Struggling with Anxiety :(

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Bazinga.

@Bazinga.

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Posted: 7 years ago

I don't know why am I writing down my thoughts here.. but I just wanted to share it somewhere.. the burden is getting too overwhelming.
I always had a little bit of anxiety issue, but it was not consistent.. It was for short duration like whenever I had to attend an office meeting or during public speaking.. but now my parents have started looking for a suitable groom for me and my anxiety levels are shooting through the roof..
Whenever I have to meet some guy or talk to him, my thoughts go on an overdrive.. I am constantly thinking about it 24x7 and that too not in a good way.. I picture every negative scenario in my mind and stress over it.. I think of every possible thing that can go wrong and try to pull out of that relationship even before it has begun.. I have this constant uneasy feeling at the pit of my stomach.. that too whole day long.. Its making my life miserable.. I have lost my appetite, cant sleep properly and I am worried that if these feelings never go away then I would be putting my partner into misery because of my behavior.. I don't want to stress my parents with these thoughts of mine, so I have booked for my first therapy session without telling them, hoping that it would resolve my issue to some extent..
Just wanted to know If anyone has gone through such phase in their life and what did they do to overcome it.. any advice/suggestions would be welcome..
Thanks for reading my rant :)

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_Angie_

@_Angie_

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: Bazinga.

I have this constant uneasy feeling at the pit of my stomach.. that too whole day long.. Its making my life miserable.. I have lost my appetite, cant sleep properly and I am worried that if these feelings never go away then I would be putting my partner into misery because of my behavior.. I don't want to stress my parents with these thoughts of mine, so I have booked for my first therapy session without telling them, hoping that it would resolve my issue to some extent..

Just wanted to know If anyone has gone through such phase in their life and what did they do to overcome it.. any advice/suggestions would be welcome..
Thanks for reading my rant :)

Some amount of anxiety about meeting or facing strangers is quite common, however having the above symptoms for a prolonged period needs to be attended. Booking for a therapy session is a step in the right direction. All the same, it would be better to take your parents into confidence as they could be your greatest support system. Besides, the therapist may wish to interview them to get a better understanding of the situation. Other than hearing you out, offer counseling and prescribing a few anxiolytics, parental counseling is also often a part of the therapy.

In addition to the therapy sessions a simple relaxation technique that always works can be tried as follows:

Sit in a comfortable position, shut your eyes, slowly take a few deep breaths , put your attention on the pit of the stomach where you feel that constant sense of unease. Stay focused there for at least a few minutes. You will soon feel the tightness and the sense of unease in that area beginning to dissolve and replaced with a warm glowing feeling extending outwards. Maintain this state for at least 5 minutes. Open your eyes slowly. You would come out feeling much better. Repeat at intervals as often as you wish for prolonged benefit. The recurring nature of thoughts would also gradually slow down and become less bothersome. Wish you all the best.👍🏼

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Summer3

@Summer3

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Posted: 7 years ago

Yes anxiety and concerns are quite normal. Often the problem is not as bad a we imagine them to be.
There are many ways of dealing with it and it all depends on how we wish to deal with it. In some cases discuss with close family and friends. If you are religiously inclined, pray hard and pass the problem to your chosen God ... Some people like to face the problems and find the best way to deal with it.
Hopefully the therapy has been helpful.

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Bazinga.

@Bazinga.

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: _Angie_

Some amount of anxiety about meeting or facing strangers is quite
common,however having the above symptoms for a prolonged period needs to be
attended. Booking for a therapy session is a step in the right direction. All
the same, it would be better to take your parents into confidence as they could
be your greatest support system. Besides, the therapist may wish to interview them to get a better understanding
of the situation. Other than hearing you out, offer counseling and prescribing
a few anxiolytics, parental counseling
is also often a part of the therapy.

In addition to the therapy sessions a simple relaxation
technique that always works can be tried as follows:

Sit in a comfortable position, shut your eyes, slowly take a
few deep breaths , put your attention on the pit of the stomach where you feel
that constant sense of unease. Stay focused there for at least a few minutes. You
will soon feel the tightness and the sense of unease in that area beginning to dissolve and replaced with a warm
glowing feeling extending outwards. Maintain
this state for at least 5 minutes. Open your eyes slowly. You would come out
feeling much better. Repeat at intervals as often as you wish for prolonged
benefit. The recurring nature of thoughts would also gradually slow down and
become less bothersome. Wish you all the best.👍🏼

I didn't know that parents were also expected to be the part of therapy at some point As of now I really don't want them to get involved in my shit.. I need to sort this out on my own.. Cant keep on placing my burden on them.. they have their own problems to deal with..
Anyways.. Thank you for the valuable advive.. I'll definitely try it.. Hope it helps.. :)

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Bazinga.

@Bazinga.

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: Summer3
Yes anxiety and concerns are quite normal. Often the problem is not as bad a we imagine them to be.
There are many ways of dealing with it and it all depends on how we wish to deal with it. In some cases discuss with close family and friends. If you are religiously inclined, pray hard and pass the problem to your chosen God ... Some people like to face the problems and find the best way to deal with it.
Hopefully the therapy has been helpful.

I have been trying all that is in my control.. Praying.. Motivational talks to myself.. trying to socialize with positive people.. It helps to some extent but still every day is a constant struggle..
I hope the therapy helps.. Thanks for your words :)

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Summer3

@Summer3

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: Bazinga.

I have been trying all that is in my control.. Praying.. Motivational talks to myself.. trying to socialize with positive people.. It helps to some extent but still every day is a constant struggle..
I hope the therapy helps.. Thanks for your words :)

Yes close friends are useful, they stop you from going insane. Sometimes we are so caught up that we cannot see the forest for the trees. Since God does not sleep, He watches silently while also giving us an opportunity to think for ourselves first. Pray your problems go away soon.

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nigahen

@nigahen

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Posted: 7 years ago

It's good that you're getting therapy. I had social anxiety once upon a time. Then I took some THC regularly and poof. it was gone, really, just like that. Earlier I couldn't talk to people and then they couldn't shut me up.

But I'm not suggesting some magic pill here. it seems you've managed just fine till now. Only meeting a groom is giving you the jeebies right.

Well I'm far from that stage yet and dont know how they do it nowadays. But if it's still like that families meeting wala thing like in movies, then you've it made. Isn't shyness like the no. 1 quality required. Talk to your parents. And then ask them to help you.

Even now when I dont want to talk to certain people I just whisper in my dad's ear and then he communicates my message. That appears very endearing to most people too. Just talking from the groom scenario POV.

Dont take so much stress.

What I want to say is dont try to be confident in front of them when shyness will be seen as such a positive quality in that scenario anyway. SO just be yourself.

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_Angie_

@_Angie_

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: Bazinga.

I didn't know that parents were also expected to be the part of therapy at some point As of now I really don't want them to get involved in my shit.. I need to sort this out on my own.. Cant keep on placing my burden on them.. they have their own problems to deal with..
Anyways.. Thank you for the valuable advive.. I'll definitely try it.. Hope it helps.. :)

Parents need not be part of the therapy right away but eventually it helps to have them attend at least a session or two as it is important for them to understand what you are going through. This will help them to be better equipped to deal with any situation that may arise. This should not be considered as burdening them. To be forewarned is to be forearmed! It is possible that they may not be aware of the extent of your anxiety level and may thus be pressurizing you into a marriage for which you may not feel inclined as yet. Hope your first session went well. Medicines may or may not be required. Your therapist would be the best judge. Self medication should be avoided.

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musicfan1990

@musicfan1990

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Posted: 7 years ago

As mentioned earlier therapy is a step in right direction. It's best to start the therapy sessions first then when you start to see an improvement in your anxiety and overall mood you can let your parents in so that they don't discourage you in anyway. I know parents want the best for us but sometimes they need convincing.

Anxiety is normal but when it begins to affect in drastic ways it's time to seek help. You're doing the right thing

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Sara singh

@sarasingh86

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Posted: 6 years ago

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You might have social anxiety. Try taking neuropsychological test for anxiety and ADHD with therapist . Racy thoughts (jumping thoughts) could be because of ADHD and aggravated vata dosha(one of dosha in ayurveda that pertains to negative thinking and increase anxiety).

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