Adoption harakiri

Adoption is indeed a nobel task and God blesses those who adopt orphans. But the adoption in anupama serial is in total mess. Anuj wanted to adopt and anupama agreed. But they could have told atleast anus 3 kids that they are adopting a child.

But i do not blame anuj fear of informing Shahs or ankush and company before hand. Anuj has faced humiliation and toxic reactions of Shahs always even when not at fault. The way vanraj snatched kapadia empire from him by using his own sister as weapon. How can anuj than allow anupama to tell that same Shahs, hes scared they may wreck his plan they may fill anupama ears against adoption by putting pressure from his 3 kids. And auj is right in his thinking too because Shahs are truly toxic. I thought atleast Samar will accept little anu but this new Samar after anuj married anu baffles me. Hes getting colored in his fathers color slowly like toshu and pakhi.

The surprise reaction was Kavyas she genuinely welcomed the little kid and made her feel welcome. So did bapuji and mamaji. But others reaction was not good. I never thought kinjal and Samar will behave like this with little anus home coming. Imagine a little 6 year old comes home even an enemy will talk nicely to that kid and behave nicely in front of her. But here Mahabharat started at Shahs home.

I understand anupama 3 kids insecurity first father had affair with kavya married her than anu married anuj now anuj has a new child. Its the kane able rivarly that goes on or like those mugha brothers born to different moms vying for throne. Shahs situation is same more the kids more smaller the pie that each child will get from kapadia empire. Now many people are saying why should anuj give his empire share and property to toshu, pakhi and samar. But dare anuj inform anupama or shahs that your 3 kids will not get my wealth than they will all show their true nature to him. Without saying only they are so misbehaving with kapadias imagine if they say.

As per Shahs Rakhis wealth and Anuj empire is theirs after Rakhi and anuj death. Now a 4th competitor has come so instead of getting 33% each they will get only 25% each lesser pie of his wealth after anuj death which is tragic obliviously from all Shahs point of view. Who will fulfill pakhis USA dreams, toshu business ownership dreams, Samar dance academy all over world dreams if not anuj kapadia. On own they are incapable of anything they know it. I think for his wealth only toshu and pakhi accepted to go to maan wedding they want to keep her and anuj in good books.

Everyone completely forget that Kapadia empire belongs to Malvika parents and the properties are her parents too. So she has to get atleast 50% of everything if not more. Even anuj convinently forgot this and gave all to anupama 100% and after anupama it obivously would go to toshu, pakhi and samar as anuj had no kids. Now this little anu threw spanner in all Shahs dreams of future of becoming CEO, MD and 33% owners of shares and millionaires.

Adhik and Narkha and Ankush are also as shrewd as Shahs and after anuj and kapadia business and wealth only. I am not sure why anuj does not cut off Shahs and ankush and stay with anupama, GK and little anu and mukku as his family like he did for 45 years. Anupama kids can visit her at her home or at hotels etc wherever. Anuj himself is complicating matters for future. 45 is not too young to write a will and give to Mukku 50% and himself 50% that will go to little anu after his death. He can give few crores to each Shah kid as gift and end this issue. With ankush he just has to say i want to live with my family please shift to another home. How tough is it to say that or may be call Mukku tell her to say that if you want to look good in ankush and family eyes.

Another entitle lad is kinjal madam. Our parents let us do home work ourself did not even help in that after 3rd std or 4th std. Here at 27 years kinjal want anupama help to take care of her child. Oh really ocassional like few hours ok why should anupama or anuj take care of toshu kinjal baby full time etc. What sort of entitled attitude is this of toshu and kinjal and vanraj that they want anupama 24/7 in duty of kinjal baby. Go to Rakhi shes kinjal mom ready to take care.

I know anuj did wrong by not informing Shahs and anukush etc. but hes very right because of the reactions. No one cares for that baby they only are interested in anuj wealth that will come thru anupama. So anuj thought may be if anupama tells Shahs her so called mayka may emotionally blackmail her against this decision and hence told her off. Same for kapadias from his side he did not tell his relatives too.

For those saying little anu is samar, toshu and pakhi sibling not really we know many siblngs from step parents they only interact in festival or birthdays. Rest 360 days they are at their home without much interaction with step siblings. So if anupama kids do not like little anu let her stay away from them. Why force them on each other? Only special ocassion they can meet. So many siblings have rivalary and do not like each other or relatives they are cordial not close. Little anu can also stay away except if the 3 kids want. Why such issues?

They are not showing adoption track from little anu point of view at all her fear insecurity to meet new relatives their acceptance or anger etc nothing. Only Shahs reaction and elders reaction taken into account here. Why?

Anuj should shift his brother's family to another house. The kid should never be taken to Shah house. Anu should clearly tell KinTosh that she will come to meet their child once a week and play with it. She won't take any responsibility. MaAn should spend as much time as possible with the kid to form a bond. Their first priority should be their kid not other family members. Anu should stop worrying about her grown up children 24/7.

I don't think there is a problem with the Adoption track itself.

The problem is in it's treatment and the preludes.

Every person yearns for kids if their own (doesn't matter biological or through adoption). Anuj or Kavya are no different and that's perfectly right. Raising a child is a blessing, the means doesn't matter.

In the show, they have set some precedents and notions (if that's the right word. In Hindi, it would probably be called: dharanayein) which are problematic and conflicting.

1. Treatment of Anuj v/s Treatment of Kavya:

Acceptance of a step-dad but ignoring Kavya as an existent resident of the house.

She had expressed willingness to raise a child or have a child of her own, none of which was even regarded.

She is fit to bear a child, she has expressed on multiple occasions but was outright discarded. Adoption could have been an option for her too.

There is only one Maa - Anupama is in itself problematic.

2. Perceptions of Working mothers:

Now there is Choti Anu in Kapadia house, I am guessing Anupama will be a full time, stay-at-home mom and give up Dance Academy and Kapadia Business, right?

AfterALL, she would not want to hear one day from Choti Anu that my mother-in-law or anyone else i have known from a few months is a better mom because even though you raised me but did not give me time because of you "balancing" dance academy, business, Shah kids and grand kids just like what Kinjal keeps ranting about.

And what is our opinion of Dolly, she is a working mother too. And Meenu may still be a teenager, isnt it? How come none talks of that.

For that matter, I am sure Kinjal would not want to make the same mistake as Rakhi Dave, right? Kinjal too plans to call it quits to her career?

Then that's a big problem, Shah house runs on Samar managing the dance academy alone?

3. Family dynamics:

There is so much water under the bridge that it is stagnating to a point of no return.

While the position itself (of adopting choti Anu and hiding it from family) may be justified and correct but their justifications and arguments hold no ground.

Anuj to Kapadias:

I hid the matter with you because you hid your bankruptcy with us?

How are they even the same? That makes you no different to them who you claim to be holier than thou.

Anupama to Barkha:

We will raise choti Anu just how your mother and you raised Adhik?

Again how is this relevant? Why are you bringing a third person from a different generation into the current scenario? Are you trying to taunt them? Well, closer home were Anuj and Mukku, isn't it?

Besides, it was their siblings Barkha and by his own admission Anuj that raised them after their parents. So, is she pre-empting that her step-siblings will care for her?

Until priorities are set right and things cleared, I mean crystal clear conversations especially related to Pakhi-Adhik, property division, her roles and responsibilities definition especially related to Shahs etc., the issues will not get any better.

Guys, guys - this is just a serial.

. they don't reflect the adoption situation properly at all

. they don't bring out positive vibes about MaAn's relationship like in the beginning

. they are stuck in the toxicness of the whole story

. they have lost the plot a long time ago

JUST ENJOY RUPALI'S & GAURAV'S superb ACTING - and the hard work of the rest and the crew.

And live happily ever after 😃

Correction:

The MaAn vibes REMAIN nice and positive.

It's just that the storymakers have piled complication upon complication, so their relationship has been made dependent on and affected by whatever people and reactions surround them, inundating the couple as it were. Thereby confusing our views of them

But in the end, one just can't help continue loving them 🤗

Ofcourse it is for the sheer screen presence and the appreciation of the actors that we continue to watch even after numerous rants😆.

The issue lies with the characters and what is being portrayed. It has No bearing whatsoever on the individuals/actors.

Media being a potent force in terms of reach, has a big and influential role. Not sure how good it is showing these ideals and notions.