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poiu123

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Posted: 12 years ago

#41

Originally posted by: Jan50
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Aparnauma wrote...

She reacted the same way every time somebody keeps things away from her,Be it DS's plans to marry her off Bhago's illness or the way when Shiv decided to dump her so that she can get married to Jagya her initial reaction has been same.In what way is it different. Didn't she do the right thing after she calmed down?

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But there is a difference. The previous events involved her life. People just decided what she should be doing without asking her or talking to her. She had every right to be upset. But this time it involves J. They don't have to share every bit of news about him with her. She should allow them that much discretion. An I telligent person like her should have some idea as to why they had hidden that info from her. This is not rocket science. it is getting rediculous.if my family hid some news about my brother from me, I am not going to react this way.

But I will react this way only and feel hurt.

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aparnauma

@GoodDoc_2105

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Posted: 12 years ago

#42

Originally posted by: Jan50
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Aparnauma wrote...
She reacted the same way every time somebody keeps things away from her,Be it DS's plans to marry her off Bhago's illness or the way when Shiv decided to dump her so that she can get married to Jagya her initial reaction has been same.In what way is it different. Didn't she do the right thing after she calmed down?
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But there is a difference. The previous events involved her life. People just decided what she should be doing without asking her or talking to her. She had every right to be upset. But this time it involves J. They don't have to share every bit of news about him with her. She should allow them that much discretion. An I telligent person like her should have some idea as to why they had hidden that info from her. This is not rocket science. it is getting rediculous.if my family hid some news about my brother from me, I am not going to react this way.

Why don't we give her time for her to get over the news?

Did she not sit and think about other peoples POV in the past?Was she not understanding about other people?

Why do we have to make up our opinion by her first reaction?

You may be upset in the beginning but when you think why they did it later on you will be understanding.

So I would still say at the expense of repeating myself that I would prefer to wait and watch.

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hooked

@hooked

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Posted: 12 years ago

#43

Parents do strange things with a newly married daughter and it is hard to understand for the daughter that they think they r doing it for the best.

I found out that my dad had a heart attack 2 months after my marriage and my mom called my brother to fly down and take care of him but I did not get told about it and found out only 3 months later. Cannot even begin to share how hurt and abandoned and unwanted I felt at that moment.

I got shocked, worried, sad, hurt, upset and angry in that order. And I felt my parents had literally from their hearts 'given' (kanyaDAAN) me away to not even think of sharing this with me. I made them promise that in future they can never ever do such a thing to me and if they do, I too will walk away and not share my life with them - sad or happy.

And then, one time we had a bad accident and I told them a fortnight later and they were upset that I did not share. So - basically they got the point that it hurts to be left out.

Anyways - Anandi is justified in feeling hurt for the Singhs and specially DS for missing J, but she also has to undertsand why they did this and that - by crying in front of everyone - she is undoing everything and making matters worse for herself and causing hurt to her new family specially Shiv - who - can only think about ways to cheer her up.

Maybe Anandi can think about making Shiv and his family happy from now on. She needs to loosen her apron strings to the Singhs and tie them to Shiv. Hope Chhoti Ma and Sumitra can help her here.

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aparnauma

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Posted: 12 years ago

#44

Regarding her relationship with Jagya she has made it very clear that she cannot and does not want to go back to him.

She told Shiv very clearly her reason for worrying about Jagya. She is concerned about his well being because it is connected to the happiness of her family.He understands that.

Even with Shiv she has made a lot of progress.

Considering the fact she did not want to see herself married to anybody she came a long way.She sees her future with him.

About handling her past with Jagya she clearly told him that she being haunted by unwanted memories which are preventing her to reach out to him and she asked him to give her time to sort out those issues.She did not brush them under the carpet but trying to address those issues.

Which is in contrast with the way Jagya tried to handle his past with Anandi.He brushed them under the carpet thinking that they would go away but they did not and they ruined his happiness for him.

I think we should give her credit for her honesty regarding her feelings for her past and Shiv for understanding her and supporting her.

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Dazzler

Posted: 12 years ago

#45

She is honest enough with Shiv, I think its her ever ready tears that get to most of us.

Shiv is willing to please her by going back early and even upsetting his mom in the process - just to make her smile. And she can't make an effort to stop crying at the drop of a hat ?

Its not her per say - its the CV's. They can't be happy till the protagonist cries her eyes out like in any kekta serial. Anita was right - they think tears - at any poi nt - for any reason - are good for trp's. But for some of us - it is a huge turnoff.

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Gocilija

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Posted: 12 years ago

#46

Originally posted by: Jan50
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Aparnauma wrote...
She reacted the same way every time somebody keeps things away from her,Be it DS's plans to marry her off Bhago's illness or the way when Shiv decided to dump her so that she can get married to Jagya her initial reaction has been same.In what way is it different. Didn't she do the right thing after she calmed down?
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But there is a difference. The previous events involved her life. People just decided what she should be doing without asking her or talking to her. She had every right to be upset. But this time it involves J. They don't have to share every bit of news about him with her. She should allow them that much discretion. An itelligent person like her should have some idea as to why they had hidden that info from her. This is not rocket science. it is getting rediculous.if my family hid some news about my brother from me, I am not going to react this way.

I agree with you 100% ! T his is completely ridiculous reason for Anandi to cry - especially when that reason is her ex - husband, in whatever context it concerns Jagy, it is just unacceptable !
And, moreover, she do it in front of her husband and her in-laws !! This is inexcusable and unforgivable from my point of view. If I am in a position of Shiv, I will just stand up and left the house for ever - left Anandi to cry with her Sings and look after Jagy .

For Shiv and his in-laws there should be be no place in this house - they should just go back home without Anandi - thats all !!

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aparnauma

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Posted: 12 years ago

#47

Originally posted by: hooked
She is honest enough with Shiv, I think its her ever ready tears that get to most of us.

Shiv is willing to please her by going back early and even upsetting his mom in the process - just to make her smile. And she can't make an effort to stop crying at the drop of a hat ?

Its not her per say - its the CV's. They can't be happy till the protagonist cries her eyes out like in any kekta serial. Anita was right - they think tears - at any poi nt - for any reason - are good for trp's. But for some of us - it is a huge turnoff.

I agree.They do think that tears are the reason for the TRPs.😆

And they probably are right.

As for her being happy at the thought of return to Jaitser is more to do with her life in Jaitser that she was longing for which gave her a sense of purpose rather than just wanting to be with Singhs.

She has not really got used to the idea of being married yet.Though she likes the Shekhars she doesn't really consider them as her family yet.She probably feels that she is on a holiday there.

May be starting their married life in Jaitser while going about doing their routine work is a better way for her because living with him and sharing day to day life is what she requires to feel married.

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Jan50

@Jan50

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Posted: 12 years ago

#48

@hooked,

I am sorry about what happened with your father and you were not told. As one of his kids you should have been told. When something is a life and death situation.but J's case is not. He just disappeared to find himself and told them he will be back when time is right. It was ok for them not to tell A about it if they chose to. Considering all the unnecessary commotion it would cause,when they got married after so much hurdles. A could feel a little dis pleasure but not to the extent to create a drama. Their relashinship is not ordinary like regular parents and siblings. When she knows her marital situation is not normal like other women, she should also realize that her relationship with Singh family and J isnot a regular one.

You are absolutely right. It is all the fault of the cvs and not the actors. They want to milk the tears out of women for TRP ratings. They are making A insensitive to Shiv and over sensitive to Singh family and J. That is what irks the viewers. Viewers who are involved in this story express their opinions in a strong way relating to their own personal experiences.

By the way, I heard Ekta Kapoor is into making po*no movies.😆

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hooked

@hooked

Dazzler

Posted: 12 years ago

#49

I have an idea - inspired by Mahi -

Maybe - Shiv can start a cry-fine jar for her. Everytime she tears up - for any reason, she has to deposit something in a jar. Not money - maybe she has to pay him back in terms of a 'hug' 😉. Shiv can say - I get to hug you everytime you cry - maybe that will stop her from flooding up the place in tears 😆

Or - she has to try on the nightie, or some other forfeit - some fun thing !