she cant just up n leave anymore.... With surrogacy she was clear where she stood but nobody cared n now her baby is in pp's womb so what can she do?! Its HER child. She's being forced to put aside her issues. And she cant separate from V so easily because they are expecting a child together now ...

Its the same for the other woman too- she was pregnant. Sai knows the complexities of being in a strained marriage, not having a parent so she only told them to work out their issues before ending things. I dont think she's forcing her to do anything.

V on the other hand is potrayed as one thing but acts/speaks in stark contrast. Righteous, dutiful, one woman man- thats what makers claim but hes none of those things!

Cleverly now they will place Sai in every scene of P , so that everyone will watch. And noone will skip P s scenes.

. And she has to shoot with those 2 always now.

So difficult. But good thing s that she s close to the crew. So it's okay.

From tomorrow it will be boring - back to surrogacy.

Finally we can see everyone blaming sai for hiding pakhi's complications and virat throwing her out of the house...no expectations from this show🤡

Originally posted by: Nja91

Its easier said than done. She is in love with that man since Shruti track itself. Thats why his behavior impacted her so much. She kinda had realization then, just that she wanted to confirm. She was accused and manipulated into believing shes wrong. Pullu has been useless. He didn't put his foot down when needed. Her friends are not gonna support her beyond words. She is expecting a baby now, so she cant just up n leave. As hurt, angry as she is, pp us carrying HER child. Nobody has made V realize what Sai went through. Everyone blames her and so shes conditioned into believing she deserves everything happening to her :(. She was at an impressionable age when she got married and as she got attached to V and his stupid family, she has started to adjust n compromise. She still speaks her mind but problem is she cant just up n leave anymore.... With surrogacy she was clear where she stood but nobody cared n now her baby is in pp's womb so what can she do?! Its HER child. She's being forced to put aside her issues. And she cant separate from V so easily because they are expecting a child together now ...

Its the same for the other woman too- she was pregnant. Sai knows the complexities of being in a strained marriage, not having a parent so she only told them to work out their issues before ending things. I dont think she's forcing her to do anything.

V on the other hand is potrayed as one thing but acts/speaks in stark contrast. Righteous, dutiful, one woman man- thats what makers claim but hes none of those things!

In Shruti track,her husband was ok with her getting death threats, getting denied of food. Even a teenager can understand such kind of person is unworthy who lacks basic humanity just because he is angry. Ok love is blind. She wanted him despite all the insults.

No one expect sai to leave her husband. I know it's tough task for a orphan like her. But can't she show her displeasure to her husband, confront him about the blind trust he shows on his ex but not on her, asks him to stop his family abusing her just like the way he strongly took stand for shruti, asks him why he desperately wanted pakhi to be surrogate when they had better option Geeta, asks him how can he okay with his ex/ bhabi asking him for a hug,will he be okay if it was role reversal, question him why he is being so defensive for pakhi. And the list is too big.

She can still stick to her husband and her kid at the same time getting affected with these things like a normal human instead of robot.

The biggest problem is sai acts as if she has progressive husband,supportive in laws & harps praises for them. This is the biggest disconnect to her character.

I disagree with your assessment that Sai doesn't confront him. She does but she gets such an aggressive shut down that she freaks out that he will go back to hating/ignoring her. And for an orphan like her having him in her life trumps all else sadly. It'll take something major for her to shake off her emotional n financial dependance on him and realize she's better off alone. Because Sai is actually wat stronger than him. She can easily move on if she tried.

At every juncture she has confronted him but she has been completely shot down and not one elder has been supportive of her and shown her perspective to V and neither has V understood it himself. So she's stuck.

She did everything she could to tell him pp is untrustworthy, he said its BS, so she said- ok, i dont care what you say- I dont want pp as surrogate, he seemingly agreed but ultimately everything happened per his/pp's whims. Now she wants to protest but she's stuck with the realization that she has a baby to look forward to and so she cant afford any more disputes because it won't change what has happened.

Despite that she's fighting to have him investigate the assault and the "mystery" woman but we have seen V's crude response. If she pushes him he will get all defensive and guilt her about all his other responsibilities.

Whenever she confronted him on his relationship with pp he denied it and he keeps saying he's over it. If sge brings up bis behavior now, he will get all manipulative about how she doesn't trust him even now after their remarriage and family planning and shes afraid he will break the relationship.

So karein toh kya.

My heart goes out to her. She is in love with a horrible person- one who isn't outwardly problematic but he is in reality a manipulative piece of scum who always convinces everyone how he is the one who is making sacrifices and needs to be worshipped.

I agree that Sai needs to get past her insecurities but its not so easy. In reality people get trapped in abusive relationships just like she is without even realizing or recognizing the abuse anymore.... She wants to believe she is loved, she wants to be happily married with her own little family and so she's doing anything to have that. Ignoring her pain and hurt.