The heart of the matter

The heart of the matter Jugal Hansraj gets candid

Jugal Hansraj - the chocolate boy with eyes that could melt anyone's heart, talks to ShaadiTimes about the heart of the matter when it comes to heart matters. We caught up with him at the Reid & Taylor Insta Snooker tournament at the Bombay Gymkhana.

Catch him getting candid.

Are you a family oriented family?
Yes, absolutely. We are a close-knit family. All four of us. We love spending time with each other; we take time out to spend with each other. My brother is also a very busy man but we do make it a point to spend quality time together. Especially in the evenings.

In your kind of a busy schedule how do you manage to take time out for your loved ones?
Well, (laughs) it is kinda difficult but then one learns to manage. Now the mobile phone is there so it becomes a lot easy to keep in touch. But even otherwise I try and take time out to spend it with people I love.

What is your idea of love?
Love is a beautiful to thing to happen to anyone. It is relative what one thinks of love but to me it would just be when I love someone and someone can love me back. That would be great! Love is a lot of understanding and if you can get that then it's a beautiful thing.

What is your idea of a perfect partner?
The idea of a perfect partner or even an ideal partner is again relative. Different people think about it differently but like I said, nothing more than someone whom I can love who will love me back. Someone who will accept me the way I am, someone whom I can be myself with. Someone who can understand me. I think that should be my idea of a perfect partner.

Have you found someone like that?
Hmmm... (Smiling shyly), well no not as yet but it is always nice to have someone like that. Everyone wants that.

So you are looking?
Well yes... (With a coy grin)

What do you think is the foundation for a successful marriage?
Friendship! The basis on which any marriage depends is friendship. Your partner has to be your friend. And according to me friendship is a lot of fun. When you can have fun with your partner, when you can truly enjoy each other's company, when you can be friends with your partner that's what I call a successful marriage or relationship.

Any plans for your own marriage?
Well, none as yet. I haven't even started thinking in that direction. Apart from the fact that there is no one I can think that way about, I just feel too young for something like marriage. I mean I still feel like I am in college, yaar !!! And I haven't even given it a thought! (With a little bewilderment in his eyes).

But you must've thought of it in the long-term future?
Well, no not exactly. I mean for me marriage is something that doesn't seem like a part of my plans at all. If it has to happen it will. And about plans I don't really plan that way, you know. There is that saying that goes, "If you want to make God laugh tell Him your plans!" He always has His own plans for you.

In today's atmosphere of growing competition and looking at the fast-pacedness of life, what do you think should be the priority given to career vs. family / relationships?
Yes, in today's world the focus is definitely shifting and priorities have changed. But there is a need to maintain a balance. One always needs a partner to walk beside oneself. And even if not now, one realizes that need later on in life.

Any parting words you would like to give to our readers?
Well, since it is a shaadi site I would just like to wish for everyone a very happy and long-lasting marriage. The way marriages are breaking up at the first hint of discontent is disheartening. People should give their marriages a chance; they should try and resolve differences. They should give it more than just a shot. It is not the age where marriages go steady for 30-40 years. There are so many marriages that have been going strong for so long and there are so many lessons to be learnt from there.