Divorce and its affects

The show is touching upon various aspects of divorce and how it affects diff ppl including the involved couple..

Anupamaa household is like any other family u see around.. in every divorce the woman has to go through too many outsiders advice , family advices..someone ppl dont realise that the one who goes through the pain only knows how it feels.. others will always feel that divorce is not a good idea.. they never empathise that noone in their sane mind will go to an extent of divorce if they dont feel hurt cheated and defeated in a marriage.. and it most commonly the woman who is expected to understand..they showed that very well with anupamaa..

Next comes the affects on the kids.. here there are 3.. one who is in support, one who is not in support and one who is too young to understand wether to support or not.. the grown ups dont have to go through custodial battles and they r matured enough to take sides.. pakhi being the minor will have to face her dilemma.. and no kids want to see a separated parent..its very very hard and I know that very well with experience.. if the kid is younger somehow it's easier but someone in pakhi age can become extremely depressed and heart broken..guess the spoiler of suicide will cover her dilemma..

Samar and toshu r in their respective stands which makes sense as kids can either be with or against such decisions..

Coming to what's left.. is how ppl around u take a divorce.. we haven't seen that as yet wether anu faces issues at work with other teachers or ppl living around with the tag of being a divorcee..

Anu and vanraj is over.. they can never unite as a couple any more.. but they have rights to happiness.. vanraj chose his with kavya.. anu also has the same right to choose a life partner again.. learn to love again.. the dilemma comes with age .. which is again a issue in the todays world where ppl wanting to love and marry in older age is considered taboo.. like all other topics hope makers work on this well..

Coming to vanraj.. he and anu married but never fell in love.. they did their duties as a couple for family.. its time they rekindle a relationship they never made.. and that is friendship..

Coming to kavya.. I dont know why the makers are so inconsistent with her character.. sometimes she is very matured and most other times a brainless vamp.. but vanraj and her relationship needs a closure.. vanraj sure wont be happy with her and it's not because she is bad it's because he has very different and difficult expectations from wife.. vanraj will also have huge issues with anu falling in love again or marrying someone.. vanraj ego has a lot to go through until it's broken completely and changes him for good..

Sorry for my rattle.. ur views please.

even i would love to see friendship between vanraj and anupama where vanraj give her respect the respect he never give her as wife and take care of her as friend which he never did as husband moreover as u said they cant be couple anymore i agree with you in this specially from anupama side its really hard for her to believe vanraj again

"shaadi wale din apne ideal husband ko kisi aur ke saath dekhna its the worst nightmare for any women"

Anupama almost have nerves breakdown after he come to know about vanraj and kavya affair

idk about vanraj whether he deserve to be happy or not because he choose kavya for him then deal with it

but yes kind hearted , polite, caring and loving anupama defo deserve to be happy

according to society norms u cant marry at Anupama age ? why because its against of society norms even if your life get better and happier

every one have right to be happy at any age why in all culture make age such an big issue

at this age u have marry

at this age u have to study

at this age u have to have kids

age..age..age

where this age didnt apply to men this apply only to women wow what a double standard is it

ps: let talk how divorce effect kids

its defo effect kids on the large scale where u have " ek dar"

whether ur step mom as good as ur own mom? whether step mom takecare of u as ur own mom ?

i never support pakhi attitude in the show becoz most of times she do too much but her scare of divorce is justify

Any relationship to thrive requires understanding , respect and love. Fear, condescension and insults break it.

When vanraj was in the first 17 years of marriage had none of the required aspects and Baabayaga had only fed Vanrajs ego and spared no effort in taunting and humiliating Anupama. Vanraj at every stage acted superior and looked down on Anupama.

Bapujee was the one who gave Anupama respect.

Children learn from what they see. Toshu chose to see his papa as hero , Pakhi chose to see herself as the centre of everyone's attention and Samar chose to see his Cool Dude and Superstar as ideals.

The three children are so influenced by the perspectives they choose. In a large joint family each had created a comfort zone and happy circle that they could do without missing the other.

As they grew they all started acting in the values they learnt from their ideals and began treating others the way they saw their ideals treating others.

The fantasy world they built and lived in came crashing when other active players stepped in. Kavya, Rakhee and Kinjal and Nandini. They started influencing the thought process of the family. Pakhee saw in kavya all that she perceived as missing in her mom...her style, her language her ability to influence her father. Hence she concluded she was her Bestie.

Paritosh found riding piggy back on the Dave's an easy option though he may have fallen in love genuinely .

Samar like Anupama had been ridiculed by his dad seeing how Anupama faced her humiliation chose that route of facing life.

Arrive Nandini Kinjal kavya and Rakhee the kids see a replacement of attention . Pakhi sees she has to share the attention of her mother with Kinjal, her father's with Kavya.

The family has never given too much attention to dialogue and explaining the thought process that shaped their actions.

Vanraj as bread winner and Anupama as care giver left no stone unturned and the children saw what they got but we're in the dark how it came about. Paritosh saw the 5 lakh bonus but not how his dad earned it.

Vanraj took his role as provider and since he put in hard work concluded that he was the cynosure of all eyes and Dholakia would be blind to his short comings like Baabayaga.

The affair though it brought the issue up Paki and Toshu like Baabayaga saw that it is no big deal as long as their life moved on as before.

They fail to see the altered situation as they are in denial that papa can never be wrong and mummy like the taunts and insults must swallow her pride and let their paradise be.

It is not about the reasons of and for the divorce that matters to them as long as they got what they wanted.

Though there is no trauma of custody it is a drama of values and ethics and what is wrong and who is the wronged. They are only in the I me, mine phase. When they like Samar see what cross the others carry to have given them the life they had and how to move forward the script will change.

Divorce ka effect person ki individual mentality , family background aur requirement ke aadhaar pe hota hai

Divorce ka effect clearly diference kavya ka ghar aur shah ke ghar mein dekha jaa sakta hai kyonki dono jagah ki requirement different hai

Jahaan kavya bilkul sad nahin divorce ko le kar kyonki uski requirement doosri hai where shah family ki mix reaction hai about divorce kyonki sabki requirement aur mentality alag hai