SS61 Candy Cane & Abhi ke Abhi - Page 26

Originally posted by: putti77

How about?

SORRY kanna😳

Originally posted by: Errantnomad

Amen. 😆 . Jas you join the party now. 😆 .
When the whole forum is busy ranting sending dude to ICU, our own putti is making plans for the dude to go to Bangkok with II. 😆 . Putti this provocation is much stronger than mr. Iyer's. 😆

Originally posted by: Errantnomad

Good Jas.
Nisha said that this was horrible blunder and that's about it.
So we just have to wait for how he bings her around. I am not sure if there's going to be an explanation.
And I'm also not sure if there will be a five letter word sorry explicit as an apology but
But there will be something from him .
I hope it's just not" enough II" this time around. 😕

Will he be different than his dad - hmm time will tell.

Originally posted by: jasminechick

With II or with her ??? 😆

Originally posted by: putti77

You want II to murder me 😆

This RnB is only for II...

We just love him...

Originally posted by: Aina91

We've always seen Appa,amma, akka and Bala taunting II about Bhalla's wealth,will there be a day she reply back? I would love to see that happen to Bala or maybe Vandita,
I don't know I can't seem to like Vandita anymore 😒 Agree she wants material things but it was her decision to marry Bala right? How come all she says mostly to II is "you're lucky,you don't do that or that"; "my in laws are this and that" "shravu wants this and that"
I really think Amma is right. Vandita is responsible for the way shravu behaves. I know its pampering but thers's a limit not to cross.
she tells her problems to II despite confronting them. Its like she uses II to get what she wants in a way. Maybe I'm wrong but since that sophia thing,I just get the wrong vibe from her.

SUSCEPTIBLE AND RECEPTIVE

Vulnerabilities and insecurities we all have

Some surfacing due to what we have some we have not

Some due to the folks that departed some due to those crowding it

Some at who crowded in to claim him some wondering abandonment

Some at tarnished images some at emerging visions

Some at being loved some at being unloved

Some at attention others at inattention

Some desire to be claimed and chided some hostile to contradictions

Some relations thrive on quarrels some cannot bear a nay

The state of mind we dwell in or move on is purely in our hands

We make a mountain out of non issues or fritter away significant options

We delve deeper into matters or cursorily treat the rest

Originally posted by: moonwearer

<font size="3">I am surprised too at the way Vandhu is dealing with the circumstances of life...
In one of the updates just after the wedding there is a comparison drawn between Akka and Sam with a mention that Sam was the mature one in dealing with matters.
Akka some how has begun to attribute everything she or Bala faces to rant to II and highlight the difference.
Come on you you are directing all your pent up frustrations on the wrong people. At the outset she should have set the limit for II and Shravu in what can be provided and what restrained.
Shravu is being brought up thinking he deserves what he desires, He should have all that Nandhu has. I remember the Dude telling his II you dont have to give material to get kids love.
What i find commendable is the way Ranjan, Raman Sam and Tan easily adapt to what is available and seek how to improve the situation.

I have lived in a joint family all my life. When you receive the care, support and affection you should learn to accept correction as well. Early in my parenthood journey i learnt and consciously decided when my lad was corrected by a family member i will not interfere. I have never raised a little finger on him so when my mother in law whacked him one night my husband's cousin ran to his defense i held her back. She adores the boy and started crying its because i am staying over that the kid(he was 3 then) wanted to sleep on the floor with me and my daughter.
I was very upset at the episode. I was quiet till i barded my bus and broke down to my friend...she listened...asked me does ABHI belong only to you? Your mother in law has looked after him ever since you started working...if she can care for him she can correct him too...he is her ABHI too...grandparents are far more lenient with grandkids...She was experienced and i still hold that interaction close to my heart. When people now admire the way they kid has shaped into a fine young man i know it is not because of me alone. I may have played a significant role but it is the interaction the child has had with so many of his relatives and so many of my friends who would want to have him over for weekends.
He got exposed to computers and had a ride on a double decker with my colleagues husband. He calls him Tatha...i am sure in the days he was with them if he needed disciplining they would have,,,it is a value they were adding to the shaping of the kid.
I find that Vandhu is being very touchy and unreasonable in her expectations. If we have to say its because of her hormones and the life she endures...what about poor II?
Money cant bring back Ma...Money can't erase the Dude's affairs...Money hasn't boosted II's self image.
She is still insecure...she does not go about proclaiming herself as something she isn't. If she is going to go part time when the angel arrives...what a financial mess she is going to be in...the 8 laks she left behind i am sure is being used for all emergencies including the impending Surgery of Janaki Athai...she is left with a little over 10 k after the loan repayments,,,,What will she do when the inflow is drastically cut?
Ranjan and Raman will give II free access to all they have...but will II accept it and pay off the loans atleast so that she can manage her expenses with what she makes...will she atleast accept a joint account to meet the Angel's expenses when her man is away on work?
The spillover of issues from Munirka and DII is actually 70 % of IIs problem. the work woes and money matters and insecurities the rest...

Maybe the fears regarding the marriage needs to be opened up...it might any time soon.
Akka should stop using II to fight her problems and correct her wrongs...she is not infallible as she is made out to be by her family...she is mean and selfish too.
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