Help Needed - Please!

Thank everyone for opening up this topic. I need advice urgently. A friend of mine is extremely hurt because of many reasons. Previously in her life, she was betrayed and heart broken many times by the ones she really trusted. She came to my school, and everything seemed to be going great when things started repeating. She's very hurt and wondering why this is always happening to her. I told her that they aren't worth it, but she keeps thinking about them.

Originally posted by: MusicalAiswarya

Thank everyone for opening up this topic. I need advice urgently. A friend of mine is extremely hurt because of many reasons. Previously in her life, she was betrayed and heart broken many times by the ones she really trusted. She came to my school, and everything seemed to be going great when things started repeating. She's very hurt and wondering why this is always happening to her. I told her that they aren't worth it, but she keeps thinking about them.

Any advice on how to console her? Something that will really help her?

Thanks in advance,

Aiswarya

Aish may be she builts up a trust for everyone very easily ...I have same problem ....
I think its time she needs a really great friend who can reinstate her trust ..she seems to be lacking self confidence after so many betrayals ....

its always easier to say dont think abt those ppl or they are not worth it ..but harder to follow .... One thing she can do to avoid such situations is stop talking abt her pasts to anyone which will help her reinstate her confidence in herself .

one thing you can do to console her is to be there for her .

Im suffereing from same so cant advice much 😕 but this is what im trying to follow

Thanks liril! I really appreciate it! I'll try that, and wish you the best.

I can understand, Aish, what she's going through because I've gone through the same thing.

I used to trust people really easily and they will end up betraying my trust... I hated that so much. Although it took a few heart breaks, but I ultimately ended up not trusting others so easily. I keep my space now and test people before trusting them blindly. It's well worth it!

At this point, I'm not sure if you can do much besides being with her. Time is a great healer. It's very true and I'm sure eventually she will realize that they were not worth it. Give her some time to overcome the heartbreak and soon she'll be fine.

But do caution her for being not so hasty in trusting others. It does hurt a lot especially when you yourself have been very trustworthy and helpful.

-Mahi

Thanks Mahi.

You're most welcome, Aish, and if my advice can help someone, then the time's well worth it!

Well, I guess life teaches you a lot, and it did me a lot as well. It hurts the most when people closest to you break your trust and your heart... and it's unrepairable... They say it's good to forgive but best to forget, but anyone can forgive but not forget after all the pain. Anyway, sorry for going off topic.

-Mahi

acc. it will b hard 4 her now 2 trust ny1 even
i dont know how will console her
i thot m a gud aviser as frnds say but diz time i relly dont know wht 2 speak...
but den 2 jus mak her ealize dat u r alwyz der wid her & wont eva go away 4m her & start crackin jokes in a normal way make her feel a bit special datz it 4m ma side

I go through the samething too.....when i was younger, i used to trust everyone very easily but now I think twice before trusting them......i never share my secrets with them but talk to them about general stuff......i always did had a trusting issue but now i seem to manage it better.....not sure if this would help her as she appears to trust everybody easily.