Anupamaa 18th Nov 2023 Written Update & Daily Discussions Thread - Page 3

Originally posted by: Sutapasima

Friends are the three characters exiting this show ? Kinjal, Toshu and pari ? . and may be Romil too ? Just like Sarra and GK ?

Nidhi who plays Kinjal posted that she is going to miss Kinju,so if it's the end of these characters

Even I think so. That's why DKP sent the couple to the UK and Romil is leaving for Boston

Ekk-ach minute...maana ki mei ek maaaaa huu aur mei apne "talk-sick" baa bapuji ki beti bhi hu(background music -hey jiji reyyy...he-yyyyy-ji ji re) 🎻

Mujhe dono mei se ek ko chuun na sawal hi paida nahi hota. Kyu ki meri jindagi mei mere bhagwaan mere ba aur bapuji hai... aur phir chhoti ki dekhbhaal k liye mere Anuj aur Guru ma hai ne.

Originally posted by: Sutapasima

Friends are the three characters exiting this show ? Kinjal, Toshu and pari ? . and may be Romil too ? Just like Sarra and GK ?

Originally posted by: AAMP

And why can’t bapuji take his medicines on his own?

Why does kinjal have to explain to Kavya about what medicines he has to take and when??!! And also msg Dimpy about bapuj’s medicines..

cream roll to achhe se thoosta hai.. medicines khud nahi le sakta?😡

Anupamaa baar 2 Anuj se kahti hai ki aap mere 7 janmo me kiye 16 somwar ka fal hain .. lekin asali punya to Shahs ne kiya hai. Jo etne nalayak hone ke bavjud free me etna Sara help paa rahe, aur wo bhi ek billionaire stranger se! Wo unhe Baa aur Baapu ji kah raha!

Baap re! What nonsense is this!

Big cities me to koi kisi ko nahi puchta. Small towns me next door neighbours hi dhyan rakhte hain thoda bahut. Shah House ke mohalle me kya koi bhi nahi hai jo aakar help kare? It tells a lot about Shah family's way of dealing things. They are not a neighbour friendly family.

Aur ye show to etna regressive hai ki agar Baapuji 120 saal ki umra me bhi mare to bhi aise hi rote chillate/blame karte dikhayenge ki dekho neglect ki wajah se mar gaye!

Yaar.. har umra ke insaan ko care ki jarurat hoti hai, aur har kisi ko apni health ka dhyan dena chahiye. It's a basic duty to oneself and others. Par iska matlab ye to nahi ki ham Vampire banne ki ichha paale?

Jis Desh me 60% population 35 se km age ki hai. Youngsters suicidal hain, waha ye log late 80 ke couple ko aise rote bilkhate dikha rahe hain, jaise wo abhi 500 saal aur jeena chahte ho!

People are supposed to be wise and mature with age. I agree many Indian people are failed at this. But this is a show. They need to show an example to the society. Ki budhaa hona, aur maut ke qareeb pahuchna koi tragedy nahi, jeevan ki sachhai hai.

Duniya ke sabse jyada progressive aur High human development wale kuch desho me "dignified Death" ka right hai logo ke paas.

Yaha to log umra bhar logo ka health neglect karte hain, aur last movement par guilt se bachne ke liye jabran laash banaker logo ko jinda rakhte hain. Kai older log saalo se bed par vegetable ki tarah pade rahte hain. Unke Diaper badle jate hain.

Yaha to negativity aur cynicism bahut jyada hai. Ya to older logo ko neglect kiya jata hai ya etna sir chadhaya jata hai ki we baccho ko abuse karte hain. Here, nobody is happy in real sense. And that tells something.

I think you are talking about a small part of the country, because not every elderly person is abusive by nature. Most of them are loving and caring. If we start generalizing, it becomes a problem. What we see around us may be true, but it cannot be said that India is like that. If we look at it this way, my grandparents are very sweet. However, I cannot say that all grandparents in the country are equally good although I belong to this country only. India is a very large country. It might not be the largest, but it is large. We haven't seen the entire country, so we cannot say that all elderly people are naturally abusive, and most of the elderly are left helpless on a bed.

I agree that the show is regressive, and the elders portrayed in it are not worthy of anything. The lead actress in the show is way too regressive and deserves nothing. However, in real life, it is not the same every time. It doesn't mean that elders don't need care. Just as children need care, so do the elderly. When we were young, our parents took care of us because we couldn't take care of ourselves. But now that we are young and our parents have reached a stage where they need care, how can we abandon them?

I agree that life and death are a part of everyone's life, and it is the real truth. But it doesn't mean that someone doesn't have the right to be upset about it. Everyone is afraid of death, not just in India but everywhere. I don't think Americans are not afraid of death or dying. I don't think they don't mourn the death of their loved ones. I assume that even they take care of their elderly parents, so I don't think there is anything wrong if they are given special attention.

Yes, we don't let our elders die when they are suffering because we can't bear to think of it. How can we leave someone with whom we have been since childhood to die? Yes, we are emotional, but every country has its own culture. In our culture, elders and children are always given the first preference. Yes, we change their diapers until they are alive and need it. But not everyone has the courage to force them to die. If this is the reason for us to be a developing country, then I wish this country always remains a developing country. At least, people will remain humans, I don't want a situation where a poor mother starts urinating on the bed and people give her a dignified death. I can't imagine that, and I think most of us cannot imagine that. If everyone could easily accept death and life, then everyone would be gods.

Lord Krishna who imparted the knowledge of the Bhagavad Gita to Arjun, when he himself was mourning the death of Abhimanyu, we are just normal human beings. How can we think about someone's death? Having emotions as a human is normal, and there is nothing wrong with it.

*Sorry if I have said something wrong; my intention was not to hurt anyone.

Originally posted by: IWasHareeshFan

I think you are talking about a small part of the country, because not every elderly person is abusive by nature. Most of them are loving and caring. If we start generalizing, it becomes a problem. What we see around us may be true, but it cannot be said that India is like that. If we look at it this way, my grandparents are very sweet. However, I cannot say that all grandparents in the country are equally good although I belong to this country only. India is a very large country. It might not be the largest, but it is large. We haven't seen the entire country, so we cannot say that all elderly people are naturally abusive, and most of the elderly are left helpless on a bed.

I agree that the show is regressive, and the elders portrayed in it are not worthy of anything. The lead actress in the show is way too regressive and deserves nothing. However, in real life, it is not the same every time. It doesn't mean that elders don't need care. Just as children need care, so do the elderly. When we were young, our parents took care of us because we couldn't take care of ourselves. But now that we are young and our parents have reached a stage where they need care, how can we abandon them?

I agree that life and death are a part of everyone's life, and it is the real truth. But it doesn't mean that someone doesn't have the right to be upset about it. Everyone is afraid of death, not just in India but everywhere. I don't think Americans are not afraid of death or dying. I don't think they don't mourn the death of their loved ones. I assume that even they take care of their elderly parents, so I don't think there is anything wrong if they are given special attention.

Yes, we don't let our elders die when they are suffering because we can't bear to think of it. How can we leave someone with whom we have been since childhood to die? Yes, we are emotional, but every country has its own culture. In our culture, elders and children are always given the first preference. Yes, we change their diapers until they are alive and need it. But not everyone has the courage to force them to die. If this is the reason for us to be a developing country, then I wish this country always remains a developing country. At least, people will remain humans, I don't want a situation where a poor mother starts urinating on the bed and people give her a dignified death. I can't imagine that, and I think most of us cannot imagine that. If everyone could easily accept death and life, then everyone would be gods.

Lord Krishna who imparted the knowledge of the Bhagavad Gita to Arjun, when he himself was mourning the death of Abhimanyu, we are just normal human beings. How can we think about someone's death? Having emotions as a human is normal, and there is nothing wrong with it.

*Sorry if I have said something wrong; my intention was not to hurt anyone.

Actually Bahan.... You don't get the memo! We Indians don't even know the meaning of abuse. Hamare dimag me agyanta bhari padi hai. Aur ham keval maar pitai (wo bhi bahut jyada ho tab), rape ko hi abuse samjhte hain.

Aap black and white me cheezo me dekh rahi. Sadly sabhi yahi karte hain.

Ek aur baat bata du, jo abuser hota hai, wah past me khud abused Raha hota hai. Abused se abuser banne ki Puri ek cycle hoti hai. Aur yaha koi ek group ka abuse nahi hota. India, children/women/elderly sabke sath abuse me no 1 country hai. It's a well documented fact. (Jabki govt records bahut fugde kiya hate hain, aur bahut purane definitions par chalte Hlhain)

Aur haan...Abuse ka nishana sab log nahi bante! [Mai ye to bilkul nahi kah rhi ki duniya me loving/people/wakai enlightened log nahi hai] mostly ghar ka sabse kamjor/insignificant sadasy abuse ka nishana banta hai, jiski log parwah tak nahi karte! Use jise andekha kiya jata hai. Jise "lok laaj" ke liye chup rahna padta hai. Jo kuch bole bhi to kisse bole? Aur wo khud bhi ise "Maine purva janm me paap Kiya" kahkar internalise karta hai. Kaun akela pure system se fight karne ki bevkufi karega?

Bahut Kam families hoti hain, jahan achha ya bura sabke saath same treatment hota ho!

Generally, differential treatment hota hai, aur jinke saath achha hota hai, wo apni duniya me magan rahte hain, wo apne bubble se bahar na cheezo ko dekhte hain/na dekhna chahte hain. Aur wo basically victim blaming ki mansikta ke ban jate hain. Wo samjhte hain ki samne wala "ye sab deserve karta hai!"

Dekhiye hi... Aap bhi sirf personal experience/perception/beliefs par baat kar rahi. Kisi data par bahut nahi.

Mai kyon bura manungi aapki ya kisi ki baat ki? Jab mai 20 saal se is field me ground work kar rhi? I mean I'm professional Social worker with specialization in Women centred practice and Currently, I'm pursuing advanced degree in mental health.

Even is detail se koi fark nahi padta. Log sirf apne opinions ko sahi mante hain.

Jo koi ye sochta hai ki wo apne Ghar parivar ke baare me sab janta hai, wo uski stupidity/arrogance ka to kya kahu!

Abuse ke kai form hote hain. Abhi duniya ke sabse advance desho aur tamam organisation ke set definition par nahi Jana hai to keval India ke law se hi dekh lo!

Yaha logo Domestic Violence ke against law ke bare me nhi pata. So jyadatar to bahut jyada educated women nahi bata pati ki domestic violence hai kya cheez!

Aur sabse less understood form of abuse hai: "emotional abuse" jo sabse jyada prevalent hota hai, damaging hota hai par nazar nahi aata.

We Indians are mostly incapable of separating "love" from "emotional abuse." Because both are mixed in our country.

Yahi to hai ki apne tunnel vision ke karan log sach ko alag alag tarah se dekhte hain.

Ghar/extended families me... Kisi bujurg/bachhe/aurat ke saath saalo saal abuse hota hai, we silently suffer karte hain. Koi notice nahi karta ya unhe Crazy/idiot/bigda hua samjhta hai.

Kai mard Nasha karne lag jate hain. Males ke saath abuse hota hai.... They often go to this route. Society has not made them to accept their vulnerability. They drink, they shout, they develop escapist tendencies.

Sorry, I didn't write this for you. Kyonki isse koi fayada nahi, na mujhe interest hai. Mere liye ye repeated conversation ka aakhiri point hai, jaha log isi tarah ki bachkani baate karte hain. And you have to either silently let go or make one long statement and end the conversation. (Depends on the situation).

Halat to ye hain.. Govt jab policy banati hai to ye sab dhyaan rakhkar policy design karti hai, ki majority of Indians ko to apne liye kya sahi hai, kya galat hai, wo tak nahi pata hota. Isliye unhe tamam incentive Dene padte hain, aise batana padta hai ki tumhare traditional values ke sath ye "project" compatible hai, ya tumhe hi loss hoga agar tumne so and so baat nahi maani!

Guess what... Female Feticide tak ki jang ham abhi tak lad rahe!

Aur marital rape ki baat to bahut dur thahri!!!

Ye sab etna detailed aur complex hai ki jise khud se inke Basics na pata ho to unhe samjhane ke liye Anupama ki tarah 5000 panno ka bhashan Dena hoga! Fir bhi khatm na hoga!

Over and out.

Social problems session court ke petty arguments se decide nahi hote. We hamare belief par depend nahi karte. Hamare experience tak limited nahi hote. Ham duniya ke sabse jyada populated country hai. 160 Crore ka 1% bhi bahut jyada hota hai. To Violence to majority ki beemari hai, to fir kitna jyada hoga!

oh, aap social worker hain, ab mujhe thoda thoda aapke aaisa sochne kaa reason samajh aaraha hai.

vaise ek social worker apne nazariye se dekhta hai sab cheezon ko, ek judge apne, ek lawyer apne and it goes on and on and on, shayad ho sakta hai ki jinke saath accha hota hai vo sari duniya ko accha samajh kar usme hi magan rehte haonge, at least I don't fall in that category, lekin ye bhi toh ho sakta hai ki jinke saath bura hota hai vo sari duniya ko bura hi samajhne lagte hain, I don't fall in this category as well.

aur aaisa nahi hai ki logon ko ye nahi pata ki unke saath galat ho raha hai ki nahi, lekin ye jo hum unke saamne different terms mei apni baat rakhte hain ye unhe nahi pata chalte, unko pata hai ki unko kisi baat kaa bura laga hai, but when we ask them ki what is mental abuse toh vo nahi bata sakte, lekin iska matlab ye nahi ki unhe nahi pata hoga.

haan, unhe domestic violence ke against law hai ye nahi pata hoga, lekin zyadatar logon ko ye pata hai ki agar aaisa ho toh police ke paas jana hota hai, shayad 20-30 saal nahi pata hoga, lekin ab log samajhne lage hain.

baaki aapne kaha ki sab ke paas ek tunnel vision hai aur log apna apna sach ussi se dekhte hain, ye mere saath bhi ho sakta hai aur aapke saath bhi.

aur hum govt websites par trust nahi karenge, kisi par trust nahi karenge toh karenge kis par, zyadatar NGOs vagera ki research broad nahi hoti hai (sabki nahi lekin bohot saro ki nhi hoti) toh hum aaise toh un par bhi trust nahi kar sakte naa.

baaki sabka apna apna opinion hota hai.

vaise developed countries mei jahan logon ko har type ke abuse ke bare mei pata hai udhar kaunsa sab khush hi reh rahe hain

End me wahi hota hai.

Fact A, Fact B, Fact C...etc par (jo ek aadmi ki man ke hisab se nahin chalta.. jo simply reasearch findings hoti hain) baat na karke opinions/personal feelings par baat hoti hai.

Yahi tunnel vision hai. Fact kisi ke emotions ki kadra nahi karta. Ye yu hi nahi hota ki jo log is field me decades Tak kaam kar lete hain, wo ya to bahut depressed ho jate hain ya stoic!

Anyway. That's a boring scenario. Happens all the time. Not interested in engaging with something that is the issue of literally everyday!?

Feelings/thought ke basis par log Census ko bhi reject kar dete hain. Ab koi kya kahe, kya kare, kya soche!

Gopi Vahu ki laptop dhone wali duniya hi thik hai.