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Originally posted by: --Neelanjana--

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ok and i am ria

Originally posted by: bebosallu4eva

alot really alot if u don't have love in yr life yr life is Lonely😳 nd in yrs?

What in the world is the difference between loving a person and being selfishly attached to them? Love is the sincere wish for others to be happy, and to be free from suffering.
Having realistically recognized others' kindness as well as their faults, love is always focused on the other person's welfare. We have no ulterior motives to fulfill our self-interest, or to fulfill our desires; to love others simply because they exist. Selfish attachments, on the other hand, exaggerates others' good qualities and makes us crave to be with them. When we're with them, we're happy, but when we're separated from them, we are often miserable. These selfish attachments are linked with expectations of what others should be or do. Is love as it is usually understood in most societies really love? or selfish attachments ? Let's examine this a bit more. Generally we are attracted to people either because they have qualities we value or because they help us in some way. If we observe our own thought processes mindfully, and carefully - we'll notice that we look for specific qualities in others.Some of these qualities we find attractive, others are those our parents, or society value. We examine someone's looks, education, financial situation, social status. This is how most of us decide on whether or not the person holds any true value to us. In addition, we judge people as worthwhile according to how they relate to us! If they help us, praise us, make us feel secure, listen to what we have to say, care for us when we are sick or depressed, we consider them good people, and it is this type of people we are most likely to be more attracted to. But this is very biased, for we judge them only in terms of how they relate to "us", as if we are the most important person in the world. After we've judged certain people to be good for us, whenever we see them it appears to us as if goodness is coming from them, but if we are more aware, we recognize that we have projected this goodness onto them. Desiring to be with the people a lot who make us feel good, we become emotional yo-yo's - when we're with these people, we're up, when we're not with these people, we're down. Furthermore, we form fixed concepts of what our relationships with those people will be and thus have expectations of them. When they do not live up to our expectations of them, we're very disappointed, or may become angry. We want them to change so that they will theywill match what we think they are. But our projections and expectations come from our own minds, not from the other people. Our problems arise not because others aren't who we thought they we're, but because we mistakenly thought they were something they aren't.
Checklist: "I Love You if __________ "
What we call love is most often selfish attachments.
It is actually a disturbing attitude that overestimates the qualities of another person. We then cling to tightly to that person, thinking our happiness depends on that person.

Originally posted by: ronojoy_ria

ok and i am ria

Originally posted by: Cute.Sadaf

Thanku ..
It'll never get Over from my mind and heart ..

Originally posted by: --Neelanjana--

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Thankyou. my Magical angel🤗.!!! u made my day 😊

Originally posted by: Fizzylicious

What in the world is the difference between loving a person and being selfishly attached to them? Love is the sincere wish for others to be happy, and to be free from suffering.
Having realistically recognized others' kindness as well as their faults, love is always focused on the other person's welfare. We have no ulterior motives to fulfill our self-interest, or to fulfill our desires; to love others simply because they exist. Selfish attachments, on the other hand, exaggerates others' good qualities and makes us crave to be with them. When we're with them, we're happy, but when we're separated from them, we are often miserable. These selfish attachments are linked with expectations of what others should be or do. Is love as it is usually understood in most societies really love? or selfish attachments ? Let's examine this a bit more. Generally we are attracted to people either because they have qualities we value or because they help us in some way. If we observe our own thought processes mindfully, and carefully - we'll notice that we look for specific qualities in others.Some of these qualities we find attractive, others are those our parents, or society value. We examine someone's looks, education, financial situation, social status. This is how most of us decide on whether or not the person holds any true value to us. In addition, we judge people as worthwhile according to how they relate to us! If they help us, praise us, make us feel secure, listen to what we have to say, care for us when we are sick or depressed, we consider them good people, and it is this type of people we are most likely to be more attracted to. But this is very biased, for we judge them only in terms of how they relate to "us", as if we are the most important person in the world. After we've judged certain people to be good for us, whenever we see them it appears to us as if goodness is coming from them, but if we are more aware, we recognize that we have projected this goodness onto them. Desiring to be with the people a lot who make us feel good, we become emotional yo-yo's - when we're with these people, we're up, when we're not with these people, we're down. Furthermore, we form fixed concepts of what our relationships with those people will be and thus have expectations of them. When they do not live up to our expectations of them, we're very disappointed, or may become angry. We want them to change so that they will theywill match what we think they are. But our projections and expectations come from our own minds, not from the other people. Our problems arise not because others aren't who we thought they we're, but because we mistakenly thought they were something they aren't.
Checklist: "I Love You if __________ "
What we call love is most often selfish attachments.
It is actually a disturbing attitude that overestimates the qualities of another person. We then cling to tightly to that person, thinking our happiness depends on that person.

yup you are sooo right, Hats off to you👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏

Originally posted by: bebosallu4eva

Thankyou. my Magical angel🤗.!!! u made my day 😊

sadaf I was almost done my all exam paper and my blue interships, new magement base project an someother feww . exam will stared in aug ...last after my all Exam i will be free


so tell me something about u ? are u student in which class school, or collage ? how many year old ?where are u live ? are u naughty ,simple tell something ur nature
what is ur fav colour ,ur fav movie,tv show, who is ur fav actor or actress ect ects ..