In the last episode..Shehnaaz was seen talking to Vishal. They were discussing how Paras and Mahira make Shehnaaz seem jealous ..and try to one-up Mahira all the time. Vishaal and Bagga validated her. Shukla waddled past them in his new uniform...kaan lagaoing as usual. Later Shehnaaz goes to him..he immediately acts like a four year old...tries to make her feel guilty for talking to Vishal...brings up his usual track-that she is being manipulated by others . When she said Vishal was right..that she agreed with him..Shukla acts more childish...dismisses her and gives her the katti treatment. If you are not with me you are with them...if you are with them you are against me..that seems to be his view. He tried to make her guilty...which is bad enough..then when she explains he mockingly cuts her off saying 'tu sahi hai acha acha meri galati jo maine poocha' ...his Modus operandi has been that since day one. Attacks his friends who disagree with him by mocking them...by being sarcastic...giving them the silent treatment until they agree with him. Now that is toxic behaviour. Using guilt to make someone agree with you. Guilt tripping someone for having individuality of their own.Withholding affection/interaction to punish them for having their own views.
All these are typical tactics of a narcissist who has no respect for other people as individuals. Someone who wants to control and dominate everyone..someone who is incapable of seeing things from another person's point of view. This nature of his has been the cause of most of the fights this season ...and he has had them with every other contestant. Every contestant including his doormats ...has at some point admitted that he is a narcissist who cant accept disagreement ..let alone criticism.
This is how Asim ended up breaking away from him. When he tried to guilt trip Asim for having different views during the sack-task. Dozens of examples aside..The most striking one was Asim massaging Shukla in the middle of the night when he was groaning in pain(even though they were not in talking terms )..and the next day Shukla abusing Asims parents ..calling his mother a wh ore..without any appreciation for what was done the previous night.
His drama with Rashmi (in the BB house) started when he plainly refused to chop vegetables in the right sizes and shapes ...asking how it mattered at all since 'pet mein hi jaana hai ".
He constantly cuts Arti off( constantly cuts everyone off )...no maater how hard she tries to be heard. There was that one time when she refused to take it..she stood up to him againsthe degradation...she accused him of what im talking about. Ofcourse she went back to being the good ole doormat....thats the thing with codependency...codependent people always go back to narcissists because their sense of individuality isnt there anymore. I dont have to get into how he reacted when she had that 'panic attack'..we have been through that many times.
Another example from the last episode. Paras was supporting Shukla against Rashmi when the latter was ranting about her..when he was talking about the Dil se dil tak issue. Paras fed Shuklas ego by saying everyone knows Rashmi was lying. The ethics of that aside..paras was supporting Shukla there. He said he had heard about Shuklas drug addiction from the common driver they had..that everything was hearsay. Instead of appreciating Paras' support..Shukla says " tu kya sochta hai mere baare mein..mujhe koi farak nahi padta...tujhe main jaanta tak nahi tha..yahan mile the hum...tere opinions se mera koi lena dena nahi hai "
Shukla sees everyone as objects. Insignificant props who are extras in The Siddharth Shukla Show..objects who dont deserve respect...who dont deserve to be paid attention when they talk or present their opinions. Servants who can be ordered about . Assistants who would help him do his work ...real work and the dirty work like provocation ...humiliation bullying.
His narcissim and the issues that stem from it is the main problem here...and couching it as "He runs the show" is just bizarre. Ofcourse the show is centered around him because he is the menace of the show. Somebody bringing in TRPs because they are a bully who starts most of the fights is not something to be praised. Its not a plus point. And its not a minus point for people who question him. Instead of calling him out on his narcissism ...his double standards and hypocrisy ..his extremely bad manners ...his supporters praise these traits and call it 'strength' and 'independence'. They echo his own narrative of him being a target (narcissists cant accept the idea that they could be wrong..so if someone is criticising them it has to be unfair and baseless..hence 'target' ) . If you let a wild animal lose in the city..obviously it would get a lot of attention from the people in the vicinity and even others who watch from a distance. The reason is this-this creature is unpleasant and is at the wrong place..causing disturbance to people who work hard to maintain some level of decency maturity and sanity. This attention is not a good thing. Maybe it brings in TRPs but you could say that about any sick shit out there..like violent p0rnography..or videos of child abuse..or videos of rape or videos of a monkey eating its own poop. The number of 'likes' does not mean the content and the content provider is good and praiseworthy.
So instead of turning this into a Rashmi vs Shukla debate..with each fandom trying to see who wronged whom...lets address the real issue and see how its affecting each contestant ...and how society at large is supporting this kind of toxic behaviour. At an age of so much crime against people..especially women or minorities or other vulnerable people...is it okay for a mainstream channel to glorify bullying? Is it okay for a famous filmstar with lakhs of fans to influence the audiences and say its always the victims fault if they end up getting bullied? Is it okay to downplay bullying as a romance-gone-wrong thing just because one of the many people who question the bully happened to be an ex costar of him..who had also probably dated him? Is it okay to call it a woman card just because the person who stands up against this toxicity has a vagina? Because anything could be called a 'card'. This is setting a dangerous precedent ..where anyone who refuses to be bullied or harassed would be tagged with some card or the other . This is not really about Shukla its about something bigger and worse...harmful personality traits being whitewashed and glorified-being legitimised and celebrated in mainstream media like never before.
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