Change for someone- advice needed

You know, Love has to be the most sweetest thing in the world. Like, there are many different kinds of love. Love between Parent and Child, Romantic love, friendship love, and sweet stranger just smiling at you love.

^^ Great advice Rebeliouskid

Originally posted by: Rebeliouskid

You know, Love has to be the most sweetest thing in the world. Like, there are many different kinds of love. Love between Parent and Child, Romantic love, friendship love, and sweet stranger just smiling at you love.

When you think about it, we make soo many mistakes, and we are soo imperfect, but still our parents love us unconditionally. Thats the power of love. To love someone looking beyond their mistakes and imperfections.yeah coz they truly love you , so in romantic relations shudnt it be the same .......

There might be a lot of bad qualities in a person; But, if you tell that person about it, like frankly but nicely talking to them about it, then that person might change. And vice versa. Some habits might automatically change if your with a person. And some may not. I guess you have to just go around the bend, ykno? i have little concerns about difference in the thinking ..one person might believe in one thing ..u know general beliefs abt life ..and physcological beliefs .... and other might not ... so shud they change their thinking as well for the other person ?

I dont think a person should change for the person they love. Like whether its to impress a person, or they just think that maybe that other person wouldnt like them if they were themself.

When you get married to that person, eventually the truth will come out. You cant be someone your not for the rest of your life, can you? Then what is that person going to do? So, its better to be your self throughout the whole relationship. And genuinely let everything happen. Let you both fix problems that you have according to how you both are.

If you think there is something wrong with you, not counting what other people think, just how you feel, then go ahead. You can change your self. But dont do it for someone else, because in the end, its you who has to deal with it. You cant just lock your self up forever.

Originally posted by: liril

that was a great advice rebellious kid

A change for good should be voluntary.. u should not be forced to change and u should never force sum1 to change .. with love and any relationship, compromise is necessary, only if its for the good though ..

If u don't like something about sum1 u love and its hard for u to except that quality then tell them, don't ask for a change, ask for understanding of ur feelings and ask them to improve for ur relationship .. on the other hand if it's a quality u can live with then do so as no 1's perfect.

Now on the same note – if sum1 u love wants u to change something about urself then I guess u havta ask urself - will this change affect who I m and what I believe in , if yes, be honest with the loved 1… if u think u can at least try to make a change for the sake of ur loved 1 then its worth giving it a shot.

Sayings like u shouldn't change for any1 or u shouldn't change any1 does not apply to every person & situation .. u have to weigh the importance of that change with how it will affect u, ur loved 1 and ur relationship.

Main point is that u have to be honest about your own feelings.

if you love someone soo much and your love is pure then im sure u dont care about a few little things dont change who you are because wen u re in love im sure it wont matter

Change is inevitable. Some point in life both of you will always be changing, hopefully for the better for each other.