Age differences.. - Page 3

i think age difference matters if the women is elder and a man is young there may be difference of opinon and that much of differences may not be there if a man is elder than women thats wat is my opinion. 😊

Originally posted by: rebelqueen

i think the leser the age gap the better...
i think ppl of same age have similar likes/dislikes and r better @ understanding 1 another's wants...but with an age gap of more than 10 or more yrs,i think there's difference of opinion and interests....my opinion

i agree wit rebelqueen on the point she raised!! if theres more of a age gap then there will prob b differences and likes n dislikes mite b different. whats more important is views n opinions mite b different. i think guy should be older cos guys mature later.!!! i wudnt marry a guy 2 years or the same age as me. i prefer 4-6 years gap.

Originally posted by: Believe

How much of an age difference is too much of an age difference in your opinion?

I have a friend who is 24. his wife is 40's.
I have never really thought about age being a big deal.
However, a couple of friends have made the "ew" noise when I showed them wedding pictures.

So where is your comfort zone?

How many years ahead or behind yourself would you not marry?😳

I believe the age would not matter to start with, but over a period of time, the differences may show up if the partners no more share the same compassion which they had when they entered into the relationship.

If the partner's values, aspirations, desire change and are not in agreement, then they will have to part ways, infact i feel the difference could be the breeding ground for ultimate split.

P.S: This is my personal experience, and i believe many others may have a different experience than mine.

i agree the age gap b/n 25 years girl and 35 years guy is not a big deal..Even in olden days there will be atleast 12-13 years of age diff will be there.Even the guy reaches 70 years the lady will be 60.it wont make any problems.
For a good understanding couple this much of age difference will go very well.I personally had seen it in my father and Mother.

Originally posted by: Sharila

I was always skeptcial about the age part but have changed my opinion. Age really does not matter when two people are in love

Hmmm...what abt when two people are not in love. Say in an arranged marriage when two people aren't exactly in love at the time of marriage.

Hmmm, intersting topic.
I tell u about mine.
Me and my hubby are almost same age. actually Iam 5 days older to him 😉 and legally 6 months.But I never felt that way.I mean We were and are good friends , but things changed when we became parents. So now we are more hubby and wife 😆 .
In my opinion age does not matter it is how much undersatanding u have and how comfortable u r around each other and around others.

Originally posted by: Vishesh

i respect all ppl's personal opinion, but i have some curiosity. and the question is not against any particular person. This is for them who says "Age doesn't matter". i am not trying to challenge ur opinion, just curious to know some answers. i may learn something from those.

1. U fell in love with ur spouse before marriage, (or it was arrange marriage..and u first saw ur spouse)...wud u have fallen in love with him, if he/she were 40 yr older than u, at that time. And wud have married her/him

2.If ur son/daughter of 21yrs old, comes to u and say that he/she thinks he/she loves this 65yr old man/woman and wants to marry her/him,,.. And if he/she asks ur advice on this Age difference.. what will be ur advice to him/her.?

as far as Iam concerned mine was love marrige. And yes I would have perhaps gone with a 40 year old . which offcourse I donot know for sure as it didn't happened.

for ur secong question.... I will oppose if my son /daughter will go for a spouse more then 20 yr old age diff. but ultimately they will have to decide . If they will feel they r comfortable I donot see any reason not to accept their marrige

Originally posted by: Vishesh

dolly ! thanks for u nice reply.. 😊

but sorry if i or u misunderstood each other..
my question was.. what if ur supposed to be spouse was 40yr older than u, (not 40yr).

vishesh,

When I got married i was close to 27 so if I would have fallen for a 40+ I would have married the guy.U didnot mentioned the age limit😛

The age diff. between my dad and mom is 14 yrs and there marrige worked wonderfully. Ian fact my mom who is the younger spouse is mature then my dad and I owwhat Iam today to her.So yaa definately If I would have fallen in love with a 40+ guy , why not😛.Main thing for me at that time was understanding, trust and comfort leveland still is...

hope I answered ur question😊

Originally posted by: Vishesh

hey dolly !..
u still misunderstood my question..
(then if u were 27 then 40 yrs older than u is 67)
but i think..in any way..ur answer wud have been same
u answered everything right from ur heart..

😊
and u r right..!
Actually in my first question...i shud not have asked from the ppl..who were in love.. i shud have stick only to Arranged Marriage question..

i like ur view, i felt something good after hearing that.

ohh sorry about that.and yes I would have answered same.

about ur question being Arranged Marriage question, sorry to say but nobody will do it. arrange marriges do not happen like this,,,and offcourse we r talking about india.

Only thing I can thibk of is some family problem or due to money mat be girl marrying a guy 40 yr older

And Iam not even considering a guy marrying a women 40 yr older in arrange marrige.

this is what I feel,

Love does not look at the age. When falling in love only matters of heart is involved for two lovers, for them age has no place