Originally posted by: nuomi.riceball
Geez.. of course Mafaaza ji.. because heaven forbids that a woman can have premarital sex and keep quiet about it as it is her private matter. Heaven forbids that if she has the guts to do premarital and got unplanned and unwanted pregnanncy; she has to declare it to the society and community and should be like the super woman not be afraid of anything and declare it from mountain to mountain, and sea to sea for the whole world to know. In a society I can say for sure, that will judge her, mock her, insult her, belittle and ridiculed her and maybe smear her face with coal and ash to hang her head down in shame; and as a collateral damage her family would also be subjected to those shame and mockery till the kingdom comes.Because heaven forbids that she be afraid for what she did, be afraid of being pregnant without the security of marital status, be afraid of the repercussions of what society would be brand her and her family, be afraid of being thrown by her family for shaming them.
Of course she should not have any of those feelings and fear; she should tells everybody that she has had premarital sex and tells everybody that she is pregnant. Because the communities and societies have the rights to know about her sexual activities and keep records of it.
Geez.. and here I wonder why she is afraid of telling everybody that she is no longer a virgin and is a pregnant.
Ofcourse she cannot declare things like this to public.... come on that's not what any of us meant I m sure....but u have to admit these are serious matters... falling in love, having relationship, unplanned pregnancy....she can't keep quiet either....I m saying if she had the guts to actually be in a relationship that way....she should have the guts to actually do something about it when things don't go as she imagined... keeping quiet or lieing is not gonna make it go away...like Sana suggested, pregnancy thing doesn't even come into picture yet.... when RM asked all she had to say was no I don't want this marriage...girls are allowed to say atleast that in our society....
And she could have confided in Pragati when she asked what's wrong, or told RM about it....in private of course.... taking care of sis would have kept RM away from drinks and suicide a little more time and given us some good episodes..but that's not the point sorry 😋.... point is desperate times call for desperate measures...u can't just have affair with someone, take such an important step then get afraid and just silently marry someone else.... that's cheating....and even after her lie last episode she will have to do something right? She won't be able to maintain this whole life....she can't marry another guy without saying anything if she is already pregnant for real....she has to do something....so why not take help when u got it.....does she have any better options now? Any idea how she will manage alone? I don't see it....now what? So wouldn't it be better if she told her truth to someone? Anyone....
Our society is what it is....u can't live out of it...so yeah if u do something u know society will feel wrong have the guts to fight for it...say yeah I did it so what, I m not wrong....and if u can't then u too deep inside feel u are wrong...so don't do it, control urself, u r human....ur private life is urs, but when it effects other lives big time...like Priya's would be husband who doesn't know anything....then as I see it, it's not ur private thing anymore and keeping quiet is wrong in our or any country....and the most wrong u would be doing is to that innocent baby who would either get killed coz u don't want it or would one day face humiliation for sure.....so yeah people should know what u did in this case....
P.S. we are still having a discussion about a topic right? U are not getting mad or anything? This has become a social topic now so AT is probably not the right place when we have a chat club....but oh well..🤪 don't take anything personally....
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