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Hi everyone, going through one of topic regarding money can be compensated for what G faced i thought of starting a new topic.
Do you think the problem faced by one person is greater or less critical than the other. Can problems be compared. I saw an episode in Crime Patrol where the daughter of a dalit punjabi man was raped , tortured and left for humiliation. The dalit person ' s only source of earning is day today labour but hardly could meet the day's earning. After the rape the whole family faced humiliation and even the panchayat announced her to be wrong . The whole village started abusing them. But the turning point is the girls father stood like a solid pillar for his daughter and family. He went to police , lodged an FIR, fought in court, with the villagers and ultimately won the case only because of his fighting spirit . He never accused his daughter nor the villagers. He had no money still went on fighting and ultimately got justice . In return the boy's partners tried to kill him but he never carried any grudge but tried to fought the evil thoughts of people.
I pointed out this because in Balika Vadhu we have seen different woman with different problems- Gehna, Anandi, Phuli , Gauri, Asha , Sugna and now the Dayan lady. All of them have faced different problems in different situations but can their problems be compared. Can we say that what gauri faceD IS GREATER THAN GEHNA, PHULI OR ASHA. Neither all their problems can be compensated but if we see above all G was in a better place ( cant say is). So when rape is being compared with the problem of Gauri , it is debatable. Because rape stands above all problems and it cannot be compared.
In all this example one thing is common they faced problem when they were teenager or adolescant. This two are very important stage of a person life. They are very much influenced by their near and dear ones as well as friends.
Lets take the case of Phuli and Asha-- both widow, faced social injustice and humiliation but emerged as strong and good character person. Reason- their parents never accused them or hurt them. Although Phulis parents were also poor but still they tried not to put negative feelings in her mind.
Gehna-- faced problem but mentally was so strong that she emerged as a winner.
Anandi -- had her own problem, responsibility and barriers. But never let herslf down morally or ethically because of good parenting.
Gauri--- is it so bad that her marriage was broken ? No. She wanted to study , she studied , went to school . Ok, fine people said bad things which is obvious as like said to Phuli or asha as they were widow. After that she went to stay with badepapa. But she said her father didnot get any work due to broken marriage but question is why? 😕 Shaadi ke saath kam ka kya lena dena. Its obvious that Gauri's parents were not strong enough mentally to stand up and put up their points infront of the people who talked ill . If they would have not humiliated their own daughter and thought that ok it was not their fault and whatever happen happened for some good and tried to make their daughter's life better then they could be said as a good parents. In my view they were not good parents but mentally weak( money doesnot come in picture). Marriage even broke now, even people say ill ( it is human nature) but is it that bad . Being a second is much more humiliating and bad then marriage being broken.
The example i cited at first is to say that if G' father would have been a better person and were able to deal with the problem , thought not only from what they lost but also what they have been rescued from facing more problems , humiliation and stood with his daughter as a strong pillar then her world have been much better. Nothing is critical its our tendency to hide our own fault and pinpoint towards others for self assuring our own soul. As usual G and her parents failed to see what good is being done because they never wanted to come out of their own grief but find a way to burst their undone wishes of being in relation with a rich family. here phuli , gehna and asha stand apart because they were mentally strong as well as had strong support like family and anandi.
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