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Dear fellow I-f ... um.. members, i guess.

If even one person can ACTUALLY help me with this. I will be... just like relieved.

In year 5, there was this guy I liked in school. I didnt actually LIKE LIKE him, I think i just wanted him to like me. Most guys by then did like me, but that was because I was the 'foreigner girl', the girl from 'Australia'. Little did I know, so did this guy. I didnt flirt with him or anything. Id just pass him purposely and get him thinking about me. After a while, i had to sit next to him. And that was the most stressing day of my life. Keep in mind I did not like this guy. He said he wanted me to be best friends with him and do that you know that thing you do with two fingers that means like u have a 'dosti' with them. And i was like, ok... what ever, do u like my friend or something. And then he went on to say that he likes me and that, I can kiss him if i want to. >.< I skipped a grade in year two so I was like 8 or something and I totally wasn't expecting it. Luckily he was easy to avoid.

Later, in my 'appartment' friends... being the y'kno 'AUSTRALIAN' girl the most popular guy in my appartment 'announced' he liked me when it was so obvious he didnt, he only wanted the attention of the 'aussie girl'... apparently it was only obvious to me.

Ever since, I've felt like thats all I am. Like I love Pakistan and india, but if i go there... all people think is shes from outside, we should hook up with her or something. And I know those guys are actually really awesome. theyre funny, cheeky and pretty nice and if we didnt have this girl/boy barrier that they made, we would be like best friends!

Im going back to pakistan around christmas, and I really dont know what to do. They're gonna be flirting with me and all of my girlfriends but all I keep thinking is it would be SOOO awesome, if we could all be friends... it actually kind of kills me. Why do they think of me and my Paki girls as just girls to go out with and flirt... theres nothing wrong with that, dont get me wrong. But some girls can be VERY good friends too. We'd be rocking the appartment down if we were a team.

AAAAAAAH this is... EATING ME ALIVE. I JUST wanna be friends with them but I know its soo not gonna happen. And I know theres other people out there with the EXACT SAME problem...

ohh thats a crutial problem.....

Sadly sometimes you can not do much about this, yes been in this situation, guys stare like they have never seen a girl before, sadly this goes on lots.

My own family guys do this, which is jst 🤢 simply because we are from 'outside'.

And yeah tbh all i did was ignore it, rumours stil go around and stuff, nothing u can do abt it. If you want to b friend , make ur intentions clear maybe. but sometimes for them Just friendship is never a possibility. 😳

Well my advise just ignore them and dont become parnoid.

Originally posted by: anon

Sadly sometimes you can not do much about this, yes been in this situation, guys stare like they have never seen a girl before, sadly this goes on lots.

My own family guys do this, which is jst 🤢 simply because we are from 'outside'.

And yeah tbh all i did was ignore it, rumours stil go around and stuff, nothing u can do abt it. If you want to b friend , make ur intentions clear maybe. but sometimes for them Just friendship is never a possibility. 😳

I soo agree. Theres like this invisible rule ''Guys and girls cant be friends''... its very dissapointing =[

i htnk u shud tok wid dese guys openly dat u r bored wid dem...n dat u cant go otu wid all of dme at asmae time....n it wil b best if u can live as best frnds....tel dem

Woah, i cant imagine that.
Just going near them... and they're silly wolf whistling.

But honestly speaking, its worth a try...

if dey r so ill-behaved let ne fo ur frnds do d tokin...

Yeah I really do not get such culture attitudes where guys and girls can not be friends, but truth is in places to what i have experienced, this is the case and what they have been brought up in that, that there HAS to be something goin on. I do not agree, as living in england, this is very much opposite, having many friends of ither gender is the norm. but sorry its what they have been brought up to belive, as in Pak, some families are strict and do not like either sex mixing wioh each other, and so if you do mix with guys then of course something has to b goin on 😳 .

Its all prejudice view 😳

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Yeah... or else you're considered like... evil or something or too forward..

Thats it, Im gonna make a change xD!