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Originally posted by: Gossip Girl

I blame all the men. Maybe that is partly due to my extreme feminist side. With most guys I have seen they want to fool and play around with the girl. Only 1% of the guys are actually genuine in my opinion there is a likelihood I may increase this number to 5% in the next 4-5 years. I don't blame the girls, since in some ways we are emotional, and tend to think from the heart. With guys on the other hand they are mainly practical, and think wisely using their mind.

I find it completely wrong when they decide to play with a girl. Yes, I'll admit there are girls that play the same game with the guys, but frankly when I see my friends go through heart break I feel like going and smacking the guy. It's his fault. Why flirt and fool around with the girl? Girls have always taken things seriously, and it will be hard to change this in all of the girls, but certainly guys can be taught to be more honest, rather than sticking to their lame games. I have warned so many of my friends on multiple occasions to stop liking some guy, but some girls are just blind in love. Finally I have accepted defeat there is no power that can change girls, and I say the change lies in guys.

I don't believe in love at first sight either. I liked the way you connected friendship and love, but I am not sure on it yet. I also like how you mentioned that most people confuse lust with love. I have to agree. Most people are in idea with the whole process of "falling in love" hence most girls claim they are in love when they are possibly not. I'm actually clueless on this whole falling in love process, and I find it completely over rated. I respect the people that are in love, yet I cannot see myself, as someone who falls in love.

GG, I think it's safe to say that neither party is to blame. Since we're females, it's natural for us to blame the men, and vice verce. In the end, we're practically two different species, hoping that the opposite adjusts to the way we are. 😆

I think teenage girls who expect a serious relationship need a reality check. Come on, what guy at the age of 18 or 19 is thinking of marriage? Of course they're in it for fun. Yes, they are complete, heartless, manipulative and utter assholes for playing with a girls' feelings, but we've had this knowledge since the dawn of time, yet we still fool ourselves into thinking that this one maybe different? 😆

I do agree on your take, though. To me, I say it's best that both people are independent in the sense that they are responsible for their own happiness first, and have self-respect and genuine respect for the other person. This eliminates doormats, overly possessive demands, and one-sided egotistical relationships where pleasing the other isn't about the other at all.

No investments in unrealistic fairy tale expectations of the other person or misconceptions of what relationships should be like (say the crazy idea that arguments should never happen and couples should always agree, period). Neither person has to be perfect, but neither is forcing such a demand either. Therefore, no need to suffocate one another or stab eachother with knives or sniperish passive-agressive insults.

All this works because two people can chill out and enjoy eachother's company, be it vertical or horizontal, and make the most out of a life that hopefully both can benefit from.

And just while we're on the subject....

Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come. - Matt Groening

😆

Originally posted by: Gossip Girl

@ Caroline - I was part of it from 2002 - 2004, if I remember correctly.

lets just see if u remember any of these names
maham
manju
sayali
priyanka
kush
mita

hmmmmmmmmm..these are the ppl i still have contacts with.....they were a riot in KL!!!

Originally posted by: carolinecj

ROFLMAOOO

zainab..i knew u then...never communicated though...
u had a avi with punji in swim trunks

LOL

it was a riot fr me!

Lol, I made that for her. 😆

MOVE OVER PRITHVI!

Originally posted by: Gossip Girl

Wow!! Yeah, all of my school friends are busy with work or on vacation as well. So I am mostly on IF, since I'm jobless and without school, so nothing better to do. Late night confession?? Hmmm. I'm so sleepy right now, else I would have totally made up one ;) To be frank I really don't have one, I'm an extremely boring person in reality trying to keep a low profile. It's only online that my real side sometimes comes out. My current favorite person in the forum is Shweta! 😃 If anyone gets annoyed by her feel free to send me a PM. I'm always up for a conversation with my favorite person.

Originally posted by: Gossip Girl

I blame all the men. Maybe that is partly due to my extreme feminist side. With most guys I have seen they want to fool and play around with the girl. Only 1% of the guys are actually genuine in my opinion there is a likelihood I may increase this number to 5% in the next 4-5 years. I don't blame the girls, since in some ways we are emotional, and tend to think from the heart. With guys on the other hand they are mainly practical, and think wisely using their mind.

I find it completely wrong when they decide to play with a girl. Yes, I'll admit there are girls that play the same game with the guys, but frankly when I see my friends go through heart break I feel like going and smacking the guy. It's his fault. Why flirt and fool around with the girl? Girls have always taken things seriously, and it will be hard to change this in all of the girls, but certainly guys can be taught to be more honest, rather than sticking to their lame games. I have warned so many of my friends on multiple occasions to stop liking some guy, but some girls are just blind in love. Finally I have accepted defeat there is no power that can change girls, and I say the change lies in guys.

I don't believe in love at first sight either. I liked the way you connected friendship and love, but I am not sure on it yet. I also like how you mentioned that most people confuse lust with love. I have to agree. Most people are in idea with the whole process of "falling in love" hence most girls claim they are in love when they are possibly not. I'm actually clueless on this whole falling in love process, and I find it completely over rated. I respect the people that are in love, yet I cannot see myself, as someone who falls in love.

I don't know if I agree with the percentages. It has to be higher than that. There are some guy feminists out there. In fact, a guy, was the one, who forwarded this essay/blog post to me once. Here is an excerpt of it. I urge you to see the link though.

Yes, You Are

feminism n (1895) 1 : the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes 2 : organized activity on behalf of women's rights and interests ' feminist n or adj ' feministic adj

Above, the dictionary definition of feminism ' the entire dictionary definition of feminism. It is quite straightforward and concise. If you believe in, support, look fondly on, hope for, and/or work towards equality of the sexes, you are a feminist.

Yes, you are.

The definition of feminism does not ask for two forms of photo ID. It does not care what you look like. It does not care what color skin you have, or whether that skin is clear, or how much you weigh, or what you do with your hair. You can bite your nails, or you can get them done once a week. You can spend two hours on your makeup, or five minutes, or the time it takes to find a Chapstick without any lint sticking to it. You can rock a cord mini, or khakis, or a sari, and you can layer all three. The definition of feminism does not include a mandatory leg-hair check; wax on, wax off, whatever you want. If you believe in, support, look fondly on, hope for, and/or work towards equality of the sexes, you are a feminist.

http://tomatonation.com/?p=677

And I will definitely say that I have seen both think from their hormones/ heart in different ways to justify their lame behavior. So I won't say that guys think from the brain either. But I will say that physical attraction is higher on their list than ours. Also, I do think both need to change perceptions. Yes, men as a gender overall do need to a push to change some of their ways. I find it funny sometimes when I have said something regarding "male privilege" and people started to challenge me. But there is such a thing. Though the thing is that women need to change too and stop buying the hate myself bullshit. Sure, the media feeds it. The fact that beauty products and all of that are targeted towards women and the way we are seen as moody if we aren't acquiescing. The thing is that why would the people with the upper hand want to give away their privilege unless they are prodded to. That is why I try to make people aware and let them know if I think something is wrong, whether it is a guy friend or relative. Many times they just don't get it unless it is pointed out. Sometimes, I realize I maybe the dreaded nag, but I do think it is necessary to speak up when we feel something is wrong. That may not always be possible, but it is worth an effort.

YESSS CARO! SOHA MADE IT FOR AND RIYA AND I. WE ADORNED IT AS OUR AVI FOR DAYS.

AND THEN SHE MADE US THE ANTI - CHRIST SIG TOO. 😆

Originally posted by: carolinecj

Hmmm
im checking those threads zainab🤣



ROXXYY DUDE
my dad is a lawyer...so I see a lot of these failures in lowe marriages..in arranged amrriages..some are horrifying stories..some are utterly interesting and absurd....it kind of shook my faith in arranged marriages and love marriages...thats why i decided i am probably better of getting married to somebody i knw

I willtype out the stories when the audience is interested :D


i wastalking abt it as legalized pros..when i was 18...I used to act like this super duper feminsit..I still am in some corner..nw my opinion has rather softened..so ahs my talk

Sharing is caring. I'd love to hear some stories. I just don't agree with the entire notion of marriage. Like I said, it's a legal document to protect us against insecurity. 😉

LMAOO I was reading that thread Z

but its tooooo LONG!!!

OMG
so soha made that "HIETN FANS ARE HERE" siggy🤣


that was a ROFLEr

NIMMI, we are so alike. While I was reading their posts, I thought of over privilege & sociology again.. lol..

Shweta! The name sounds familiar.