What's the best age to get married? - Page 12

Originally posted by: SlowlyDrifting

How are you so sorted? No seriously, very well-balanced thoughts! Thanks! 🙌

Thanks 🙏🏽

It’s Coz I’ve been there and fought my way out of that negative pothole that ppl try to bury u into if ur single

“no one Will marry u”…”after 30 no one will marry u they will want younger girls ..”…” u don’t have the qualities for a love marriage arranged is the only way “ ..” u have to compromise” ..”ur chances of conception are less “ …”it’s not necessary to be attracted to the guy u marry …oh but we want kids soon coz time is running out ..”….fine lemme go sleep with a guy I don’t like 😕

and all sorts of nonsense that just made me sick and uncomfortable

Heard it all …have been humiliated enough in family events …I’m done now with ppl telling me how to lead my life or what I should be feeling ….no unsolicited advice will be taken 👍🏼

Seriously poocha hai?

between 24 to 30..whenever u feel u met the right person and r ready to marry.

After 30 that right person may start to seem wrong in most cases😛

Specially for girls..somehow no guy seems to live up to your standards after 30

I listened to this podcast a couple weeks back that is now stuck in my mind. It said that the best way to put yourself in touch with your highest priority and what truly matters to you is by asking this question - Will I regret this when I'm dying?

So let's phrase your question this way -- Will you regret not marrying within the "right" age bracket when you're dying?

If the prescribed age bracket by mohallae wale aunties and uncles is 25-29 and you happen to marry at 33, will you think about that or regret that in your deathbed?

Sorry for sounding morbid but I think it's a great thought experiment.⭐️

Originally posted by: pathaka

Thanks 🙏🏽

It’s Coz I’ve been there and fought my way out of that negative pothole that ppl try to bury u into if ur single

“no one Will marry u”…”after 30 no one will marry u they will want younger girls ..”…” u don’t have the qualities for a love marriage arranged is the only way “ ..” u have to compromise” ..”ur chances of conception are less “ …”it’s not necessary to be attracted to the guy u marry …oh but we want kids soon coz time is running out ..”….fine lemme go sleep with a guy I don’t like 😕

and all sorts of nonsense that just made me sick and uncomfortable

Heard it all …have been humiliated enough in family events …I’m done now with ppl telling me how to lead my life or what I should be feeling ….no unsolicited advice will be taken 👍🏼

Wow..bunch of nasty comments..it's not like no guy will marry u after 30..

it's more like, is the guy mature enough to understand n independent, grown up woman? Times r changing and we r made to believe such guys exist..they do but still a rarity.

Originally posted by: SmittenKitten

I listened to this podcast a couple weeks back that is now stuck in my mind. It said that the best way to put yourself in touch with your highest priority and what truly matters to you is by asking this question - Will I regret this when I'm dying?

So let's phrase your question this way -- Will you regret not marrying within the "right" age bracket when you're dying?

If the prescribed age bracket by mohallae wale aunties and uncles is 25-29 and you happen to marry at 33, will you think about that or regret that in your deathbed?

Sorry for sounding morbid but I think it's a great thought experiment.⭐️

Aisa kya? well then please marry me Smitten, I don't want any regrets on my deathbed. 😭 😆

Yeh, I don't think there's any "right" age, probably get yourself sorted out before you enter into any relationship, there is no perfect person/relationship, it's all requires effort. For women there's the additional factor of the biological clock, so depends if you want to start a family, but no-one should be shamed/pressured into a marriage because of that. I guess what I'm trying to say, live however you want, cause in the end we all die alone anyway.

And about lying on your deathbed, even if you are regretting about things in your life, the good thing is, once your dead, it's all over. 😆

I am not an ageism so whenever you want.

Originally posted by: Heisenberg17_

Aisa kya? well then please marry me Smitten, I don't want any regrets on my deathbed. 😭 😆

Yeh, I don't think there's any "right" age, probably get yourself sorted out before you enter into any relationship, there is no perfect person/relationship, it's all requires effort. For women there's the additional factor of the biological clock, so depends if you want to start a family, but no-one should be shamed/pressured into a marriage because of that. I guess what I'm trying to say, live however you want, cause in the end we all die alone anyway.

And about lying on your deathbed, even if you are regretting about things in your life, the good thing is, once your dead, it's all over. 😆

Was e-proposing to me one of the non-negotiables in your list? What can I say, I'm glad to be of service now that you got that taken care of. 😆😆

Yup, agreed there. I don't think there is such a thing like "good" age for marriage. If you wanna shut your relatives up, pacify your rents, and have a couple of kids down the road with a guy who is looking for the same, I say you should get married around 27-28 ish from a biological standpoint ... if you're a woman. And if you're already in a relationship with a guy, get him to put a ring on it before he wastes your precious time.😆

Here people get married around 32 and have the kids at 35 or even 40.., i think the perfect age is between 25-28.

Originally posted by: pathaka

Thanks 🙏🏽

It’s Coz I’ve been there and fought my way out of that negative pothole that ppl try to bury u into if ur single

“no one Will marry u”…”after 30 no one will marry u they will want younger girls ..”…” u don’t have the qualities for a love marriage arranged is the only way “ ..” u have to compromise” ..”ur chances of conception are less “ …”it’s not necessary to be attracted to the guy u marry …oh but we want kids soon coz time is running out ..”….fine lemme go sleep with a guy I don’t like 😕

and all sorts of nonsense that just made me sick and uncomfortable

Heard it all …have been humiliated enough in family events …I’m done now with ppl telling me how to lead my life or what I should be feeling ….no unsolicited advice will be taken 👍🏼

@Bold: Been there, done that (in this case heard that ALL!!!) 😆 But sorry dost, I gave in. Not that I'm not happy or contended or at peace with my life at the moment, I quite very much, I do. I just adore my husband and love my son with all my ❤️. But to endure all this (what you did), you really have to have a brave heart. I get hurt pretty quickly. 🥺 I'm not strong-headed enough. But as they say all is well that ends well. 😆

Originally posted by: SlowlyDrifting

@Bold: Been there, done that (in this case heard that ALL!!!) 😆 But sorry dost, I gave in. Not that I'm not happy or contended or at peace with my life at the moment, I quite very much, I do. I just adore my husband and love my son with all my ❤️. But to endure all this (what you did), you really have to have a brave heart. I get hurt pretty quickly. 🥺 I'm not strong-headed enough. But as they say all is well that ends well. 😆

That’s awesome to hear that things worked out for u in the end ..…god bless and wishing u lots more happiness😊