this is life!!!

hey!! this is just something i noticed... this show is more close to reality then anyone thinks... ok maybe not exactly and they make things a bit bigger b/c its a soap... but the point is that love is not easy!! its not always lovey and dovey/ mushy and gushy!! There are problems tht come in ur path and sometimes this is what happens... people make mistakes by not trusting and having misunderstandings.. they go apart unwillingly. And sometimes ur not at a good state of mind to make the greatest decisions so u make irrational ones.... which is human nature!! I mean seriously this is how tuff and frustrating life can be!!
Even for tom.'s show they show that armaan messes up because he cant keep his professional and personal life different.... but thats a common problem among many human beings. I mean some people can and some cant! Like when sometimes if u have fight at home with ur parents or whoever and u cant concentrate on your college work. Or if have a big fight with your best friend or boy/girl-friend and have to go to work... sometimes it does effect ur working ability b.c ur mind is somewhere else!!
And I like the fact that they are showing that it happens to doctors b.c they are humans and they have problems like anyone else and at times u cant help what problem comes when!!!
And I'm totally sad for ridz and armaan.... but its reality that not everythings perfect there are ups and downs. I have a feeling that ridz thinks she's armaans weakness, but in reality of the show shes actually his strength. But due to him messing up she thinks they arent meant to be because he was doing great in the beginning when they werent in love so she thinks that she brings him down!! Which is also a human emotion... if u feel like ur hurting rather than bettering the one u love... u tend to move away or make them hate u!! I donno but I feel the core of these emotions and feelings of armaan and ridz also are true but b/c its a soap they are making it huge.... but they come from a true and realistic point of view!!!
wow i wrote alot but i would to like hear what u guys think.... and I know many of u are mad at ridz but lets not bash and be mature!! thankssss

Neha, I couldn't agree with you more.. "Most" of the situations posed by the creatives in this show are taken from real life situations.. How people jump to conclusions is a big big issue in many relationships, and the damage you can cause by that one conclusion is humungous.. not opening up about your concerns or issues can hamper communication which is the key to any successful relationship.. expecting too much too soon is another perfect example of relationship failure.. being over posessive about your beau can cause trust issues between you and your partner and you don't wanna go near trust issues.. loving your partner so much that they make you vulnerable.. i admit your heart rules you mind when you're in love, but love yourself and your partner equally otherwise your excessive love for your partner can lead to your biggest downfall... inability to keep love life woes outside office/work is truly like you said a big big issue most people face, and it complicates things even more if you work with the person you love [speaking from experience].. and the biggest aspect of relationship failure changing yourself for the other person, never never never be anyone you are not.. another aspect drawn from life and not love - when it rains, it pours, meaning when problems come your way, there's usually no end to it right away...

All of these aspects have been portrayed really beautifully in DMG.. Love is a bed of roses a song says, and it's so significant because with those beautiful roses come equally prickly thorns.. [significant EH?]

Really Good Post Neha 😊

missy.... that was perfect...u read my mind exactly! I donno why i like the lovey dovey moments but when i see this it actually makes me think.... all of this could happen... not just the bad but the good too... u have to accept the bad with good... otherwise life would be a cake!! They say life should be fair always not favorable!! I'm glad someones sees what i see... in this show!
And exactly how you said ... u need to love urself as much as u love ur partner and I think both ridz and armaan need to learn that! I mean there one side armaan is changing himself for her and other side i feel ridz isnt giving herself credit and saying they done belong together b/c she feels shes his weakness when she and him clearly love eachother!!
Also you said it perfectly at the end about how even the pretties roses come with thorns!!
I truly believe everything u describe above about communication and expecting too much and too fast (also the other obstacles u mentioned) are exactly what happeing in DMG.... which happens in life!!
Thanks missy22

Thank you actually, I've had these thoughts since I watched the show last night and I wanted to initiate a post but was too caught up with work and eventually forgot.. yours was an eye opener and I couldn't contain it inside me anymore.. [all of those obstacles come from personal experience.. so it's easy to identify i guess]... More people should contribute to this topic.. very intelligent and interesting..

But yeah I feel so good to know someone's sailing in the same "reality" boat as me 😊

Oh and man what Armaan said yesterday about her trust issues.. all these days we were scratching our head as to what could be her reason for being miss ice-queen of late... and he just hit the nail on the head man.. In a jiffy everything became clear.. it's like we were praying that the creatives show us what's going on inside her head and we din't even need to see it from her POV, which would have been so stereotypical.. they laid it all out so beautifully and so differently..

I'm so proud of them...

sorry double post.. 😳

i know i dont know why people arent posting back, but they are reading that im sure! Yeahh i saw how everyone was bashing ridz and not thinking of it from her point of view b/c its not simple to face that ur adopted and ur close family lied to u for so long and trust a whole new person u just met!! But i think she should give armaan a chance and see all his efforts! But i understand wheres coming from... its hard to bounce back up when u have been hurt so badly! I mean its gonna take so time, obstacles to overcome and courage from within!
I totally understand where ur coming from personal experiences because I think thats why i relate to it so much... its sometimes like dejvu!! lol
im so sailing in the reality boat... i dont know about others but whatever floats their boat... they should share!! :)

Floats your Boat 😃 I just love that phrase..

You know another thing I noticed, that when you are with someone who's had a sheltered upbringing, the thawing out process can take a whole lot more time than one can predict.. and even after the initial meltdown the chances of going back into that shell of self-doubt are higher and then that defensive wall you build around yourself can be a hard thing to get past..

Also when you're with someone who's had a flamboyant past, one is perpetually insecure, What if i'm just another pawn? what if I'm being taken for a ride? What does he/she see in me? [I have asked myself these questions several times]

It's many such doubtful dilemmas that one faces, that one needs to talk about, and be open about.. people in relationships always assume that the other person can read their mind.. and that in itself is a huge problem... It's ironic how one can play mind games yet never seem to read the others mind isn't it?

I so agree with u on this! actually, dats wat I love abt dmg! it displays the complex world of relationships sooo well!

Awesome post Neha....couldn't agree with u more...This is one of the reasons I LOVE DMG....However,I do hope that AR get back together ASAP....I hate to see them apart... 😔 😔

Wow, awesome topic neha, and it was really interesting to read abt the whole issue yesterday from urs and missy's point of view... Up until yesterday, I supported ridz very much and though i cud understand her and her actions.. But, after yesteday's epi, I wasn't so sure, thinking maybe ridz has gone too far this time and questioned why she didn't trust Armaan's love... But, ur post makes everything clear! She think he's too good for her... Poor girl... I feel so sorry for both AR.. And, thanks alot for making me see what ridz really feels, as it is a relief to not have to knack my brain abt ridz actions.. Thanks neha and missy! 👏 👏