This is a very difficult question to answer but here goes:
love or marriage which to choose?
I am a modern 20th century girl studying to be a doctor. I have never been through and never wish to go through what ridhimma has gone through but if i had to be in her shoes i would most definatly choose my mariage. Not for the sake of society but because, i wanted to like ridhima has shown she does.
Sid saved ridz so many times. In panchangini he saved hernot as a friend or enemy but as a shadow, a part of her. He helped her and supported her whne no one else did. Not even armaan
When ridz almost died of hypothermia ammy saw her and walked away. Up till that point I wanted AR together after that though I didn't. After that I wanted ridz to not only survive but live as well, because for me dats when AR died. If my ex did that even if i didn't get married i would never get back with him either. Ammy drove sid and ridz together therefore he gave up his rights on her at that point. He can't come back to exert his rights now. He forfeighted them a long time back
Your're fogetting ridz agreed to marry sid for what ever reason. She still agreed
When she tried to commit suicide sid saved her again, he made her his then because after that her life was never totally hers. He'd given her new life by giving her peices of his own heart. his heart was broken and his anger at himself for trusting her meant he tortured her becasue she was part of himself. By hurting her he was hurting himself.
During the start of their marriage it was ridz turn to help sid by giving him peices of her heart bit by bit. By the time ammy came back ridz and sid were already a part of each other. They had each supported the other in their darkest times, seen eahc other at their worst and their bond was such that it could not be broken. They were new people not those they were before marriage. they now belonged to each other and the connection they shared was above love and above every other bond.
They had met when both their soles were dying and together, through all the pain and torture they had bestowed upon each other they had survived and their soles had been reborn.
So how can you throw a connection like that away, that too for an ex who had left you to die without turing back once. This is not the first time either, how many times hav AR seperated and gotten back togther? what happens the next time ammy decides to leave 'for her good'. she will not be able to survive, she has gone to the extremes of her love now it is time for her to move on.
MARRIAGE IS NOT EASY, THERE ARE HARD TIMES AND EASY TIME, GOOD TIMES, AND BAD. THE IMPORTANT THING IS TO SEE THROUGH THEM TOGETHER AND WORK AT IT, NO MARRIAGE IS PERFECT AND WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES, WE SHOULD LEARN FROM THEM AND MOVE ON LIKE BOTH SID AND RIDZ HAVE DONE BECAUSE BOTH WERE TO BLAME FOR THE ROCKY START TO THEIR MARRIAGE
so i ask you Why would i go back to the ex who left me to do and whose definition of love is to leave me and then come back at his own conveniece. Pyaar sirf jaan de na nahi hota, saat dena aur chalna bi hota hai. Armaan ne jaan toh de di par saath nahi diya aur aise pyaar ka kya faaida joh zarurat par ne par saath na de.
I believe you should marry not the person you love but the one who loves you and is willing to support you and be there for you when you need it the most. For me dat was wat sid did so sid ko chorne ka swaal hi paida nahi hota.
It would take time and patience but like ridz i can easily see myself falling in love with a husband like sid . He never let go of her hand even when the going got tough, even when he hated her and himself and even though she did not love him. he felt her pain before she did, he gave her every part of himself so how can ridz/I not love or fall in love with a husband like dat.
btw i am a muslim too.
Edited by chown001 - 15 years ago
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