Yes, today i totally understand and believe in Shah kids being totally Sankaari - Toshu and Pakhi being the best.
In Ravivaar with Shah Parivaar, Anu again bragged about Shah family being the most Sanskaari family on earth. And damn, she made me think so hard, der se hi sahi but finally mera bulb jal gaya..
Anu is the epitome of Sanskaar, Adarsh Nari, a Devi herself. So how she behaves is the right definition of Sanskaari and nothing else. Period.
She invited her own mother as guest in her marriage, gave Baa her MIL the highest pedestal and put her name on her Mehndi and in a way made Anuj also do the same. Toshu is perfect son of his perfect mother - he forgot Anu during his ring ceremony and puts Rakhi his MIL on the highest pedestal. Look closely, both Mother-Son behave like clones when it comes to treatment uff worship for mother and MIL. For Anu, Vanraj was achcha pati before EMA, he used to earn but never gave any support to his wife ever. Toshu is doing same, he is also focusing on his career and earning money, he doesn't need to support his pregnant wife in any other way. Both mother and son, believe in same ideologies.
Anu believes in patriarchy and give highest regards to Bapuji. After all, he used to earn and bring money; how he raises his children or supports family, doesn't matter. Looking back, I can still think of situation where even though temporary she has refuse or replied back to Baa. But but but Bapuji, never ever, no matter what he demands, she happily obliges. And Pakhi is papa's princess who also believes her father is best and see's no fault in him. She blamed Anu for breaking her family, happily accepted Kavya and wanted Anu to stay forever in SH. She only thinks of her mother when she needs her. And when did Anu think of her own mother, when she was thrown out of SH after character assassination and had no place to stay, so with full-on haq she went to Kanta but later only thinks/worships about Baa. Again Like Mother Like Daughter perfect clone. Anu only remembers Bhavesh during rakhi and bhai duj, Pakhi also doesn't think much about Samar. And you bet, after marriage Pakhi will not think ever about Anu but worship her MIL. see, such a sanskaari daughter.
Alas, in all this I am disappointed with Samar, am sure now under Vanraj's guidance he too will soon become the perfect beta. So, from day 1 of serial, the most sanskaari family knew their kids so well and praised them accordingly - Toshu, Pakhi always got the well deserved praises and Samar was reprimanded to mend his ways by everyone including Anu, who kept telling him to give respect to his father.
Last but not the least is Kinjal, is she not the most Sanskaari bahu ever, she is Choti Anupama. Forgets her mother but worships her MIL as God. Will stand by her husband and leave only if he has an EMA, otherwise, never ever, Toshu is most Sanskaari achcha beta, pati and pita. She too looks upto Vanraj as achcha insaan/pita/beta just like Anupama does.
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Not tagging anyone, just felt posting something which was on my mind.
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