a typical position--need advice

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Aditi

@~devi~

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Posted: 16 years ago

okay...so i feel like i am in an Indian serial or something😆
Why?

Because...well....there is this guy i really like but he is the schools most popular guy, he is a major jock and the star of the basketball team, while i am the "nerd" of the school.

But he is really smart too, thats why we are in the same classes. But its his personality that impresses me the most, and so, here is my dilema:

I like him but he probably doesn't like me. Also, i think he has several girlfriends or at least one (he's always hugging girls in the hallways), and i am no where near pretty enough for him (or at least...thats what i think)

But he does notice me, and he does talk to me...occasionally. Recently when i fractured my ankle, he was really really really nice to me and i was so...carried all my books for me, helped me down the stairs...carried a broken house up the stairs for me....aye hai...😍

but now i am beginning to feel that he is this way with everyone...🤔

Other problems I am facing:

Two other guys like me. And one just happens to be the guy that i like's opponent. They certainly do not like each other and i don't like him either, but i don't know how to let him know that i don't like him the same way.

The other guy irritates me like crazy and my best friend has a crush on him, so i would never want to loose her, especially for this guy who i don't like at all.

So, can you all try to give me some advice? Do you think he likes me? What do you think would be best for me to do? How do i lay off those guys without hurting them? Please help me😳

Edited by ~devi~ - 16 years ago

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@dream

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Posted: 16 years ago

Ohooo....what a situation!!...well speaking abt those 2 guys who likes u..i think just ignore them & dont shw much interest while talking to them, they'll und that u dnt like them.. & the guy whom u likes seems really like ekta kapoor's shw's hero..hehe..well if he has gfs then do u still wana be with him..i mean personally speaking i wnt prefer dat fr myself..anyways i think u should be a good frnd of him..start talking abt casual class stuff or even sports & i believe everything starts frm frndship..if nt luv then he can be a gud frnd..so all da best!

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Mahi

@-Mystery-

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Posted: 16 years ago

Ok, here's an interesting situation.

For all of your dilemma - I'd say just talk it out. It usually helps a whole lot more than one thinks!

The two guys that like you - have they told you? If they have, say no up front if you drag it then they'll feel as if you're interested even if you are not. And that's a bad sign. If they haven't told you yet and you got to know it from others then it's possible that it's not true at all. Maybe they just like you as friends and it's all coming from people's interpretations. Or chances are that they do like you but since they have said anything personally then just ignore them and eventually they'll understand that you are not at all interested.

Now about the guy you like. You see guys are very weird. The more you run after them, they more they run away from you. Especially the popular guys. Girls are always running after them that they get used to it and they don't respect those girls either. But a girl who has self respect and just be herself even if she's around the coolest dude is respected by all guys and maybe that's what he likes about you.

I'd say wait for some more time and observe his behavior with you. Does he give your any hints when he talks to you? Do you see him looking at you frequently during lectures, classes etc.? And after subtle hints you can tell him your feelings.

From what you've said he seems like a nice guy - always helping and all but if he has several girlfriends then he's not worth it. If he can't respect his girlfriend then he can't respect you either. But maybe all those girls are just his friends.

I hope you come out of this dilemma soon. All the best!

-Mahi

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@AsliiGuy

Dazzler

Posted: 16 years ago

wow nice story!

I think the above advice is good,

the sports guy could be a really nice guy inside, but bc of his status, he could be stero typed (i..e bc hes popular he might have several gfs etc..)..He seems to be really nice if he helped you..

my best advice, get to know him a little more,

maybe you can play sports with him, or ask for "tutoring" in a sport bc u will be trying out for it? just an idea 😊

all the best,

"You see guys are very weird. The more you run after them, they more they run away from you."

Haha Mahii..good1, but i think that 1 goes both ways...lol..But probably more for guys...

I would give a girl a chance if she really liked me, i have in the past and it ended up not working (i was younger tho😊)...But i think its nice,

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Mahi

@-Mystery-

Stunner

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Posted: 16 years ago

Originally posted by: AsliiGuy
"You see guys are very weird. The more you run after them, they more they run away from you."

Haha Mahii..good1, but i think that 1 goes both ways...lol..But probably more for guys...

I would give a girl a chance if she really liked me, i have in the past and it ended up not working (i was younger tho😊)...But i think its nice,

I definitely agree. It's a human nature. When someone's giving us too much attention we don't see their worth and take them for granted. But it's when we want attention but we are not given it that we start to value the person and realize their true worth.

Also, if you keep running after a person who doesn't value you at all then your self respect is sort of at stake and no one would want that. The person you're running after would also like someone with great self respect, not someone who's losing it by doing strange things.

-Mahi

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Nisha

@Nisha.Z

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Posted: 16 years ago

i think that first you should let the other guys know how you feel and that you're not leading them on, and you really can't tell if he does like you he may have been just being nice to you since you hurt yourself. I think that you should first talk to him get to know and be friends with him, because it seems like he may see you as just a friend right now.

hope that helps

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lovepreet

@pearls1124

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Posted: 16 years ago

i also think that he just likes u as friend though.....

i think u should tell the other 2 guys that u don't like em if they talk 2 u about it or something but ya all can be friends with each other.........

bt that guy the 1 u like --- i think u should become really good friend of him and then say that can i ask u something if u don't mind????

he'll probably be like sure --- then just ask if he likes someone or whatever u wanna find out about it........... bt make sure that he doesn't find out that u have any kind of feelings for him b/c then some times the person acts different once they know that u like them......................

I hope it helped though.........

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Aditi

@~devi~

Inactive

Posted: 16 years ago

Thank you for your advice every one. I truly appreciate it.
You guys have certainly advised me and given me a few paths to consider. I think i have discovered my own take on it, but i couldn't have done it without all of you.
Thank you.🤗

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