Hey All,
I haven't been active in IF for ages, when I came back to IF thanks Anupama. I used to read posts on 'Anujs Blind Loved', cannot speak about others POV and I don't see it as not Blind love but Organic Love - speaking for self.
First Love can be Infatuation, intimacy - physical/emotional and wanting to know other person. In college Anuj was around her noticing and observing Anu, her behaviors and values (taking his personality into consideration it is more than infatuation) It was late 75's and 80's, traditions were given more importance than individuality and it was not a easy time especially with name callings, arguments (I was an early 80's headstrong kid). He never crossed line and wanted to spend life with the girl of his dream. Never chased or threatened, went in a respectful manner. During her engagement and after Anu's wedding he prioritized her happiness and backed off (you love someone you let them go). Yes, he let her go and not that he became Devdas or Kabir Singh, he kept his love locked away and always gave second chances in his life - Dating, Having GF and ONS, he just couldn't forget his first love didnt want to wrong other partner hence he did not marry, how is it blind love?? It was practical, selfless just like in real arranged marriages I have seen people still remembering old flames and adjusting to marriage life, part of heart/love/memories hard to let them go. If I talk about Anu didnt she makeup her families love for the lack of husbands??
Even when Anuj returned he was clear in having no Hopes, was practical. He also saw her immediately as strong, independent and full of potential women, even before he offered her the job, that is why he offered shares without hesitation not caz she is his love interest or friend. That is how some organizations support startup companies (Trust, Equality, Freedom, Balancing Responsibilites in business esp the ones who invest) I laugh when ppl are like oh blind love or yada yada. He offered Freedom, Responsibility, Equality to Mukku, when you give Responsibility to Someone you Trust especially when you know They Are Able to Fly. He did that with both Anu and Mukku. He left Mukku everything both for his own Love, and for sister to grow and see how she is being misleading as she isnt listening and when words don't work, action have to be taken.
Every interaction with her was a balance/struggle of Love, Friendship, Trust, Respect and Boundaries. Hr valued Friendship more than anything (god I miss those days of Friendships).
Anuj's Boundaries, Tolerance, and Balance in Relationships/Business are Crazy Good which is Never Shown in TV, and that is why I adore the ckt, as he is Realistic and Practical, if Anu and Anuj both Balance Relationships different based on Personal Values and learning from each other and balancing the lack of relationships/individuality in each other. Love it. Isn't that is what relationship is?? Balancing, Respecting each others values without imposing or interfering, unless it reaches a threshold. Though he knows sometimes it is not okay with things in her life, he only said things when he knew she needed push or is open to think in different way, as he knows strength, change comes from inside and boundaries are as important as relationships.
His love for her was never Blind, it is Balanced, Logical Practical, Respected one. He knew Anu is not going to give up her toxic relationships overnight, it will be done in slow steps that is why he was around to support and telling her to see reality in small doses. How Marriages and Relationships should be, esp when marriages foundation is Communication, Respect, Friendship and Trust. Whenever he stood for her, he was Logical/Practical when he shoved reality in peoples faces.
Ill probably add more later on..
Kyunki Saas Bhi Kabhi Bahu Thi 2
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