conflicting messages!

If Balika vadhu theme is to show the importance of giving second chances to women, their right to get married after widowhood or divorce, and thier rights to start all over, the whole point is now sort of lost...If I were a guy after watching BV, I would be reluctant to marry a divorcee for fear of getting a crappy wife like anandi, who may or may not in the distant future reciprocate my feelings, if a mother in law, I would keep my son miles apart from such a fate etc...