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Smiely

@Smiely

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Posted: 12 years ago

I like Shiv's character a lot. Sid is doing a awesome job. Don't you think he is too nice to be true. Still failed to understand which man will say "It's ok" when he thinks it's his SR and his wife says "I can not".

Has anybody came across a guy who is as nice as Shiv. Or atleast some quality like Shiv.
Please share.

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divine_ram

@divine_ram

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: Smiely
I like Shiv's character a lot. Sid is doing a awesome job. Don't you think he is too nice to be true. Still failed to understand which man will say "It's ok" when he thinks it's his SR and his wife says "I can not".
Has anybody came across a guy who is as nice as Shiv. Or atleast some quality like Shiv.
Please share.

It's very rare to find a guy in real life like him. But there r people you have the qualities about shiv in real life. Cannot answer the question where whether a guy can say "it's ok" when his wife says she cannot. There r guys who will wait for their wife to be comfortable for SR. But 2 months is a long wait and I doubt a guy in real life can have so much patience to wait for his wife. He will definitely be not happy by heart. A marriage like shiv anandi is a very rare in real life. How many single eligible educated city guys and a collector will fall for a village girl hesitant to remarry. Families like shekhars r rare too in Indian. There r still lot of families hesitant to get their son married to a divorced girl.

Edited by Sheetsden - 12 years ago

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Blukitten

@Blukitten

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Posted: 12 years ago

of corse I know several men who hav married divorcees and r patient n understanding like shiv...I feel Shiv is pretty normal thters no need to glorify him as mahan ...seems like we hav such low expectations frm men tht evenblittle gesture like helping in kitchen is considered as a favor by the man

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Vips_

@Vips_

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: Smiely

I like Shiv's character a lot. Sid is doing a awesome job. Don't you think he is too nice to be true. Still failed to understand which man will say "It's ok" when he thinks it's his SR and his wife says "I can not".
Has anybody came across a guy who is as nice as Shiv. Or atleast some quality like Shiv.
Please share.

There are guys like Shiv in real life too...
I have one as my partner 😛

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Noureen

@nya_ansari

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Posted: 12 years ago

I have seen a guy like this and I'm blessed I'm his wife :)
He waited for me 1 month even it was a love marriage... And it was me who asked him its ok I'm good with this now... It's rear but not abnormal thing...

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onlinebuddy75

@onlinebuddy75

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: Smiely
I like Shiv's character a lot. Sid is doing a awesome job. Don't you think he is too nice to be true. Still failed to understand which man will say "It's ok" when he thinks it's his SR and his wife says "I can not".
Has anybody came across a guy who is as nice as Shiv. Or atleast some quality like Shiv.
Please share.

Yes ofcourse there are many out there have a look. I know few and am blessed to have one as my partner.

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aparnauma

@GoodDoc_2105

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Posted: 12 years ago

I fail to see any greatness in that action of his.He married knowingly that she is not ready for a marriage and so he is waiting for her to get prepared to accept him.Afterall he knows that someday she will give in and his patience is paying off.

It is choice between using common sense and using force he chose to exercise his common sense and decided to be patient with his wife.

After all in any good marriage understanding and patience have to be shown by both partners as and when the situation requires.

I don't think he is being mahaan he is just making his own efforts to make his marriage work.

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753037

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: Smiely
I like Shiv's character a lot. Sid is doing a awesome job. Don't you think he is too nice to be true. Still failed to understand which man will say "It's ok" when he thinks it's his SR and his wife says "I can not".
Has anybody came across a guy who is as nice as Shiv. Or atleast some quality like Shiv.
Please share.

Yes i have seen such men. It is normal. I have seen a guy who gave 6 months time to his wife. 😃Men(atleast the educated group) are not some criminals or animals to pounce on a female who needs some time. Even Jagya, who was a big time MCP gave time to Gauri till she whole heartedly accepted him.

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857839

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Posted: 12 years ago

Real life - I have seen people wait for heir wife to consummate. They respect their wife's decision for not going with them when they get transferred because the wife may have some commitments. I have also seen them helping taking care of wife's family.
BUT i do not think any guy will be happy to see his wife's ex husband causing problem in their life by amnesia drama and knocking at the door at the mid night. Also he will not like his wife saying I am still tied up with my past memories of my SR on their first night and his wife's too much attachment with maika over him and his family. Kuch to expectation hota hein, not like anandi chance mile to badi haveli.

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masin

@masin

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Posted: 12 years ago

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Originally posted by: aparnauma
I fail to see any greatness in that action of his.He married knowingly that she is not ready for a marriage and so he is waiting for her to get prepared to accept him.Afterall he knows that someday she will give in and his patience is paying off.

It is choice between using common sense and using force he chose to exercise his common sense and decided to be patient with his wife.

After all in any good marriage understanding and patience have to be shown by both partners as and when the situation requires.

I don't think he is being mahaan he is just making his own efforts to make his marriage work.

Initially, I wasn't planning to comment in this thread because a few people pretty much stated my opinion on this topic...😆...but that last line of yours really did it for me!

I think what you said there is the most apt way of describing Shiv's attitude towards this whole consummation nonsense...he's simply making an effort to make his marriage work! And rightly so, he's a part of this marriage as much as his partner is!

I also agree that he isn't doing anything ultra mahaan or whatever...but then I guess it may seem mahaan to families who aren't accustomed to such a sensible school of thought. The Shekhars, however modern they may be, have seemingly had a pretty "happy-go-lucky" lifestyle (apart from the passing of Choti Ma's husband) ...so I doubt they came across such an "issue" (Just to clarify, I frankly don't find this lack of consummation an issue 😕). The Singhs on the other hand, haven't been exposed to this scenario either because the women in their household are too petrified to disobey their husband's needs and also because they are too conservative as a family to discuss such matters openly (then again...I prefer a more conservative outlook on this matter as opposed to the kind of interference that was showed by Ira!).

So I guess with respect to such mentalities and exposure, Shiv seems like an outcast...an extremely patient and mahaan husband to his equally mahaan wife...but in reality, he's just mirroring any husband that is interested in leading a successful and happy married life! I really love the sound of what you said, so to simply reiterate for the umpteenth time, Shiv is just trying to make his marriage work! 😊

@ Topic Maker: I haven't really looked/judged guys in "that way" yet so I can't exactly recall whether I've come across some real life replicas of Shiv 😆 But yes, I have come across several men who have qualities similar to Shiv...if not better than him...so what BV is showing is definitely not a fluke, such men do exist in real life and it is possible to be related to them...whether they're your brother, father, husband, boyfriend, or friend...these men aren't hard to find!

They're hard to raise though...men like these aren't born this way in my opinion, and that's why there's a huge difference between a male who is a boy and a male who is a man. In Shiv's case, I think apart from his upbringing, his higher studies in London (away from his family) really worked in his benefit too... living alone must've helped him mature and grow as a person and further develop a sensible outlook on life!

^^ I think I got a little carried away there...I simply love Shiv's character so please don't be offended and/or irritated by my unnecessary praise directed at him 😳

Edited by masin - 12 years ago

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